Why Women are Attracted to Older Men
by 
Eric Disco
“Wearing a white shirt in the rain. Women are staring at my chest,” I text her.
“C’mon,” she texts back. “Can you blame them for ogling?”
She gets the joke immediately.
If she had sent me a text that men were ogling her chest, it would not have been funny. It could have been true.
The other way around? Not so much.
Why is it ridiculous when I say it but not when she does?
Neko Case, once voted by Playboy as the Sexiest Babe in Indie Rock, is now 40 years old.
She laments that female rock stars don’t get groupies, unlike their male counterparts.
“No, ladies in bands don’t get ANY action,” she says. A chorus of female rock stars chime in to agree with her.
The reason that male rock stars are more likely to get throngs of groupies is the same reason that women are less likely to ogle men’s bodies.
Women are attracted to very different things than men are.
All of my friends who are decent with women would agree that their age is hardly a liability in attracting and dating younger women.
There are certain venues where age is prohibitive, such as online dating, where women seeking out men will filter based on logical preference.
But in person, a 25-year-old woman is just as likely to respond to a 40-year-old man as she is to a 25-year-old man.
And this is not simply conjecture by friends of mine with inflated egos.
It’s science.
There is a very specific reason why women are attracted to older men and not the other way around.
At Colgate University, a study was conducted where 300 male and female students rated facial features that were subtly altered on Identi-Kit models.
Identi-Kit is used by police to build pictures of sought-after persons.
Facial composites constructed from Identi-Kit materials were used to assess the impact of characteristically mature and immature eyebrows, eyes, lips, and jaws on perceptions of social dominance and attractiveness. Male and female faces were identically composed except for hair.
Subjects rated faces on scales for dominance and attractiveness. Mature traits were hypothesized to make all faces look dominant and male faces appear attractive. Female faces were predicted to look attractive when displaying immature, nondominant facial cues.
The results confirmed that mature traits generally raised dominance and attractiveness ratings for male faces.
The traits that successfully raised dominance ratings for male faces made females look less attractive. Eye size had the most reliable effect on both dominance and attractiveness ratings for female faces. Eyes that make females look nondominant also made them look attractive.
The reason that women are attracted to older men and men are less likely to be attracted to older women: dominance.
Dominance is an aphrodisiac for women.
In animals, physical and social traits identify dominance in males.
Social dominance is measured by success in attracting mates and forming coalitions with other males. In other words: high status. The rock star.
Physical markers indicating dominance differ in species and include things like horn size in sheep and graying in gorillas. Physical dominance markers often coincide with age markers.
In primates, the “square jaw” is attractive because primates with fully-developed teeth have a stronger jaw and they can use those teeth to intimidate other individuals.
As men age, they are more likely to achieve higher social status and be socially dominant. This makes men more attractive as they get older.
However, dominant attributes, such as a square jaw and rock star status, only benefit males when it comes to attraction. Females tend to attract mates via the “cute response.”
Infantile features such as thick lips and large eyes are appealing because they stimulate the caretaking response.
When maintained into adulthood, these physical attributes are attractive because they display youth and nondominance.
The fact that men are much more sensitive to youth and physical beauty is not surprising. After a certain age, women are completely unable to reproduce, where as men are physically able to reproduce their entire lives.
The differential expression of attraction between men and women reflects that.
You could almost write it on a greeting card: I get sexier as I get older. For men, at least, it’s true.
