It’s the height of the interaction. Things have been going well. We’re almost done with our first drinks.
I turn to her and say “Let’s get out of here.”
I usually do this at a flirty point, not necessarily at a really deep connecting point. But the idea is that things are going great and you’re cutting it off.
This post is brought to you by my good friend “Hurricane” Lee.
One of the most pressing questions I get from guys is when to kiss a girl. Do you try to kiss her when you first meet? On the first date? Later?
On the one hand, pushing sexual escalation is almost always a good thing. Kissing is a natural next step in sexual escalation.
On the other hand, kissing is an extreme form of interest. If you go to kiss her, she knows you’re very, very interested.
So when is the ideal time to kiss a girl?
First, you never want to just go in for the kiss without any prior physical escalation. That would be weird and a little awkward, especially if she were to turn you down.
The principle here is that nothing should feel unnatural. Just as she gets used to one level of intimacy and gives you her implied consent, you go a little further. Read the rest of this entry »
I really like this video because it shows exactly what happens on a date when a tall, good-looking, pro athlete tries to get away with being too nice.
I’m warning you, it’s painful to watch. But there is so much juicy stuff in here, I couldn’t help break down exactly what went wrong.
0:59 He walks in and taps her on the shoulder. “Excuse me,” he says. This is something you say to a stranger. Instead, say “Hey” or “Hi.”
From then on, his body language is TERRIBLE. He can’t stand still.? He’s pacing back and forth the whole time. Notice him do this whenever he’s standing throughout the video.
I recently sat down with a gorgeous girl friend of mine and talked about her experiences with men and getting physical. Whatever you thought about sexual escalation and women, think again…
You recently went on a date. What happened?
I met this guy at a party and he asked me for my number. He texted me and followed up and asked me to meet him for a drink, which I did. We met at this artsy bar in Manhattan.
I could tell he was confident with women and dating. He was more forward than most guys, but not in a creepy way. Within the first half hour of the date he had his hand on my knee and touched my hair, all in conversation. Most guys don’t make those moves.
It was actually flattering. It was like ¡ÆHuh, this guy likes me.’
It’s cool when a guy is forward like that and connected with really great conversation, which we had. I feel like we were able to get into some cool subjects and talk about things that were important to us. We were just talking and that was cool but also with the touching it wasn’t like we were just talking.
I can’t believe how much chemistry was there. I can’t believe how much we connected. I can’t believe how HOT it was!
And you start to think about her.
And think about her.
And think about her.
It’s nice to think about her. But there comes a point where you’ve thought about her too much. You can feel it.
There’s a difference between feeling good about it, and feeling pain, insecurity, neediness, or possibly even hints of depression. Read the rest of this entry »
Last night I met up with this girl who I picked up in the park last Tuesday. We ended up going to dinner, although I usually prefer just drinks for a lot of reasons.
This girl is amazing. Very cool and really cute, cuter than most girls I’ve gone out with before. A year ago, I would not have had such an amazing cutey in front of me and I most certainly would have dropped the ball if I did.
There were three elements that got me from point A–slightly awkward, physically unconnected, that ‘wall’ between us–to point B–heavy sexual contact and making out in a bar next door. Read the rest of this entry »
Get Her Back to Your Place on a First Date
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Eric Disco
It’s a typical first date for me. She ends up back at my place.
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You’re at her door.It’s late.
