You Don't Need a Good Excuse

by The_Hurricane
Jul 10

This post is by Hurricane Lee

Eric and I are on a New York City subway train. We’re practicing our game.

There are two cute girls on the subway car in which we’re standing.

They’re not together but they’re sitting a few seats away from each other.

They’re definitely within earshot, even on a noisy train.

Eric talks to the first girl.

“You look like you’re thinking deep, deep thoughts.”

She laughs.

A moment later, he follows up with, “You look like you have the weight of the universe on your shoulders.”

The statement starts to turn into a conversation. The girl is smiling and starting to warm up to him.

But then her stop comes and she jumps up.

“Bye!” she says with a smile as she gets off the train.

As the doors close, I go over and sit next to the other girl.

In many ways, this is the interaction men fear most.

The girl saw us walk in and saw Eric’s entire interaction. I have nowhere to hide. She knows exactly why I’m there.

What should I do?

I sit down right next to her.

I turn to her and tap her on the arm.

“You… look like you’re thinking deep, deep thoughts,” I say, repeating the exact same opener.

Her eyes widen. She points to Eric and says, “That’s what he said to that girl!”

I crack a slight smile.

“You look like… you have the weight of the universe on your shoulders,” I say to her.

She points at Eric again. “That’s exactly what he said to that girl! Are you guys walking around saying that to all the girls on this train?”

“Yeah, that’s right,” I respond. “We’re saying it to all the girls on this train who look like they’re thinking deep thoughts.”

“Am I wrong?” I continue. “You’re not thinking deep thoughts. You’re thinking stupid, trivial thoughts?”

The girl looks at me for a moment, trying to read my face. She realizes that I am not the least bit embarrassed for getting busted.

In fact, my slight smirk tells her I’m having fun watching her get all worked up.

And that’s when it happens.

I’ve passed the test. She answers my question.

“Actually,” she says, “I’m thinking about what liquor I should buy for a party. Any recommendations?”

The tension is gone. For the rest of the conversation she’s friendly.

Why do men fear these situations?

The first thing to realize is that women don’t care why you’re there.

You don’t need a good excuse for hitting on them. All they care about is that you’re attractive and entertaining.

It doesn’t matter that you ask them where the F train goes in one breath and tell them that you’re the president of the Metropolitan Transportation Authority in the next.

To them, the logical inconsistency is absolutely meaningless.

What is meaningful is that you are cool, fun, and seem to be perfectly comfortable under pressure.

That is why it doesn’t matter if you’re asking for directions to places you should know like the back of your hand.

It doesn’t matter if you mistakenly hit on the same girl twice.

It doesn’t matter if girls figure out you’ve been doing this all day.

It doesn’t matter if others observe your approach.

It doesn’t matter if you have no good reasons to tell your stories.

These are obstacles in your own mind and have nothing to do with a woman’s reality.

Logical consistency is a crutch. It’s your way of protecting your ego when you’re rejected.

Women don’t care.

Here is what you should do when you get busted:

Own it.

Yes, fearlessly admit to everything because, in the end, you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong.

Example:

Her: Is this what you do all day, walk around and say cheesy lines to women?

Me: Absolutely. When I see a pretty girl, it makes me want to say hello. In my experience, most women are pretty friendly. You’re not going to try to change my mind about that, are you?

Her: Well, if you’re going to say hello, you should just do it. No lines.

Me: Is that what you like? Let me just write that down. (Pretend to write on an invisible notepad.) Ok, got it. Let’s give this another shot. (Take a few steps back and pretend to be just walking up to her.) “Hi, I saw you standing here and just had to come say hello. My name is Lee. You are?”

Don’t run. Don’t hide. Don’t look for a good excuse.

You’ve done nothing wrong. Own it.

-----------------

posted in Embarrassment and Rejection

COMMENTS
17 responses
Ariel says:

Great to hear this now.. I have been doing Eric’s exercises for a while on my campus, and these are the kind of situations I have started worrying about – hitting on the same girl twice ect.

Edwin says:

I’ve been doing this for awhile but a lot of those beliefs still pop into my head. So this article was good. I assume nothing changes if you werent with your friend and you had opened the first girl. You still could go over and talk with the 2nd girl too.