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Very interesting new age preference analysis results!!! I had previously posted the results of a mini experiment. Responding to Paul’s claim that even older women would prefer younger men, I did a little search using Match.com. I searched for women in their early forties within 10 miles of my zip code. I took the first ten – a random sample – and computed their average age preferences. I regressed these against their ages to show that, contrary to Paul’s beliefs, these women preferred, on average men who are 12% older – about 5 years older. I further hypothesized that younger women would prefer an even bigger age difference. Paul disagreed. So I repeated my experiment for women between the ages of 21 and 25 (inclusive), again using a random sample – the first 30 women returned by a search within 10 miles of my zip code (10003 in NYC). This time, my sample size was 30, which I can show by a technique called a bootstrap is large enough to estimate the true standard deviation. Here are the results: The average age of the women is 23.47. The average age of the men these women prefer to date is 30.95, or a difference of 7.48 years. In other words, I was correct – these women prefer, on average, men who are 32% older, a bigger difference than was preferred by women in their early forties. But the story does not end there. On Match.com, these women are asked to provide a range for the ages of the men they will date. Hence, we have two numbers, a lower bound and an upper bound. The mean of the two is the previously mentioned difference of 7.48 years. If I use just the upper bound, the mean upper bound difference these women are willing to accept is 12.9 years. This number also has a standard deviation. It’s 10.3. This means that 19% of women of this age will accept men who are more than 1 standard deviation older than the upper bound – in other words, men who are 12.9 + 10.3 = 23 years older than themselves, or about TWICE their age! I am saying this again in case it is not clear: Among women in their early twenties, about one in five is willing to date men twice her age! Dudes, there is now no denying this effect. I will put money on this with anyone who wants to challenge me by doing a random sample from any major dating site and measuring the age difference preference. I also looked to see if there is a different preference among the more attractive women and, as far as I can tell, it is the same as the preferences of the group as a whole. Anyone who wants to see the actual profile names of the women who came up randomly in my search is welcome to see the list. You can verify for yourselves that these women come up in the first few pages of the search as explained above (though a slightly different set will come up each time you do the search). –Lee
These stats on what women prefer or will accept as age differences in dates or mates are not any better than the raw data (stated preferences on match sites). The age ranges women give only reflect in part what they want. The ranges also reflect what is considered socially acceptable (it is considered “good” in most places for a young woman to date a man about 7 years older than herself) and what they think they can get (older women expressing reduced ranges).
A younger woman may want to be with an older man for various reasons but that doesn’t mean she feels sexual desire for the guy. And even if a 20-year-old woman might feel actual desire for a 45-year-old, when she’s 40 and he’s 65 she is likely to find him boring and repulsive. So think twice.
OK Cupid does an age analysis of men and women’s messaging habits. The finding:
“Women have more pursuers than men until age 26, but thereafter a man can expect many more potential dates than a woman of the same age. At the graph’s outer edge, at age 48, men are nearly twice as sought-after as women.â€ÂÂ
Eric
Here is my age preference data set in graphical form. The red line is the max of the age range preferences. The green line is the mid of the age range preferences. And the blue line is the min of the age range preferences. All 30 of my test subjects are shown:
http://approachanxiety.com/age_dif_pref_chart.pdf
–Lee
Guys, you have no idea how much I thank you for this information! I didn’t understand why I was so attracted to older men. I feel like the blinders have come off. I finally understand!
Also, learning your wise, older-man tricks made me giggle. I tend to be cautious of older men because they know how to achieve desired responses, but honestly, even if I do know their tricks, if they are good tricks I will still fall for them.
Charisma, a few gray hairs, strength (a form of power, of course), and a lot of knowledge and wisdom make me weak in the knees.
Seeing as how I’m 20, I’m not much into 40+ year olds … yet. Haha, but I see how that could easily change.
Thank you for the honesty and insight.
Keep the information coming!
Okay, so women want older men. I get it. But an age difference of 7 years on average is not that great. A 55 year old man that pursues a girl in her early 20s always comes off as creepy. What could a man probably want from such a young girl? Clearly not an equal life partner or a mother for his future children. Men may not suffer from menopause, but the quality of their sperm still diminishes and the chance to father disabled children increases greatly even at the age of 30+. In their early 20s girls want to be courted by men their ages or slightly (!) older men. They want to go to the discos and bars, get drunk, complete their education, but average young girls don´t want to be babied by an old (which means 35+) man. “Women” do not like (much!) older men. Some do, but not the average. An average 55 years old geezer has to be content with a woman in her late fourties, if he is not incredibly rich or a celebrity. Looks may not be as important to women, but not unimportant either – and, let´s face it, most men in the age of 45+ are not that attractive anymore.
