Most guys look at their success with women as a one-to-one ratio.

She’s got those qualities. I’ve got these qualities. Am I good enough for her?

It’s a simple one-to-one equation for them.

But guys who are great with women know how to use leverage.

Archimedes famously said, “Give me a lever long enough and I’ll move the world.”

With a long beam and a fulcrum, you can move something multiple times heavier than you’d be able to move without.

That’s the definition of leverage.

When it comes to doing well with women, the same applies.

The way you use leverage is to take what’s been given to you and use it for multiple times what it would normally be worth.

In this way, a guy can capitalize on a tiny bit of interest–or a tiny opening–and make things happen.

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This is a fun sequence I like to do in conversation.

It’s playful and I get to hold her hand.

There’s always a point in the conversation where I transition into personal topics.

“What do you do?” I ask her.

“No–wait,” I say. “Don’t tell me. Let me guess.”

I look her up and down.

“I’m really good at this. I’m actually psychic. Here, give me your hand.”

I take her hand in mine.

“Okay, try to psychically send it to me.”

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Storytelling is one of the most powerful ways to connect with with women–and people in general.

The reason it’s so powerful is because women are attracted to powerful men.

And if you can affect her emotionally, she senses that you can affect anyone like this.

Imagine you are a piano teacher. You’re in conversation with a woman and asks you, “What do you do?”

You could respond, “I’m a piano teacher.”

Or, you could respond with something more emotional, letting her in on what inspires you, what challenges you, and what makes you keep doing it.

Check out this amazing clip below by a guy named Benjamin Zander.

You would be well-off if you could communicate in your conversations even a fraction of what he does here.

She was stand-offish at first, acting like she was more interested in talking to her friend than you.

But with enough teasing and playing, you get her to open up.

You play some games. Ask her some stupid questions. You tell her to ask you some questions.

It’s you and her. Back and forth. The intensity starts to build.

You tease her. She teases back.

You make yourself vulnerable and share something you didn’t expect to.

She does as well.

There’s touching. You use excuses to touch her. And she gives you a touch back every once in a while. Read the rest of this entry »

Once I’m in deep conversation with a woman, I generally don’t use pre-scripted material.

I like to just go with the flow and really get to know her.

But at some point, if I’m getting to know her well, I like to turn the conversation sexual.

Turning the conversation sexual is one of the most important things you can do with women.

While she may be attracted to you already, talking explicitly about sex brings up the idea of sex in her mind.

Talking about sex triggers sexual feelings in her as she visualizes situations that she’s talking about.

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There’s a joke I like to tell:

Q: How do you know when you see a group of pick up artists?

A: There’s no women around them.

It’s funny because¡Ä well, it’s true. Most guys out there practicing their game are not very good at it.

And that’s okay because we all have to start somewhere.

But that’s still no excuse to not have women in your life.

When I gave a talk about a month ago at NYC Social Dynamics Masterminds, my excellent host Phillip, commented that I was the only “PUA” to talk at his event who had ever brought any girls with him.

And on top of that, he continued, I brought five hot girls with me.

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Ryan had a sarcastic sense of humor and a sweet smile.

He seemed a little guarded on our first date, but I figured that would change with time.

We were in line at the concession stand when he first mentioned his ex.

I’m pretty sure his eyes glowed red.

“She’s the reason I no longer trust women,” he said. “I’m not about to be an idiot in love again.”

Then he asked if I wanted to share the jalapeno poppers.

Um, rewind.

Why are you on a date with me if you have no intention of falling in love again?

I had a momentary impulse to be the girl who shows him women can be trustworthy, who gets him to open up again but¡Ä Read the rest of this entry »

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” - Naguib Mahfouz

There are certain situations where you have a lot of time and opportunities to get to know someone.

Maybe you’re hanging out an entire evening with friends and you get introduced to a friend of a friend.

Or a girl at work. Or someone at school.

In these situations it’s possible you have many opportunities to go deep and really connect with someone.

You can find a lot of commonalities and take your time getting to know them.

But other times you have very little to go on.

When you walk up to a woman you don’t know and manage to get a conversation started, you only have moments to go deep and build an emotional connection.

It feels like you know very little about her and have very little to work with.

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When she wants love, my cat curls up into a fetal position, exposes her underbelly and meows.

It’s adorable.

Makes me want to cuddle her.

My cat is making herself physically vulnerable to me.

She is acting submissive in order to get me to show affection.

She is acting exposed.

There is a natural tendency for me to take initiative and show affection.

People show emotional vulnerability in order to get affection and build relationships.

What does it mean to show emotional vulnerability?

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Sometimes you meet a woman who seems to have a very exciting life.

Perhaps she’s young and likes to party.

Or she rubs elbows with famous people.

Or she’s very successful at what she does.

And in a lot of ways it seems impossible to compete.

A few weeks ago I met a girl at a coffee shop. We ended up back at my place that day.

We got really intimate and had a great time.

The next day she left for a week to go to LA for a video premier.

She was a model and was in a video for some famous rock band.

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