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Wow. Great inspiration for me. I have struggled with confidence for much of my past. That is what has drawn me to this website and pickup in general. I really want to conquer my fear. I really want to build my confidence and I know that dealing with my fear of approaching beautiful women will help in ever area of my life. If I can confidently approach a “10″ and land her (not even necessarily bed her though that would be good too), then I can approach a powerful CEO and land them as clients.
Amen! This stuff will help you more than you can imagine, not just how other people feel about you, but how you feel about yourself.
I’ve been paying a lot of attention for the last few days to my body posture. I’ve been a little shocked at how often I sit with my feet crossed, or arms crossed. Ever time I’ve caught myself, I’ve practiced spreading my legs further apart, moving my shoulders back, spreading out my arms â€“â€“ whatever I can do to open up my posture and spread out.
It seems like dealing with posture is the hardest thing to get out of an online blog or book, but I’m certainly trying what I can.
Any suggestions of ways I can practice body language? I’ll look through old posts and see what you’ve written on in the past…
Yeah this is an excellent short lecture about the mind-body connection. It very useful and practical too. It’s still mind boggling how to me how influential non-verbal communication is in social interactions and more so when meeting/interacting with women(studies show that they are much better than men at reading/interpreting the non-verbals of others).
Just to let you know Eric, this clip is also on YouTube and probably better quality, here is the link:
It’s a shame that there is not alot of quality information online reguarding body language(BL) particularly when it comes to the best ways to interact with women using your non-verbals. Now I realize that there is a lot of stuff that written about BL, but reading it and seeing how its done are like night and day. There was a great product that Lance Mason had about BL a while ago but it was taken off youtube long ago. He used great examples of how to position yourself when talking to a women and so on.
Here is an interesting clip of an informal study of BL, probably more along the lines of what NOT to do reguarding the men in the clip:
I’d love to see you do a break down of that clip Eric from a BL point of view. There is a ton to learn from it I think.
Very interesting stuff. This makes me think of 2 things:
1. There was another study that found that images of men who were displaying happy emotions/ body language were actually LESS attractive to women than images of men who were displaying sadder or less powerful body language. Although I think there were some holes in that, at least in the way it was presented by the media.
2. The next question is if holding the poses for longer than 2 minutes–say 5 minutes or 10 minutes or 30 minutes–would have any additional impact on the hormones or the psychology.
I belief that, for the first point you have stated, there was truly alot of media involved into that.
Also pictures don’t represent the full appearance and energy that’s around an guy.
It’s no wonder that lots of women found that guy with the more less powerful bodylanguage more attractiv – Real Guys have been becoming rare and girls have been taught and forced to do so.
Keep on checking out what’s going on around you everytime you go out. I always do, and i have to say it’s amazing how much “hump-Bodylanguage” we’ve got those days : ).
OP: “Wow. Great inspiration for me. I have struggled with confidence for much of my past. That is what has drawn me to this website and pickup in general. I really want to conquer my fear. I really want to build my confidence and I know that dealing with my fear of approaching beautiful women will help in every area of my life. If I can confidently approach a â€œ10â€³ and land her (not even necessarily bed her though that would be good too), then I can approach a powerful CEO and land them as clients.
I don’t have a problem with men having one night stands, but it’s a little gross how you’re literally using women for your own financial gain. By the way, talking about “bedding” women is a little outdated. We just say sleep with, have sex with, etc.
Why are you here?
I wanted to note something els I noticed in the video, the speaker gave a great example of power in vulnerability.
Near the end of her talk she captivated the audience with her story by showing her emotions, it takes allot of balls to do that one on one let alone in front of a room full of people.
Eric, thank you for sharing this :)
I read a book called think fast and slow by Daniel Khaneman which talked about some of the same issues here. In the book, Khaneman says that we become aware of our emotions through our posture, or other physical effects on our body. But also, that if we simply change our posture, we begin to feel differently. In other words, we can change our feelings / emotional state just by changing how we carry ourselves. Interesting stuff.
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