Get Her Back to Your Place on a First Date
by 
Eric Disco
It’s a typical first date for me. She ends up back at my place.
Here’s how I do it.
I meet her in a bar. When we first meet, I flirt a bit with her.
We grab some drinks and sit down on a couch next to each other.
Really connect.
But I also amp up the flirting and physical contact. (For more details see Ten Rules for the Perfect First Date)
It’s the height of the interaction. Things have been going well. We’re almost done with our first drinks.
I turn to her and say “Let’s get out of here.”
I usually do this at a flirty point, not necessarily at a really deep connecting point. But the idea is that things are going great and you’re cutting it off.
She says “Where are we going?”
“This other place I really like,” I respond.
This is why it’s good to know a few places in your neighborhood where you can take her.
“Are you into heavy metal?” I ask her as we gather our stuff to leave.
“Uh… not really.”
“Good. Neither am I. There’s this heavy metal bar down the street that’s really fun. Let’s go.”
We walk into the heavy metal bar. It’s this freaky but fun dive bar.
We grab another round of drinks. We sit and connect, amp things up, have a lot of fun.
Then again, at a fun point, I say, let’s get out of here. We’ve pretty much had one drink at each place.
Then I walk her back to my place.
I typically use some type of excuse like “I need to stop by and use the bathroom,” or “Let’s stop by my place for a minute but then I’m kicking you out.”
Sometimes I’ll set something up earlier. I’ll talk about my cat and then say, oh my god, you have to see my cat.
It’s lame, but that doesn’t matter. It’s just an excuse so that she doesn’t have to confront the fact in her mind that we’re going back to my place for sex–even though she wants it.
So each place I’ll stay maybe 45 minutes or so, give or take 15 minutes. I pace it depending on how “on” it is with her.
I’ve also done it where I take her right back to my place after the first drink (or not even finishing the first drink).
I’ve also just walked by the front door of my apartment on my way to the other bar and said that I need to use the bathroom or not even said anything and just started walking into my place.
Once we’re in my building, if there’s been enough physical contact between us on the date, I’ll usually try to make out with her in the stairwell leading to my apartment.
Why?
It’s dangerous and we could get caught. That makes it more fun and dirty.
Once we’re back at my place any number of things can happen, depending on how revved up she is and how responsive she is to my touch.
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I’ve been to your apartment and was just wondering how chicks react to walking up 7 flights of stairs?
Also, I say something sorta similar to you when it’s PULL time.
My dates are always no longer than 2hrs! At which time I will say(if I know it’s on between her and I), “Hey, let’s get out of here. I know a better spot. It’s got awesome red wine, it doesn’t get loud or crowded and it’s got great music!”
I hail a cab and give the driver the address to my apartment. I’ve never once had a woman say no to going inside. I thought for sure by now after about doing this around 75+ times I would’a heard the words, “I’m not going into your house.” But nope!
GlennP
Ha. It’s five flights. But yeah. Here’s what I do.
I make out with her right before I take her up the first flight of stairs. Then I stop her and say, “Stop, or someone’s gonna catch us.”
Then, after the next flight and a half, I push her up against the wall and start making out with her again. Then stop making out and say the same thing. I grab her hand and proceed up the stairs.
After the next flight and a half I push her up against the wall again… I think you get the picture. So the five flights of stairs actually becomes pretty good.
Eric
Ha, at the fifth flight is there a moment of conception?
Ha, funny you should say that, Steve.
Eric
Hey,
It’s interesting that deep inside women know they are going to have sex with you that night. But they just want to have that illusion that it all happen by coincidence. I guess it’s to tell their friends it just happens so they don’t sound cheap :)
Anyway Eric Disco what you did seems like a fun way to turn things around. Next time I am out I will give it a try :)
Thanks,
JBarros
At first I didn’t realize it, but hitting different venues during the date is really powerful. It keeps the energy up, gives her a sense of an adventure, and it feels like you’ve spent more time together than you actually have. Also, just physical movement alone helps women get aroused.
I have to say, having once lived in New York this is how it’s done. The mobility of one bar to the next is a huge advantage. But I’m now living in LA, and in a land where each place of interest is separated by 20 miles of bullshit this method is not even near feasible, especially if she drove to meet you on her own. Nothing breaks that physical momentum more than sitting in traffic for 30 minutes as you swap venues.
I’ve found personally that I if go to a really stellar place to start off with and stay at it works much better in this type of environment. Hookah bars are really good because they offer comfort, longevity (the hookah can be refilled and provides an anchor to justify the duration) and drinks. Make sure the venue is by your house, then it’s an easy switch to drive on over to the house.
I’ve made this work on dates where we had to drive for 30 mins to get back to my house, we got stuck in traffic AND had to deal with a massive lack of parking once we arrived. One time I even got pulled over and had my date sit there in her own car and watch as I got a ticket for 15 mins and she still ended up coming back with me! If you just escalate hard and connect really deep on the date, the ‘logistical’ section is moot.
LOL, Glenn that is a lot of mental masturbation……….. 75+
Cool post!
Stairwell make-out huh? nice!
I always wanted to hit the stop button on the elevator, like they do in the movies and just give her dibs on my pickle right there in the elevator… I know this might freak some girls out, but there is a large percentage who I’m sure would really love the excitement and danger.
Well, now I’m going to have to try this, wish me luck!
@Chad…
I don’t think that you’re going to freak any girls out at all by hitting the stop button in your elevator…
Women love sexual spontaneity and I’m sure every single woman on this planet has seen the same movies you have with some hot elevator action and have fantasized about themselves…
I’m sure you’re going to have a lot of women drop their panties for you on the way up to your place…
GlennP