On the forum, Zhelyazko asks:

[It's been said that] only 7% of all communication is verbal the other percents are in way of speaking and body language.

Do you agree with the findings of this study and what does it mean?

How you tell a story is way more important than what the story actually is?

The underlying question here is, considering the importance of body language, how important is the actual content of what you say?

Is it worth crafting and working on a specific stories to use over and over or is it better to just ‘wing it’ and focus on body language and delivery?

Lately, I’ve been using an opinion opener/story that goes like this.

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The reluctant groom may be more than just a macho stereotype; it may be an in-built evolutionary mechanism that reflects the differences between male and female mating strategies.

In How to Get Her to be Your Girlfriend, I talk about why it’s advantageous for a man to not be so straightforward with a woman about his intention to make her his girlfriend.

If the ‘relationship’ is moving along at a brisk pace, it’s in his interest to get her to ask him to be exclusive rather than the other way around.

This advice does not necessarily pertain equally to men and women. It’s not just advice to try and gain the upper hand in the relationship.

This may be evolutionary by design.

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I’ve had a relatively good day.

Got up early in the morning to work out. Felt refreshed and relaxed during the day.

At 630, I meet up with my friend. We are going to hit the happy hour bars in New York City.

We meet up in the Barnes and Noble cafe. We chat a bit. Then we take a walk around Barnes and Noble.

That’s when I notice it: Anxiety.

My breathing becomes stilted and shallow. I feel a tightness in my chest and too much adrenaline in my stomach.

But it’s not approach anxiety. There are no women around to approach. It’s generalized anxiety.

Generalized anxiety is approach anxiety’s cousin. It’s an anxiety that you get just going about your day, doing things that normally don’t give you anxiety.

You may feel it in the morning while cooking breakfast. Or in the afternoon at work.

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