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Jun 16

How many times have you walked away from an interaction and then a few minutes later thought: “I should have said _____!” In The Game, Neil Strauss uses a great analogy for guys who are great with women. You see the matrix. In the movie The Matrix, time slows down when Neo becomes a master.

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Sep 15

Today we have another brilliant post by my good friend Robbie Kramer from Inner Confidence. Have you been approaching women but not getting the results you want because you have too much anxiety? Then read on! There is a tragic mistake men make over and over when they approach women. I did it for years

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Jul 11

It’s 1 PM on a humid Saturday afternoon. I step onto the subway train. The air conditioning feels like a relief. I see an open seat and sit down in it. Almost immediately I notice her. She’s standing on the other side of the train. I can only see her from the back but she

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Jul 10

I was out with a client recently and we spotted a very hot girl. I asked him what he was feeling when he thought about talking to her. “What could I possibly have to offer her?” he said to me. It is one of the biggest components of approach anxiety. You get an overwhelming feeling

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May 29

It’s often been said that before you get a great woman, that you need to “have a life” of your own first. What does this mean? And how do you get a life? There are two things that will give you the foundation for ‘having a life’ and thus building a social circle. These two

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Apr 10

I quit. It’s over. I’m done. I will never approach again. Strange words to read on a site called ApproachAnxiety.com. But it’s true. It is an approach I no longer subscribe to. It used to make me feel like I was doing something. I would gather all the courage in the world and walk up

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Jan 18

I am walking through Union Square with a student. It is one of the coldest days of the year. The next step in the process, I tell him, is to simply ask someone for directions. There are people walking toward us. I stop a cute woman. “Hey,” I say smiling. “Can you tell me how

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Jan 15

“80 percent of success is just showing up” — Woody Allen 7:00 AM. My alarm goes off. Time to get out of bed and go running. I don’t know why but I always seem to choose either the hottest, most humid day of the year to start running again, or the coldest, snowiest day. I

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Dec 2

This is the worst feeling ever, I think to myself. I was feeling great yesterday, and the day before. But today, I just don’t feel like opening my mouth. I just got back from a few days vacation with my family. I was social with them, but didn’t interact with anyone else. I noticed more

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Aug 18

It’s a Sunday afternoon and I’m riding up the escalator with Glenn. We are heading into a shoe store to approach some women. There’s a break in the conversation. He turns to a middle-aged woman on the escalator behind us. “High five!” he says. She slaps his hand and a subdued smile comes across her

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