Nice is predictable. Nice eradicates tension. Nice smooths over conflict. Nice is guaranteed to be inoffensive. “How are you?” you text her the day after your date. Nice is not cocky. Nice is not selfish. Nice picks up the tab. Nice is chivalrous. Nice is polite. Nice is kind because you’re supposed to be kind.

I really like this video because it shows exactly what happens on a date when a tall, good-looking, pro athlete tries to get away with being too nice. I’m warning you, it’s painful to watch. But there is so much juicy stuff in here, I couldn’t help break down exactly what went wrong. 0:59 He

She was stand-offish at first, acting like she was more interested in talking to her friend than you. But with enough teasing and playing, you get her to open up. You play some games. Ask her some stupid questions. You tell her to ask you some questions. It’s you and her. Back and forth. The

Another excellent post by my good friend Robbie Kramer from Inner Confidence. It’s funny how we make things a lot more difficult than they have to be. By we I mean men, and what I’m talking about specifically is approaching women. Has something like this ever happened to you before: You see a woman you

This brilliant article is from my good friend Lee, by far one of the best guys with women I know. You walk out of a coffee shop onto a bright, sunny street. That’s when you first see her. She’s just standing there, your idealized image of a woman. You’ve been dreaming about this girl for

“Okay, so I used banter and playfulness to get the girl,” guys ask me, “but at what point can I just relax and let my guard down?” The short answer: Never. Look at it this way, when can you stop being a man around women and just be submissive and sexless? Never. Once you get

In my eternal exploration for things fun and entertaining, I went to a talk/group discussion that was being given by an evolutionary psychologist. The topic was about what it means to be “cool.” I was pleasantly surprised. The woman giving the talk was a self-professed “urban ethologist” which, she said, is another name for an

You’re out for drinks. You meet a cute girl through some friends. You get into some friendly conversation and end up finding out a lot about her. She’s friendly to you and 100% focused on you while you’re talking. You take this as a sign of interest and so you don’t do anything to rock

What’s your name? Where are you from? What do you do? Oh my god, she’s thinking to herself. Another boring conversation. She starts to answer with the same thing she’s said ten thousand times. She’s getting bored to tears. But then… You bust on her. All of a sudden she’s having fun again. Here’s some

Confident guys behave a certain way. While all of them are different people, their confidence about who they are effects those around them. People react differently to them. I recently had a conversation with a very attractive 29-year-old friend of mine. She talked to me about attraction and her charismatic friend who’s great with women.