No Shame in Admitting I'm a Bit Intimidated

by Eric Disco
Jul 7

As winter ends and spring rolls around, hot girls flock to parks. It’s one of the nicest places to meet women.

I’m in Madison Square Park, New York City. There is a path with benches encircling a center lawn.

I’m walking by and I notice this amazing hottie lying in the middle of the lawn on her stomach reading.

She’s wearing immensely flattering tight, black yoga pants. Her ass looks amazing. Her face looks cute too. She’s fairly young, about 22.

Talking to a girl who’s standing, sitting, or walking is one thing, but it’s been a while since I’ve hooked a girl who is lying down in the middle of the lawn.

No shame in admitting I’m a bit intimidated.

But that’s okay, I simply follow the plan.

I first positioning myself near her. Even though I feel a bit apprehensive, I walk over to the vicinity of where she’s lying.

I walk as if I’m going past her and then stop about four feet away from her. I’m not facing her but nor am I facing away. She’s off to my side.

I pull out my phone and look at it.

The next step: Say something.

I decide I am simply going to ask her my opening question. That’s it. And… see where it goes from there.

If she’s not responsive, I’m no worse for the wear and I’ve gotten past my intimidation at talking with women lying in the middle of the lawn.

“H-hey” I say, stuttering a bit. “Do you know if there’s a zoo in Central Park?”

I’m trying not to look at her fabulous ass in those tight, black yoga pants.

“There is,” she responds. “I’ve never been there, but I know there’s one there.”

“Like, a big one?”

“It’s not that big.”

“Okay,” I say. “Because I have some friends coming into town and I was thinking about bringing them there.”

“I think it’s a good zoo,” she responds.

“Do you know if they have penguins? Because I’ve been really in the mood for penguins.”

“I think they have penguins,” she says.

“Awesome. Maybe I’ll hire you as my personal tour guide.”

She laughs.

And then picks up the conversation.

“Where else are you taking them?”

This is my invitation to stay longer. You generally won’t find a stronger invitation than this.

“I don’t know,” I say. “There’s a lot of stuff up around central park area.”

“Yeah, that’s a good area.”

“You know some good spots?” I ask.

She mentions the Museum of Natural History.

“Isn’t there the Museum of Sex?” I ask.

I am purposely injecting sex into the conversation.

Talking about sex does a lot of good things. It raises tension and shows I’m not afraid to talk about inappropriate topics.

“That is somewhere near here.”

“Is that any good?” I ask.

“I’ve never been there.”

“You’re not the type of girl to go to the Museum of Sex?”

“I’ve never had the opportunity” she says and laughs. “I haven’t been here that long. Only like a year.”

Another indicator that she’s interested in conversation. Practically setting up the next question I ask.

“Where did you move from?” I take the bait but then pull it away from her. “Wait. Don’t tell me. Let me guess…”

I sit down next to her.

“You moved from… New Jersey!” I say. She doesn’t react so well to my tease.

“I’m just busting on you,” I say.

“Maybe with my outfit,” she says. “I never wear this. I was just going to gym.”

When a girl acts insecure or says something negative about herself like this, I never jump in and compliment her.

A prompted compliment is a sure sign of a nice guy who does things because he feels like he has to.

“I’m from California,” she continues.

We start getting deeper into conversation, talking about where she grew up. She’s asking me questions.

I still tease her a bit, but I’m also giving her more about me, connecting on an emotional level.

At one point we are even talking about childhood and growing up.

That’s always a good sign.

This girl is sweet and definitely into me. After about 15 minutes, I tell her I need to take off and move to exchange contact info with her.

The grass is a bit wet and I wipe off my pants as I get up.

“My ass is wet from sitting on the ground. Promise me you won’t stare at it when I walk away,” I say.

“I don’t think I can keep that promise,” she says, laughing.


posted in Field Reports, Park Game

8 responses
Edwin says:

A couple questions: when she justifies what she is wearing – thats a pretty good sign of interest right? Also, when she realizes you’ve lived in NYC for awhile, Id imagine a few girls later ask how you didnt know there was a zoo in the park. just curious how you handle that.

Eric Disco says:

Yup, justifying what she’s wearing is a big sign of interest.

Sometimes later in the conversation it will come up that I’ve lived in New York for ten years and she’ll ask why I didn’t know they have a zoo.

It doesn’t really matter what I say at that point, as long as I don’t act ‘caught.’ If I feel weird and uncomfortable, she will. I will just say I don’t hang out in Central Park that much. Or, “I just wanted to come flirt with you.” Or, “I just used that as an excuse to talk with you.”


Alex_B says:

Yup I agree with Eric. I’ve lived in NYC my whole life so when a girl inevitably asks me that (which actually doesn’t happen too often), I just say I haven’t been there since I was a kid or in years, OR it’s funny how alot of people who live in a city almost never visit it’s famous landmarks…or I just say what eric says

Crebral says:

Thats awesome Eric! You da man! :-)

KL says:

I love how NJ is automatically assumed to be a bad thing, ha. That would be a turn off to me–that the girl buys into dumb stereotypes.

But aside from that, you seem to be asking a lot of questions from the start. What’s the deal on that? Many say that is rapport-seeking behavior, inappropriate at the start. What do you think about that?

Also, to me, if I had this interaction, I would be fairly certain this has flake written all over it. Even though she’s clearly interested at that moment, I don’t know if I would expect her to actually come out on a date. Maybe she would respond to a text, but ultimately disappear. What’s your thinking on that? Did it turn out differently?

Alex_B says:

He asks questions and interjects statements and stories (see. Bach story in audio). The statements and stories you tell keep it from being and interview and if the girl is into you she will throw in stories and statements too. As long as shes investing in the conversation your chances are pretty good.

*also go back to Lance Mason’s second interview in the book, it gives alot of insight into the question you asked*

Eric Disco says:

I love how NJ is automatically assumed to be a bad thing, ha. That would be a turn off to me-that the girl buys into dumb stereotypes.

I’m originally from Jersey, so it’s kind of a joke. But since the show Jersey Shore, Jersey becomes to butt of a lot of jokes.

But aside from that, you seem to be asking a lot of questions from the start. What’s the deal on that? Many say that is rapport-seeking behavior, inappropriate at the start. What do you think about that?

Asking questions is not the same thing as seeking rapport. Seeking rapport is when you ask questions about her, trying to make a connection. Asking questions about the zoo is not seeking rapport.

You will inevitably ask some questions at the start. Not all questions are bad. The problem is when you

- ask too many questions in a row without making statements
- talk about her too much without talking about yourself
- don’t take a breather from asking questions or changing topics to let her pick up the conversation

Statements tend to be better than questions. But you can’t go an entire interaction without questions.

I actually never contacted this girl because I had too much on my plate at the time. She was showing a lot of interest so it would probably not have flaked. But you never know what’s going on in a girl’s life.


KL says:

Yeah, I know you’re from Jersey, haha. I actually like NJ, there’s a lot of nice people there.

Ok, yeah that’s a great point about asking questions. Ask questions about something else, not about her.

I’ve just had many great interactions in recent weeks that ultimately went nowhere. Or maybe my previous successes were a flash in the pan. It’s getting harder to distinguish between the good conversations that produce something tangible, and the good conversations that produce nothing. Because all of them are “good.”