@Syzygy You are right, a seven year difference is not shocking but, for women in their early 20s, a 7 year difference is only the average. Their stated upper bound is 12 years. But that upper bound also has a lot of variation, which means that some women will accept men that are even older. Something like one in 5 women of that age will accept a man older than 40. Again, this is not the average, but it’s a significant fraction. You are also right that most men will not want that kind of difference. This is good news for the men who do. –Lee
@Syzygy
“An average 55 years old geezer has to be content with a woman in her late fourties, if he is not incredibly rich or a celebrity. Looks may not be as important to women, but not unimportant either ”
sorry, thats complete bullshit! I don’t care about statistics (sorry, @Lee)
my personal reality is totally different. Young and beautiful girls feel attracted to me all the time. I don’t care about relationships however, these may turn boring fast. It’s just sex. Older women are for the talking and may make for good friends. Why should I restrict myself as long as it works for me??? In general, it is obvious for me that men maintain deeply rooted limiting beliefs about how the male-female relationship is/or has to be structured in our society. And guess what; it works perfectly as this thread shows once more. Almost everybody has locked himself into a small cage and now claims: “This is reality!”
You are right, it is reality, because you believe it is. Referring to science is pretty much useless. Why? Because what scientists actually do is research and measure the results of prevailing belief structures. They don’t care about the far out edges of the bell curve. Nobody pays them to do that. What’s even worse is, that they as well confuse beliefs (which always can be changed) with reality.
@JonathanA We almost always agree, and we certainly agree on the basic premise that younger women can and do often want older (and sometimes much older) men. However, I take exception to your comment about science here. Scientists are very interested in the tails of the bell curve. It’s where all of the most interesting behavior occurs, whether in sports, in social science, in longevity, and in virtually every other field of study. Mindset may be the dominant factor, but it doesn’t mean we can’t say something about behavior as a whole. In this case, data obtained by studying behavior as a whole support the idea that young women are very flexible with respect to the age of their romantic partners. –Lee
@Jonathan and Lee–
I’d qualify that–GOOD scientists are concerned about the tails of the bell curve–although most of academia is pretty stodgy :)
I think that Jonathan has a good point about many studies reinforcing traditional belief structures because entire research projects are themselves constrained by those theoretical frameworks–it takes some real creativity to break out of it–and I’d argue that most academics aren’t that creative (I’m actually presenting a paper on that subject in a couple of days–different field, though!
But the way to play the dating game is definitely on the margins as both of you suggest–that’s the only way to realize that personal realities don’t have to reflect the prevailing social models.
@Lee
I have no doubts that you as a scientist know well how to place yourself at the very right end of the Gauss curve, absolutely, and you deserve my full respect.
@Lee
When you say:
“You are right, a seven year difference is not shocking but, for women in their early 20s, a 7 year difference is only the average. Their stated upper bound is 12 years. But that upper bound also has a lot of variation, which means that some women will accept men that are even older. Something like one in 5 women of that age will accept a man older than 40. Again, this is not the average, but it’s a significant fraction. You are also right that most men will not want that kind of difference. This is good news for the men who do.”
Do you mean for relationships or strictly sexual?
I would theorize the statistics of women in their early twenties accepting older men for strictly sexual purposes to be greatly higher than if they were hoping for a serious relationship. I would easily believe the 1 in 5 ratio sexually, but when it comes to finding a long-term partner, I find it highly unlikely.
@YoungFemme Those stats I don’t have, but I’d be surprised if you were right. For pure sex, it’s the younger, more physically fit, more traditionally handsome man who I assume would be more attractive. The older man is more interesting, more accomplished, more stable, and more concerned with starting a family. This view is also supported by the cross-cultural variation in marriage age differences. For example, in South America, where birth rates are higher and family life has a more prominent role, the age difference between men and women tends to be even greater than it is here – in some cases, significantly greater. I think you have it backwards. Young women choose older men for marriage and younger men for sex. –Lee
I am 14 years old as of 2011, and I will be 15 in early 2012, and I am so attracted to older men, even men older than my dad and he’s 53 will be 54 in 2012, there’s men the same age as my dad and mum that I like, men older than my mum, and men younger than both of my parents that I have crushes on, but all the men I am really attracted to are 18 or older.
of course you are attracted to men 18+ and the reason is that boys your age (around 15) and not men yet. they are just boys still maturing and slowly becoming men. when I was your age I was also attracted to older guys than those at my age.