Kenneth says:

This is the best articles I’ve read all day. I’m gonna bookmark it.

KL says:

Absolutely. This is what all “shit tests” come down to. Sexuality for women is not about logic. It’s about emotions and feelings.

When the guy feels bad or ashamed, it’s game over. He will rationalize in his head later that it’s because he did something logically wrong. But it’s really game over because he felt that negative feeling, and as a result the girl felt it too. That’s why he became less attractive to her.

Alex_B says:

Funny thing happened today. I went to B&N and on the escalator up i asked this girl where the photography section was, and asked my follow up. Abt 3 minutes later I was at the magazine rack standing next to a girl I was about to talk to and this guy comes up to her and says “excuse me, do you know where the pornography section is?……………I mean the photography section”. It was great and definitely provided easy fodder for something to talk about. Hopefully he walked away laughing

Socialkenny says:

Talk about the deck stacked against you lol.I could imagine the social pressure placed on Hurricane Lee when he had to approach the HB who knew what was coming.To pick up a girl against such odds is next to miraculous.

Joe says:

What a great post! Own what you’re doing and be honest. Hope to see more posts like this.

Cheers!

Nath says:

Lee, these articles are just stories made up in your head.

dave says:

Hey! Give “Hurricane Lee” some credit! I cannot even imagine being
in such a conversation with a woman ( even to make that up) so he
must really be at such an inner peace to bother with this. Such a complete lack of success will convince you that DID do something wrong in trying yhese approaches.

Lee says:

@Nath

Poor, Nath. Such a skeptic. In this case, Eric was with me when it happened. But you don’t have to take our word for it. You can do what a bunch of guys on this site have already done. You can come to NYC and watch me in action live. I love to show the skeptics they’re full of shit.

–Lee

Tal says:

Yes. That’s the spirit. It is funny how many guys fear to have to justify their behaviour to a women. Actually, it is a common ground you are establishing, nothing more: You are completely honest. And this tells her that she should be completely honest with you. That’s how the deal works: You give something and the other one gives something back.

Nice post.

dave says:

Tal – Unfortunately, It does not work that way! You honestly approach and there are ways to be told that this is not good enough and the woman gives NOTHING back, and you are expected to keep trying ( insanity?).

Lee says:

@dave

Don’t you want to qualify those statements just a little bit? This is a site where many men write regularly to thank the community for their newfound happiness. These are men who previously couldn’t but now can. Isn’t it a little insulting to them to state as a matter of fact that just because you can’t do it, you know it can’t be done? Why don’t you just fill a long post with the word “Liars!” Wouldn’t that be little more honest on your part?

–Lee

dave says:

I give these men ALL the credit for changing their lives as they have
said, and I find it very encouraging and I thought that I had said that. . Do I disagree with TAl that you give something and get something back? Yes, I do. I would be a liar if I had told him otherwise. Some bell has to go off to tell her it is time to be honest with you? I really do give you your props.

Lee says:

@dave

So? What’s the explanation? What do you propose is that bell that goes off with some frequency for some people but not others? And don’t say looks or money. If it were looks, those men who tell us about their improvement would have been successful all along. And if it were money, a woman’s decision would have to wait until that information is revealed. Any chance that that bell that goes off in a woman’s mind is triggered by a man’s actions, just as we explain on this site?

–Lee

dave says:

Lee – What you say makes a lot of sense.Explanation? I have none! The guys who post here have clearly said that they have changed their lives. I would love to see you in action since my imagination just ain’t that good!

riccie says:

You don’t need a good reason. You just need confidence; the ever complex subject. Often happens, at least in my experience(s) guys who really have what it takes fail by their own (over) self conscious that draws anxiety. from there, faking confidence worsens, worst comes to worst when what’s supposedly be his quality (usually refers to shallow advantage e.g looks / wealth) instead of succeeding to attract, his anxiety turns them into intimidating the girl he’s into that they both LOST each other (she wanted him too, but signal failed). So, if you’re mourning over “why all the hot chicks with uglier / partially broke dudes” or vice versa; this is WHY. Outer is a stagnant object, inner is the moving mechanism – which determines where outer stands.

LEAVE A COMMENT