No Woman Ever Approached Me For My Looks
by 
Eric Disco
John had no problem talking to women he didn’t know–as long as he was drunk.
“Not just one or two drinks,” John explains in a recent interview, “completely inebriated.”
An aspiring DJ, John was drawn to clubs because of the music.
While out at bars and clubs with his friends, he would try to meet women.
But he had never in his life started a conversation with a woman sober.
His drunken late-night efforts were always hit or miss.
“Some nights, nothing would happen,” says John. “Other nights, some stuff would happen.”
John explains. “When I was drunk and uninhibited and the woman was drunk and uninhibited, maybe that would lead to something…sometimes. But I would have no game plan or strategy.”
Even when he did meet women, they usually weren’t to his liking.
John likes feminine women with positive energy.
But the women he was meeting at clubs were drunk, crazy, party girl types-not the type he wanted as a girlfriend.
When John did get a girlfriend, he clung to her because he had nothing else.
“It was the easy way out with them,” he explains. “I was limiting myself. I didn’t have the ability to meet women outside of my social circle.”
At one point, after years of drinking, a reality sunk in. It was wearing on his health. He wasn’t taking care of himself.
“I was fat,” John says. “I was fifty pounds overweight. I had a huge stomach. All I did was eat, drink, smoke pot, and play music.”
Upon moving to New York City, the people he saw gave him the inspiration he needed.
He saw pretty women during the day and thought it would be amazing to be able to meet them without having to drink.
“I felt I had to make a drastic change in order to meet the women I wanted,” he says.
The first thing he did was lose fifty pounds. He was sure this would be the key to his success. Slim now with a swimmer’s body, one would never guess he was overweight for years.
“I lost a ton of weight. People who knew me were shocked. They said, ‘You look so much better!’
“I thought, wow, this is awesome. I can meet women without having to do much else.”
But simply losing weight was not going to get him where he wanted to go.
“Nothing happened,” John says, “Absolutely nothing. No woman ever approached me just for my looks,” he says.
So John researched how to meet women.
He found some lines on the internet and went out to the park-sober-to try and talk with women.
But all he did is walk around in circles.
The moment he saw an attractive woman, he couldn’t remember a thing he’d read about. He couldn’t say a word.
“I kept reading and reading, hoping that one day I’ll read so much that I’ll be able to go do this stuff. That day never happened,” he says. “I was filling my brain with information and not doing anything legitimate about it.”
When John first came to me for coaching, he was emphatic about the empowerment he wanted.
“This isn’t just about getting women into bed,” he said to me. “I want to have the ability to meet anyone anywhere.”
The Six Step Method was a revelation for him.
“I couldn’t believe how comfortable it was going from step to step, week to week,” John said. “It took a lot of the pressure off. It wasn’t ‘Day one: Approach 40 women.’ That would have been too much and not sustainable. There’s no way you’d be able to continue. You have to start out doing something long-term daily.”
Of all the people who went through the Six Step Method, John stuck most closely with the weekly exercises.
“It was easy to follow the checklist,” John said.
He would check off every single box as he accomplished each task.
“I viewed it as a homework assignment. I didn’t want to fail in it.”
John was the most meticulous, and he’s gotten some of the best results I’ve seen.
“It’s pretty ridiculous, the things I’ve done, compared to what I did before. I went from approaching zero women to probably two or three hundred. I’ve lost count. I have no idea how many I’ve approached. I’ve gotten tons of numbers. I’ve dated a lot of women. I’ve hooked up with many of them.”
John’s love for music has stayed. But he rarely goes to nightclubs to meet women anymore. Most of the women he dates he meets during the day.
He was in the park the other day and couldn’t keep from talking to a woman.
Sitting alone on the steps of the park was a young feminine red-haired woman with freckles in a summer dress and flats.
He went and sat next to her.
“I had no choice in the matter,” he recounts. “My mouth just opened and I started talking.”
They talked for fifteen minutes. She was intellectual, here from Poland on an internship for the summer.