I am 24 (female) and I am attracted to a 50 years old man and the reason is just everything mentioned in the article. he is not handsome at the first sight and if I met him on the street I would not look at him. but when we talk I feel there is a strong charisma coming out of him, we are colleagues and he knows so much about his work and the whole thing that I cant help it but adore him. he has this british sense of humor, not really hillarious but funny anyway (if you get his point) and is very kind to everyone, not necessarily showing off his higher position and power in the company. he seems to notice my affection and what I absolutely adore about him is how he is dealing with my feelings (his daughter is older than me!), he lets me enjoy it and have fun with it and never lets me down. he even seems to enjoy attraction of a much younger woman. any other man younger than him (mean around or up to 30) would imemdiately laugh at me, tell about it to everyone and would give me hard times about my feelings. even though this particular man is not interested in me as a woman he is still polite and simply a gentleman.
and yes, young women are attracted to older men because they are already mature enough and know how to handle a woman in any state/mood…
I don´t think that older men are more mature and know how to handle a woman. At least not the ones that are only attracted to young girls. Believe me. They often are the most persistent, creepy men. They think you owe them attention because of their money, life experience, et cetera, and they won´t leave you alone if your ignore their desperate approaches, because they think you are playing “hard to get”. Because of the media people think it´s *common* for 50+ guys to be in a relationship with more than 20 years younger women, and while that may be true for Hollywood and the “high society” (at least the celebrities) it´s not standard for “ordinary mortals”. Some or even many old men still wish to be with younger girls, but *most* younger girls and women (such as me for example^^) could live without being hit on by old men.
yes, Lori, you are probably right. many older men hang out with much younger women just to entertain their lives and maybe have some fun (they cant have with their “old” wives). anyway, I only have this one experience with older man (not even an experience, just a crush maybe) and whenever I think about it I can clearly imagine life with him. on the other hand I cant really imagine having a boyfriend/husband at my age (at the moment). guys up to 30 seem strange to me, with all my modesty I have to say they have nothing to offer to me (and I am not a model or anything special), I just know my values and also values I am searching for in a man and I have never found any of them in a guy around my age. thats probably the main reason I am attracted to a man at my fathers age. but maybe it is just this particulat man… he had a chance to go out with me and have some fun and who knows how it would end ( he only had to wink at me and I would do anything for him and he knew it) but he denied the invitation. at first I was completely damaged but then I understood he still has his wife and has no reason to “cheat ” on her and I admire his decision.
i pretty much understand my 22 years old friend who married 40 years old man because she loved him and had similar problem as I do, but they are getting divorced after 4 years of marriage because he could not get used to his younger wife and could not keep the track with her… and that, I would say, is pretty sad.
I’m a single 37yr old man working security in a shopping mall, in my job I have made many new friends with most of the shop owners n staff it just happens most of them are women of various ages (16-60), because yes I am single I am also open to the possibility of finding “my girl” so Im kinda in tune with the many n various different signs, messages n body language (movements n postures etc) that show possible sings of interest or attraction and I have to confess I find women 40+ (or older than me) see me as “nice guy but too young”, about 60% of women 30-40 see me as “nice guy to have as a great friend” (the other 40% just dont know me yet haha) and about 25% of the younger women 18-30 seem to eye me off n check me out (Ive seen them watching me from the corner of their eye n listening in on my conversations with collegues n customers/friends when Im near their store) some of them are more brasen n give me sweet smiles n cute little waves sometimes followed with an angelic “Hi Dann”..
