Let me explain.
I like to floss in the shower. I’m weird like that.
I get into the shower, I floss and I move onto the next step.
The other day, I was feeling really lazy and decided to skip a day.
Bad bad bad.
Skipping a day flossing is not the worst thing in the world. But what it does is hugely problematic.
Once I skip a day and its okay in my mind, flossing stops being automatic. I’ve broken my habit.
Now, when I step into the shower, I have a huge question in my mind: Do I floss today or do I not floss today?
It’s good for me to floss every day. But would it be so bad if I flossed 6 out of 7 days?
I probably would not see a huge rise in my cavities.
But you and I know, that’s not usually what happens.
6 out of 7 days turns into 50% the days.
And then all of a sudden, I’m flossing 1 out of 7 days.
Or 1 out of 30 days.
How did I go from skipping one day to flossing only once a month?
It was because of that quick rationalization that it’s okay to skip one day.
It’s the same thing for me with going out and talking with women.
There is a cost for me when I go out to meet women.
I’m old. I get tired from walking around. If I’m going to be seeing a woman tonight, I’m tempted to just skip it for today.
But what happens? Tomorrow I’ll have an even better reason to skip it.
I won’t feel right. Or the weather will suck.
My brain is good at coming up with a million reasons not to do something.
And the worst part about this is that it was once automatic. Now it’s a chore.
Getting up and going out has now become something I need to think about.
I agonize over it. It takes a ton of mental energy.
The truth is, if you’ve got a habit in place…
You should be scared to death of missing a day.
And if you don’t have a habit in place, the quickest way to get one is to not let yourself miss a day.
Even if it’s pouring rain, I still go out and take a walk around the local supermarket and talk with someone.
Even if I feel like crap. Just so I don’t miss a day.
The habit is more important than what you accomplish. Because without it, you soon won’t accomplish anything at all.