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Jan 11

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” – Naguib Mahfouz There are certain situations where you have a lot of time and opportunities to get to know someone. Maybe you’re hanging out an entire evening with friends and you get

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Dec 2

When she wants love, my cat curls up into a fetal position, exposes her underbelly and meows. It’s adorable. Makes me want to cuddle her. My cat is making herself physically vulnerable to me. She is acting submissive in order to get me to show affection. She is acting exposed. There is a natural tendency

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Jul 6

Sometimes you meet a woman who seems to have a very exciting life. Perhaps she’s young and likes to party. Or she rubs elbows with famous people. Or she’s very successful at what she does. And in a lot of ways it seems impossible to compete. A few weeks ago I met a girl at

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Apr 7

One of the most challenging aspects of connecting with a woman is making yourself vulnerable to her. It is one of the things we focus on. In workshops, we teach guys how to walk up to a woman, how to stand when talking to her and a myriad of other body language skills. This stuff

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Sep 29

I’m in a conversation with her. I had so much approach anxiety I didn’t think you could do it. But I did. And now I’m talking to her. And I start to think¡Ä I made it this far. But what next? This girl is amazingly cute. And I have a shot with her. But I

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Sep 3

Karen’s so good at this, I thought to myself. I hate schmoozing. I was in an electronic music project a few years ago and worked with a vocalist. She was an amazing singer, and really good with people. Somehow she always managed to make great connections with people in the music business. She’d get us

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Aug 5

When you ask guys what the goal of rapport is, they usually say something like ¡Æto create an emotional connection.’ While you do want to create an emotional connection, it is difficult to say whether you’ve gotten there or not. A better definition of rapport, something to shoot for, is to find something to genuinely

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Apr 18

Not many people know this, but as men, the most important tool we have for seducing women is our ears. So few men have mastered the skill of listening. When learning this stuff, we are usually too focused on what we’re saying rather than listening. But if you can simply listen well, she will open

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Apr 11

I’m out with a student on the streets of New York. He is doing extremely well approaching women. He is continually opening and engaging women who are literally supermodels. But there’s something wrong. With all the approaches he’s doing, and all the warm reception he’s getting from these gorgeous women (and they were gorgeous), something

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Oct 10

The last few weeks I’ve been moving in a direction with one of the girls I’m dating. I’ve decided to get more serious with her. I haven’t been in an exclusive relationship with anyone since I began this journey two and a half years ago. I’m actually falling for this girl. And everything seems different

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