Ive recently asked out a 29yr old woman, a blue eyed brunette, that occasionally works in a store at the mall, she said yes.. I happened to let this slip with my work mates in about 3 days almost everyone knew (was not happy), one of the male store ownes called out to me “HEY THERE LOVERBOY..” I was shocked n slightly angered I replied “NAH MATE..” shaking my head “She’s not my girl, I’ve only asked her out to lunch it mightn’t go anywhere yet..”, I think this is maybe why it didnt work out, word got out n it ruined everything.. Anyway about 1 week after I discovered it wasnt goin to work one of the young girls (a 19yr old, blue eyed brunette lol) from **** bar asked me ”Did you ask out the tall brunette from **** hut” I said ”Yes I did, she said yes but it didnt work out” she blushed alittle n smiled said ”Oh ok, well maybe you’ll have better luck next time..” kinda flashed her eyelashes gave me alittle wave n said ”I’ve got to go I’ll see you when Im back at work” as she walked away with her friend she glanced over her shoulder at me n smiled when I noticed her..
Now can you tell me whats goin on here (if anything) and what should I do ?? I do like this girl, and it has absolutely nothing to do with sex or how sexy and beautiful she is, shes friendly, open minded, smart, kind, honest (as far as I can tell so far lol) she’s demure n oh so sweet but Im holding off asking her out because of her age I am not a dirty old man or a sexual predator Im not a creep or a stalker and Im not a weirdo that just couldnt get a girl, I chose to be single because the women I wanted when I was 20ish always seemed to want older men, I just couldnt compete rarely Id get the girl but she was never the one I really wanted. Now Im the older man I seem to get untold amounts of female attentions all from ”beautiful younger women”…
Ago all the BS in the media about cougars and older men being creeps worthy of death by shaming is not as common as they make it out to be? Then why do they say these things? HereI am feeling trapped into dating used up hags my own age when I could have been dating a hot younger chick? What possible interest does the fag run media have in the age differences old hetero couples and why the obsession to take
older men out of the dating scene?
A cobbler should stick to his last ;)
Why do they make it seem as if old cougar dykes are every mans dream and that older men should just build there own coffin and have their hag old a wife bury them in it and then dance on their grave along with their younger new lover?
Because old men are apparently only interested in young girls and leave their “old hag wives” they have been married to for 30 years for a fling with 25 years old bimbo.
As you see, youth is not only attractive to men but to women as well.
LOL as a girl around 25, I have to tell you we are not equally attracted to 25 yo men and 40 yo men. None of the girls I know would ever date a guy that old. I’m sorry if this hurts someone’s feelings, but these guys you know are really deluding themselves.
@Cathy
I would love to meet with your 25 year old friends to discuss this subject… as a purely academic exercise, of course. As I am much older, I am sure you’ll agree that there’s little danger of any of your friends becoming attracted to me :-)
–Lee
“these guys you know are really deluding themselves”
No we are not as my experience says different story.
In last 10 years I did not have a girlfriend older than 25 ( must be none of your friends )
We had great times, yes we broke up but we are still friends.
Try to stay a friend with one of 25 when you brake up with him.
IMPOSSIBLE isn’t it?
Cathy–I’m not 40–however you’re a bit deluded. If two people like each other, the ‘rules’ people set for themselves go out the window. Most of the 25 year olds that go out with guys who are good with women tell themselves the same thing (I’d never date a guy over x).
Same with looks, height, weight, etc. The short guys who are good at this have no trouble dating the girls who say ‘I’ll only date a guy over 6’1′. The academics on here have no trouble with the girls who only go for jocks. It’s because they know how to connect with women–and most guys suck at it.
The point is that attraction overrides social convention.
Also–what does ’40′ mean? If you’re talking about a sleazy pathetic 40 year old who spends his live following 18 year olds around, then yeah—that guys’ pathetic. If you’re talking about a youthful 40 year old who sees life like a 32 year old–he’s much more accessible to a younger girl.
So your ‘rules’ are nutty. You just haven’t met any quality 40 somethings yet :)
I was responding to this:
“But in person, a 25-year-old woman is just as likely to respond to a 40-year-old man as she is to a 25-year-old man.”
Sure there are exceptions but I’m only being honest when I say that the 25 year-old woman is MUCH more likely to respond to the 25 year-old man. The author’s statement is simply incorrect, sorry.
