It was one of those sub-zero days where you don’t even want to go outside with your face exposed. I’d gone out at lunch but hadn’t found my one girl to open. So after work I decided to stop by the Barnes and Noble in Union Square to at least get one in. I’m a
“As Hinde (1974), in writing on the biological bases of human social behavior suggests, over-aggression in a male can frighten off prospective mates.” This lesson is clear to us. Aggression is bad. You will scare her off. It doesn’t take more than one bad approach, where a woman gets creeped out, for an introverted guy
Not all guys have approach anxiety. A lot do. But some guys are comfortable going up to people they didn’t know and talking to them. Why was I overcome with dread at the prospect of talking to a beautiful stranger while some people actually seemed to enjoy it? Initially I believed I had this anxiety
I’m walking through the park, looking for girls to approach on my daily lunch outting. I walk up to this girl sitting at a table eating. “Hi. I was just heading back to work and I wanted to come say hi.” “I’m married,” she says with a bit of a snarl. “My name’s Eric,” I
The streets were dark and empty in the slightly ghetto side of town where my apartment is. This girl just happens to be walking on the same corner as me and crosses the street a half step behind me. After I reach the other side, I turn down the sidewalk toward my apartment. She follows.
We’re in the middle of a heat wave here in NYC. It’s 106 degrees without wind chill and I’m dripping sweat by the time I get to work. I do a single set every day at lunch and today I’m tempted to not go out. The park is deathly hot but I decide that this