She’s sitting across the room. She’s beautiful. You’ve got the skills to approach her. Maybe it’s a nightclub or a a bookstore and nobody knows each other. Or maybe it’s a social circle situatoin. Maybe a house party. Maybe a dinner party. A seminar. A yoga class. An improv comedy class. A work function. A

When asked in workshops how many people were in Gifted and Talented in school, a majority of students raise their hands. The smart kids are often introverted. 75% of people with an IQ above 160 are introverts even though introverts are a 3 to 1 minority in society. Being too smart seems to cause problems

She’s gorgeous. We’re standing near the copy machine as I banter with her about work. “They have you making photocopies again? Oh my god, they may as well chain you to your desk!” We eventually get into a conversation. I notice it happening again: my hands are in my pockets. I’ve been doing this a

During the AM rush hour in New York City, the subway train is QUIET. You wouldn’t think it would be so quiet. Sometimes trains are packed so tightly, you can’t even get on. You need to wait for the next train. You’d think that with this many people packed so closely together, that some of

“To see without being seen is a banal phantasm–this is the fate of the voyeur. Being seen without seeing is a more original move–this is the fate of the idol. Capturing the other’s gaze without returning it.” – Jean Beaudrillard One of the most important aspects to becoming an attractive, confident guy is learning to

There’s sweat dripping from the ceiling. This place is ON FIRE. Wall to wall people. Dancing. Afro-cuban music on the sound system. Cute girls, of every race, dancing to the music. You have to squeeze to get past people it’s so packed in. There are single girls here tonight. You better believe it. AND THEY’RE

It was the first approach of the night. I was in a bar in Washington DC with two students in tow. I approached and I was a bit nervous. I hadn’t opened anyone in DC yet. I start to talk to the girl. She’s not having it. I can feel it. After a while she

Most of it, probably about 90 or 95 per cent of the game is your body language and voice tone. A very small percentage are the actual words. – David DeAngelo The greatest breakthrough I ever had was when I realized my voice didn’t change even when I get nervous. Even if I’m feeling really

I recently began taking lessons in Alexander Technique and just finished a book called Body Learning, by Michael Gelb about the Technique. The Alexander Technique is a discipline which aims to change your habits in order to achieve balanced physical alignment and eliminate unnecessary muscle tension. I’d heard about Alexander Technique through Neil Strauss and

One of the most important things you can do to improve your “looks” is to improve your posture. If you are going to fix anything about your look, from working out, to getting a tan, to wearing cooler clothes, fixing your posture is probably one of those things that has the greatest effect. Good posture