I agree. For any one to state that a 25 year old woman will respond as favorably to a a 40 year old woman has a couple of marbles lose. Of course if that dude is celebrity or something, then it could happen. But overall, that is a pipedream until otherwise proven.
oops I meant a 25 year old woman will respond as favorably to a a 40 year old man. Thats funny.
women have a maximal time frame with which to capitalize in the dating arena. after that, each year, each day, is a gradual slide into obsolescence.
sad but true, in attraction, women are the sprinters, and men are the marathoners.
Most women don’t want to hear this, but what you stated is absolutely the truth.
Kelly and Cathy, I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings but you are both idiots who care too much about what other people think about you. In the 6 months, I’ve dated a 21 year old respiratory tech student, a 21 year old college student, a 25 year old desk jockey and a 27 year old nurse. I’m pretty picky about dating attractive women. I’m not including the 23 year old I recently banged at a wedding :). I’m 37.
I’m not saying this to brag (well, maybe a little bit). I’m saying this to send a message to all those guys out there reading Kelly and Cathy’s remarks and taking them to heart. Don’t listen!!! Look, I been rejected and flaked on too many times to count. Sometimes for being too old, sometimes for being brown, sometimes for not being good looking, sometimes for being an asshole. I get rejected for way more other reasons than being older. I MUST say that I’m physically fit, overeducated and have a pretty awesome job. But these are all things that I have had control over. I make 25 year old guys look like children because of my accomplishments and confidence (don’t worry 25 year old guys, you’ll get there as long as you work on yourselves).
At 18-32, I could not get laid or get a girlfriend to save my life. I was extremely depressed about this…but hard work and sites like Eric’s helped tremendously to get me where I am (I’d love to get training but going to New York repeatedly is too hard for me). Learning to meet women in public has been one of the harder things I have undertaken (and I have a medical degree). Btw, for the haters, being a doctor has really not helped me that much. I do believe that one needs accomplishments, passion and a fit body to meet women when you are older. BUT I could have been Dr. Brad Pitt from 26-32 and still not get laid (I had a 6 year dry spell during and after school, haha). I was that hopeless.
I’m looking back over this and it seems kinda boastful. But really I hope there are guys out there who are like the younger me who will read this and ignore what Cathy and Kelly are saying. I thought like that waaaay too much in my 20′s and early 30′s. It is really the only regret I have. I have absolutely NO regrets about putting the time in, approaching and improving myself. To tell you the truth, I had no other options…I needed to handle this.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to text a cute 25 year old blogger I met last week and try to get her out. By the way, Cathy and Kelly, if you are over 30 and not cute, I probably would not approach you, let alone date you. Just saying.
Peace
@Cathy. Oops, you are 25! Missed that. I would date you…if you are cute. And not a bitch.
Hey Daniel,
This is inspiring to read. I am 34 and having lots of problems getting a girlfriend or getting laid. But I am getting good reactions and sometimes numbers and dates from beautiful young girls, sometimes 20 years old, much more than when I was younger. I also feel I am kind of forced into mastering cold approach by life circumstances, that give me loneliness and frustration. So again, it’s encouraging to read what you wrote.
@ Daniel,
right, I am a woman (25) and think the age does not matter at all. depends on what the two are able to give to each other and if they feel fine about it. even a woman at my age can be educated and mature enough to be with an older man. being 25 does not mean I have only recently passed my teens and still behave like one.
so yes, I totally agree with you.
Well… I came here to read this article because i am trying to understanding from a physiological or biological point of view why it is that I am attracted to younger woman. I know some people are going to call me creepy. So, past all the ad Hominem attacks, I’ll share some facts with you. From age twenty to forty, I was always attracted to older women. In fact when I was 38 I lived with a beautiful woman 11 years older. Whom was a model and a fitness fanatic. Now I am little confused. I have few females friends. Some of them are well aware that I have romantic intentions for us. Some don’t know it. And others, I just don’t know what’s going on. They are friends, they come to my house for tea and movies we cuddle. We got out to concerts and theater and other events. What confuses me is that I am very happy with all my friends and with this semi romantic connections. However neither of all this friends is over forty years old. I am fifty five. I don’t want to keep any woman from her potential man of her own age. Nor i want to let go of a potential partner that finds happiness with me. I am not rushing to anything, so for now whatever is going on is fine with me.