They agreed to touch base in a few days after John’s friends left town.
A few days later, they texted to set up plans. He told her to meet him at a bar on the corner near his apartment in the West Village.
That day it was raining. John got soaked. He came home, showered, and changed.
Then he looked at the clock.
He realized it was five minutes before they were supposed to meet.
“I decided to take a risk,” he said. “I texted her to come ring my bell and I would come downstairs. I knew that I would rather not go out again in the rain.”
Five minutes later she rang his bell. He went down to his foyer.
“Come in its pouring!” he said.
She walked in. He made small talk and then said, “Let’s dry off, then we can go out”.
When they got up to his apartment, he offered her some wine. They sat on his couch, talked, and drank wine.
They barely finished the first glass.
Within twenty minutes, he went for the kiss. From there it was another thirty minutes before she was in his bedroom.
“I have quality problems now. I have all these women I’d dating,” John says. “Combined with the time I spend each week going out to meet women, I have no time left for the important things like gallery openings, performances, yoga classes, and acting classes,” he laughs.
“I look amazing in front of people,” he says.
“My old friends said, ‘What the hell happened to you? You’re talking to every woman!’ That was never how friends would ever describe me.”
John’s ideal life is coming to fruition.
He still has ups and downs. On his “off days” when he doesn’t get into conversations, he’s disappointed.
But, he says, “I’m a thousand times better than I was when I started the Six Step Method. I’ve made huge progress.”
“Putting in the work is the only way that these successes would ever happen,” John says. “Without doing the work, these results wouldn’t have happened for me.”
John felt like the rest would be easy after the anxiety was gone.
“Before I started, I felt like the anxiety would be the biggest hurdle. It was the critical first step in being able to engage a lot of women. I felt if I’m able to engage a lot of women, I could wing the rest and start dating women.”
That wasn’t quite true.
“I needed to learn about certain other parts of the game before I actually started hooking up with women. But the Six Step Method was critical to get past the first hurdle.”
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Eric
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Eric,
I do have a question about the Six sTep Away.
While reading the article i read that John objective was to be able to meet anyone anywere. I think that this is an amazing skills and my question what is learned here will be able to translate to other areas, like meeting people, socialing at partys.
So my question is, will i be just more confortable with women or with everyone also?
Thanks
Hi Tony,
In the beginning of the book I present case studies of three different clients of mine. One is more geared toward meeting a lot of women, another is looking for a girlfriend, and the last is looking more to just be more social in any situation.
All of these goals are valuable. The program will help you with all of these. It’s focus is on meeting women and feeling more comfortable doing it. Generally if you can feel comfortable talking with attractive women, you can feel comfortable talking with people you aren’t attracted to. The book provides a frame work for connecting and interacting with anyone.
Eric
Q: Is there a way of PM-ing you directly? Have some questions about your new book, but don’t feel they’re apropos for a general comments area.
Many Thanks,
TT
Hey Man,
You can write me at this e-mail here. I get a lot of e-mail but have been doing my best to get back to every person who contacts me.
Eric
Eric do you recommend reading your book in parts so as not to get trapped up in just reading? Do you encourage us to read as we come to the steps for the week or read all the way through and come back?
I think it’s okay if you want to read the whole book first. But I think you should definitely read each step before you go out and practice it.
There are also supplementary guru interviews that are specific to each step. So I recommend listening to those as you read each step.
And there are supplementary in-field audio interactions for each step, except steps 1&2 which are all physical.
So my recommendation is, read the step, listen to the interview and in-field audio for that step, then go out and practice that step for a week or two before moving on to the next step.
Eric
Ok that’s good to know. I listened to all the demos first but read only through to step 3 and figured I gotta just stop reading it and get out. But I’ll check out those imterviews.
