What Success Looks Like
by 
Eric Disco
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See the top of this chart? It’s not a point, it’s an arrow. That’s not an accident.
Here’s a secret that “successful” people won’t tell you: when you get to the “top” you don’t feel like you’re at the top. In fact, the higher you climb, often the further it seems you have to go.
The best guys I know have an intensity, a hunger for more. Success does that to you. Once you taste a little, you start to want more. And more.
You hit setbacks, where your success seems to dip. But you zoom out and look over the big picture of your life.
And you realize that to move forward, taking a few steps backwards is not only inevitable, it’s part of the process.
You discover limitations you never knew you had. So you put your head down and work past it.
Humility is your greatest ally.
Perhaps one of the best gifts about knowing guys who are some of the best in the world when it comes to women, is seeing how human they are.
They’re not superman.
They have just as many failures, if not more. They get lazy. They get stupid. They get their hearts broken as well.
And they still struggle like all the rest, pushing forward, onward and upward, despite adversity.
That’s what success looks like.
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Fantastic post! Such an important point for everyone to grasp. Very true.
The braves sight in the world is to see a man strugling against adversity.
This is a very nice quote I like, but don’t remember who it is from. I think it fits in this topic though.
Thank you for sharing Eric it really does help. A lot.
bravest* (see I failed there :D)
Great article.
Majority of men who become from not being good with women, to being amazing with them have come to the realization. That women are just women, all those thoughts about how ‘special’ or unique you have to be with a really hot girl goes right out of the window.
You don’t have to look like a model, drive fancy cars to get a hot girl. Just speak your mind with confidence.
I was hoping for more than a nicely put FB style status update for this week. You haven’t been posting much technical information lately, any particular reason?
Eric, maybe you should write a more general book about success (in any field). Your descriptions of creating a habit, consistency, manageable commitment are the most practical and effective I have seen
@Player87
You claim all these guys get great with women and you say “You don’t have to look like a model, drive fancy cars to get a hot girl. Just speak your mind with confidence.”
Are you postively sure about that? Do you have concrete evidence of this? What types of guys are you alluding too? Short, balding guys with bigger noses?
Just because you allude the so called holy word “confidence” does not mean a hill of beans.
Seriously, who are you alluding too and what proof do you have?
As a good-looking young woman, I can say that @Player87 is right. Most women, and especially confident women, do not want men who feel the need to prove themselves through their looks or possessions. In fact, for me this is the biggest turn off! I am a 29 year old actress and get a lot of male attention but my boyfriends are usually in their 40s and with a belly, some of them bald indeed, but what makes them great is that they have maturity and humility, they have dignity and are respectful and are therefore lovely to be around. They usually laugh as they look back at their younger selves when they still tried to pull women through superficial efforts and their insecurity drove them to buy silly things to impress others. Genuine confidence, meaning self-love and self-respect, is very attractive and goes a long way!
So, here is your proof. :)
@Paul Proof is all around you, Paul. On this site, there are guys who changed nothing in their lives except their game and went from meeting no one to being successful with women. I have personally met some of these guys. At the very least, you have to admit that game worked for them and that regardless of what they look like, what they earn, or what they drive, they were previously unable to meet women. What additional proof can you possibly ask for from this site? –Lee
@Paul
Your cynicism is boring me.
Success doesn’t look like a straight line OR one of Eric’s nappy pubes. Success is qualitative data so you can’t measure it by quantitative means. So as clever or inspiring as the pictures may be, they’re inaccurate and you should probably be ashamed of yourselves for falling for such logical trickery. :)
@SpeedBump Are you saying that success can never be measured? No one is more successful than anyone else? There are no teachers or students? No one can be said to be capable of doing something amazing? Or am I misinterpreting? Please follow up. –Lee
You can argue, debate, discuss, and question success. But you can’t measure it because every person has a different definition of what it is. There’s no universal standard. It’s like saying your mom is better than his mom, or your god is better than her god. It’s so personal that any information presented to the contrary is going to be rejected out of pride or passion. For some people, success would be getting them to keep their mouths shut for five minutes. Just don’t tell them that. Especially if they’re only in the eighth grade and therefore know everything. :)
Speed Bump, your line of thought is off track. Success can be measured when the definition is agreed upon and relates to a tangible goal. If you’ve set yourself a goal to run 100 metres and you did, you were successful. Quite simple really.
speed bump:
yeah you’ve missed the point entirely here. Keep it simple.
I think he was looking for the existential philosophy blog and took a wrong turn:-)
@Paul
Over the past ten years I have gone from being a rather lonely quiet man in a menial job to being successful with women, my career and have developed a great social life.
I did this by raising my confidence. By wearing better clothes, having a better haircut and working on my social skills I became the man I am now. Also, I relate to what Eric has said. I am that confident now that I am no longer scared of failure.
Actually, I kind of agree with SpeedBump, but I think S.B. is a bit too ‘meta’ for this particular post.
I mean, some people consider wealth/house/etc. success–I don’t. I link success more with knowledge/learning. So everyone has a different notion.
However, Speedbump, there’s generally at least some trajectory of progression from being crap with women to being decent with women–and that’s kind of what we’re getting at here. So your almost post-modernist approach is probably a bit out of place! :)
@Paul–You really need some help and I think that coming here is not helping you out. You’re completely fixated on a generally false reality (although a lot of people feel the same way you do) and you need to find a way to let go in order to move forward.
liking your style, totally agree
@GoodyearBlimp – For me a large part of my defined goals and definition of success is being free to express myself, and being free from inhibition. If I can one a day go up to a girl that I feel the urge to talk to and say `Hi, I thought you were cute and wanted to say Hi’ that does wonders for my general level of happiness *regardless* of whether I get a phone number or whether it goes anywhere.
ok guys listen:
When people reach success, they want more. But it does not always going to be a smooth easy ride: there will be set-backs and failures long the way….hence the diagram.
It’s simple as that. I’m basically repeating Eric here.
Steve
That’s right. This was the point of the article and nothing else.
It’s a simple and clear statement.
And no success goes without setbacks, no matter how you define your success.
Personally, my biggest success in life is overcoming traumatic abuse from my childhood, which meant facing many very difficult feelings, but was key to finding my self-worth and self-expression in the end. This definitely didn’t happen without setbacks.
Building my career also didn’t go without unexpected obstacles, which is normal I think.
And I am sure there are many more setbacks and obstacles to come!
It’s all part of life!
We often think of these things as the hard parts of life but they are the beautiful parts because they hold potential for growth and power. They are blessings in disguise.