Hugo–there’s nothing creepy about being 55 and being interested in women under 40. I’d call that….completely normal.
If you were 55 and say interested in, say, teenagers, that would be a bit of an issue.
Women do not like older men. Woman like men with status. If you have two men with same status, but one is 20 and other 50, 20 year old will always be more atractive.
Really? Do you think that twenty five year olds find Justin Bieber more attractive than Daniel Craig? Robert Pattison more attractive than Brad Pitt? At the very least, you must admit that that question is far from easy to answer.
–Lee
“Women do not like older men. Woman like men with status. If you have two men with same status, but one is 20 and other 50, 20 year old will always be more atractive.”
Really? Are you sure you’re not just thinking of a 20 year old who looks like Christiano Ronaldo? What if it’s an average 20 year old who isn’t super gorgeous? Why would he be more attractive than an older guy? Actually, I’m pretty convinced that unless a woman is under 25, she will probably choose the older guy just because mature women usually don’t like guys that young. Even in terms of looks, lots of women say that guys get much better looking when they get to their mid 20s. The Justin Bieber types mostly just appeal to girls under 17, and that’s actually because they have lower female hormone levels, so they prefer less masculine faces.
Now if we were to compare a 30 year old and a 50 year old with the same status, still it would depend on lots of things other than age. I’m a 24 year old guy and I would choose Halle Berry over Megan Fox any day. That’s because I prefer Halle Berry’s looks. Women have preferences too you know. And women are actually less drawn to youthful features than men are.
Mr. Hugo – Very encouraging! Have you ever figured out how you were able to make so many female friends? You seem to have found a very happy balance with this.
More than anything, women respond to confidence. Eric, Lee and most others on this site have hammered on this point countless times and its true.
Every time I do an approach, and there is even the slightest hesitation or approval seeking in the way I come across, the interaction goes down the drain very very quickly.
on the other hand, a non-thinking approach , because there’s no hesitation, tends to work out better than expected.
Older men in general , because of their life experiences, tend to have more innate confidence in general.
Here is the article that every women should read before getting involved seriously with much older men. As he might be still atractive at his 40 ties, for 20 years old (if he takes care of him, and this is not very often) But with upcoming years he is not going to get better, as men get older too. Even if they dont want to accept it.
http://www.tebyan.net/newindex.aspx?pid=43013
And yes, the most women are not attracted to much older men. if all of men had the same recources, young women would certainely pick young men over much older. All women find young men much more attractive physically, yes we are not blind. But women do not delude themselves that they can win over younger, if they are looking for longterm relationship. That is why they do not chase younger men.
Just so you know, that’s partially wrong. Men do become infertile and even unable to get hard for that matter. Also, the older the man is, the more likely any children he has at an old age will have mental and/or physical deformities, but that’s if he is able to still. Men are best for reproduction -prime- is at age 18…for women, around 30.
The rest, I believe you hit right on the nail. I find older men more attractive. I love maturity and dominance. They know what they want and go for it. I like a man who knows what he wants, is ambitious, intellectual, and mature.
To the OP of this article, do you mind not saying “why WOMEN are attracted to older men” and say “why S O M E women are attracted to older men” , because I am most assuredly N O T attracted to older males and I will not date them. There’s nothing wrong with maturity, ect, but I don’t have to become romantically/sexually involved with someone to enjoy a mature conversation. I can just have older friends and get that.
Anyway…peace.
“To the OP of this article, do you mind not saying “why WOMEN are attracted to older men†and say “why S O M E women are attracted to older men†, because I am most assuredly N O T attracted to older males and I will not date them. There’s nothing wrong with maturity, ect, but I don’t have to become romantically/sexually involved with someone to enjoy a mature conversation. I can just have older friends and get that.
Anyway…peace.”
I smell troll ^