Thanks
whats up guys its “john” from story above :) eric wanted me to share something i told him in an email with you guys so here it
is…
Basically i approached a girl and ended up dating her, and she later
confessed the following to me…
“When you approached me I was going through a serious depression in
my life and everything was going wrong… and you just snapped me right
out of it when you came up and complimented me like that. It felt like you
came out of nowhere and just appeared when I was at one of my lowest points”
Its a beautiful thing! Think of this next time you feel like you should
not approach a girl because you will be “bothering” her.
I’m so grateful to Eric for teaching me as this experience and
countless other similar ones would have NEVER happened
otherwise.
Hey Eric, I’m currently ordering your new She’s Six Steps Away book as I send this e-mail!… So excited to read and expand upon your teachings in my everyday life! I was just wondering if you knew, or could suggest, any PUA’s in the Southern Orange County area, about an hour south of LA. Preferably, a guy with your style and overall attitude. I know everyone is different, and I’m not going to find someone who has the exact same outlooks I read on your site everyday, but anyone you know of or could suggest that has a rad personality like you would be awesome! I read your website almost every day and I’m actually coming into my own when it comes to picking up women. Actually, I’d say I was always a natural, but like John, I was 50 pounds overweight, and although I was confident in my abilities to talk to women in social situations, I guess you could say I was extremely inhibited in the physical/sexual aspect of pickup. I am 18 and I decided to lose the weight the second I laid my eyes upon approachanxiety.com. As of now, I guess you could say I’m a miniature replica of John’s success story, minus the fact that I haven’t actually practiced any pickup under a mentor’s watch. I’ve lost the weight, and I’ve gained a ton of confidence, (I’ve been with over 15 girls – attractive girls – in the last 4 months, since I started reading Approach Anxiety), but now that I’m about to graduate high school, I feel it’s time to really hone in on my pickup skills. I want to fix all the little kinks in my game and find girls of higher quality, (intellect, attractiveness, maturity, etc.), around my college campus next year. Any recommendations?
Hey Eric, I’m currently ordering your new She’s Six Steps Away book as I send this e-mail!… So excited to read and expand upon your teachings in my everyday life! I was just wondering if you knew, or could suggest, any PUA’s in the Southern Orange County area, about an hour south of LA. Preferably, a guy with your style and overall attitude. I know everyone is different, and I’m not going to find someone who has the exact same outlooks I read on your site everyday, but anyone you know of or could suggest that has a rad personality like you would be awesome! I read your website almost every day and I’m actually coming into my own when it comes to picking up women. Actually, I’d say I was always a natural, but like John, I was 50 pounds overweight, and although I was confident in my abilities to talk to women in social situations, I guess you could say I was extremely inhibited in the physical/sexual aspect of pickup. I am 18 and I decided to lose the weight the second I laid my eyes upon approachanxiety.com. As of now, I guess you could say I’m a miniature replica of John’s success story, minus the fact that I haven’t actually practiced any pickup under a mentor’s watch. I’ve lost the weight, and I’ve gained a ton of confidence, (I’ve been with over 15 girls – attractive girls – in the last 4 months, since I started reading Approach Anxiety). But now that I’m about to graduate high school, I feel it’s time to really hone in on my pickup skills. I want to fix all the little kinks in my game and find girls of higher quality, (intellect, attractiveness, maturity, etc.), around my college campus next year. Any recommendations?
@John: yes, I’m sure she was cheered up; however, in my own life (over three plus decades’ worth of interaction), I have done similar to what you did for that depressed girl and had results varying from:
1. the police called me saying I had stalked her
2. a vicious feminazi threatened my life (for real)
3. another time this bitch said: “stop hitting on me”
and MANY others, not one of them positive (or should I say no positive appreciation at all from any of them)
I stopped years ago I just can’t trust the good faith of random strangers enough to put myself out there and be giving. In fact, nowadays I wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire. They always read ulterior motives into selfless, empathetic acts.
About me: I am not the man who thinks he’s not good enough, I am the little “Napoleon” who has been wronged, I am right they are wrong. In fact, I am so mad I don’t fear rejection at all. But I also don’t care. Women are evil. Not worth it. Thank God for porn.