Women will mess with you.

They’ll tease you and bust on you.

And occasionally, they’ll be downright mean.

It can get confusing because if a girl says something “mean” to you, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you.

In fact, it could mean the exact opposite.

After all, we are using the same exact tools: busting on her and having fun with her.

If you’re going to dish it out, you should be able to dish it in.

That’s why it’s important to learn how to handle resistance from women.

Some people call these “shit tests.” Whether she’s doing it to test you or simply because she plays rough, it’s good to know what to do.

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This is an article from my friend Hurricane Lee.

Some of you on this site have asked me to break down a good interaction.

Some time ago, Eric and I were at a rooftop bar, a place with a particularly stunning view.

Next to us are three women (later joined by one more).

One of the women has her back to me, but I see her when she came in.

She is tall and smoking hot, wearing a beautiful dress.

I am 45. She is 25, as I will find out later.

I don’t like to open conversation with women who are not looking at me.  But this woman just won’t turn towards me.

I get my chance when she starts to put her hair up in a knot.

When women are that hot, it’s ok to open with something negative.

The Negative Opener

Me: “Get your hair out of my face, sister.”

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In Weekly Challenge that just went out, (you can sign up here) we talk about push/pull.

Here is a great video where a comedian/magician takes push/pull to another level.

The part where he does push/pull starts at around 1:38:

“What’s your name, princess?”

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The Ballad of the Nice Guy (via Reddit)

“Is there a zoo in central park?” I ask her.

It’s 10 AM. We’re standing on the subway train.

I’ve carefully positioned myself next to her so that it seems incidental that I’ve chosen to ask her.

She responds, saying there is.

“I have friends coming into town for the weekend and I’m thinking of bringing them there,” I say, continuing the conversation.

We start to talk a bit about the zoo and central park. And then…

I stop. I let conversation drop.

I look around the subway car as I wait…

Wait…

Wait…

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Most guys look at their success with women as a one-to-one ratio.

She’s got those qualities. I’ve got these qualities. Am I good enough for her?

It’s a simple one-to-one equation for them.

But guys who are great with women know how to use leverage.

Archimedes famously said, “Give me a lever long enough and I’ll move the world.”

With a long beam and a fulcrum, you can move something multiple times heavier than you’d be able to move without.

That’s the definition of leverage.

When it comes to doing well with women, the same applies.

The way you use leverage is to take what’s been given to you and use it for multiple times what it would normally be worth.

In this way, a guy can capitalize on a tiny bit of interest–or a tiny opening–and make things happen.

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My first relationship with a woman was a mess. I succeeded in making us both very, very unhappy.

I made us unhappy because I was such a wussy.

This girl was madly in love with me. And she acted that way around me.

When you are with a girl who is madly in love with you, it’s easy to feel secure, act aloof, and make her come to you.

These are all great dominant traits to exhibit in a relationship.

So one might think the fact that she was in love with me made me the dominant one in the relationship.

If you thought that, you would be wrong.

Just because a girl is more into you than you are into her, does not make you dominant in the relationship. It helps, but it’s not the end of the story.

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They’re stunning.

Two amazing women walk out the front door of the restaurant.

My friend and I are sitting at a table outside.

We noticed them inside earlier and even saw some eye contact, but conditions weren’t right to open.

I’m sitting there in conversation with my friend when they walk over to us.

“I’m wondering if I can ask you guys a question about places around here…” she begins.

“You know, if you wanted to come talk to us,” I say, “you could just say hi.”

A smile creeps across her face.

“My name’s Eric,” I say. She laughs and introduces herself. “My name’s Melissa and this is Anna.”

Women do the same things men do when they’re interested, except they are usually more indirect.

Whenever a woman opens a conversation with me, I bust on her a bit first. This completely reverses any power she may have in the situation.

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On the forum, Zhelyazko asks:

[It's been said that] only 7% of all communication is verbal the other percents are in way of speaking and body language.

Do you agree with the findings of this study and what does it mean?

How you tell a story is way more important than what the story actually is?

The underlying question here is, considering the importance of body language, how important is the actual content of what you say?

Is it worth crafting and working on a specific stories to use over and over or is it better to just ‘wing it’ and focus on body language and delivery?

Lately, I’ve been using an opinion opener/story that goes like this.

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“C’mon,” she texts back. ?an you blame them for ogling?”

She gets the joke immediately.

If she had sent me a text that men were ogling her chest, it would not have been funny. It could have been true.

The other way around? Not so much.

Why is it ridiculous when I say it but not when she does?

Neko Case, once voted by Playboy as the Sexiest Babe in Indie Rock, is now 40 years old.

She laments that female rock stars don’t get groupies, unlike their male counterparts.

“No, ladies in bands don’t get ANY action,” she says. A chorus of female rock stars chimes in to agree with her.

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