Nothing Lasts Forever

by Eric Disco
Jun 20

She nuzzles my chest as she lies in my arms.

“Alright, I’m kicking your ass out,” I say to her with a smile. I give her a smack on the ass. “I gotta do some work.”

“Look at you, all motivated,” she says, sitting up in bed.

It’s Sunday morning. We woke twice in the middle of the night, once to fuck and then later when a torrential spring downpour sent occasional rain droplets in through the partially open window next to my bed.

“I keep getting splashed by raindrops,” she said before I closed the window.

As she puts her clothes on, we talk a little bit about our plans for the day. When she’s dressed, I walk her to the door.

I pull her into me and kiss her on the lips. I taste her newly-applied lip gloss. I close my eyes and breathe in her kisses before watching her walk out.

I close the door behind her. I’ll miss her later that day.

We’ve been dating for almost a year. Is she the one for me? Am I ready to commit? Who knows. All I know is that I’m enjoying it.

And I’m enjoying her.

I’ve had many relationships. I’ve met many women. I’ve gone from a guy who can’t for anything open his mouth and talk to a woman he doesn’t know, unhappy in all his relationships, to a guy who can talk to almost any woman anywhere.

When you’re not yet having sex with anyone or dating any women, it is very frustrating.

You can train your body to be outcome independent. I do it all the time with my clients.

But over time, the frustration builds. That’s how us guys are built.

For most women, the longer they go without sex, the less they want it. For guys, it’s the opposite. The longer we go without sex, the more frustrated we get. It’s evolutionarily programmed into us so that we don’t sit on our asses until we get old and die.

Things are better once you start having sex. You’re more relaxed. There’s less frustration.

When you’re already having sex, it’s easier to be successful with women. It’s a cruel trick Nature played on us. When we want it less, it is more likely that it will go somewhere.

So it’s easy to think to yourself, “This sucks. Things will be better once I start having sex.”

But that frustration can motivate you if you know how to tap into it. It’s like riding a wild horse that at first seems unruly.

How do you tame that unruly beast called frustration?

Learn to appreciate everything, even the smallest interactions.

Look at it this way, there’s a good chance that even if you do get all those good things you want, if you can’t appreciate your life now–you never will.

But if you can learn to appreciate even the smallest of interactions with women now, then finally when your life is full of abundance, you will enjoy it even more.

I still have failures–too many to count. It happens on a daily basis for me. Women are unpredictable creatures.

There is no endpoint. Relationships are not what they seem from the outside. Sometimes I wonder whether my current situations are what I want to be in. Am I wasting my time? Is she right for me?

No matter how good you get with women, if you are truly putting yourself into things with women, you still risk heartbreak.

I’ve decided though, whether it’s a brief, warm smile from a woman who’s responded to my request for directions and walked away, or a deep, trusting, sexually fulfilling relationship built up over time, the best thing I can do is appreciate her.

Nothing lasts forever. Even a monogamous, 70-year relationship ends as life ends. But if I can learn to appreciate her now, regardless of what happens, I’ve won half the fight.

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posted in Self-Improvement Strategies

COMMENTS
12 responses
Scott says:

That is some high level zen shit. Notes have been taken…

Nick says:

Have to agree that as women go longer with sex, they actually need it less. In fact, they eventually almost forget about it until a great guys shows them again how wonderful it can be.

I’ve definitely taken things for granted in the past. Now I’ve come to realize how important it is to appreciate those in your life every day. Don’t take for granted the relationships and connections you have, you really don’t know how things will end up. Excellent post man.

Zhelyazko says:

Love the way Scott puts it. :)

Cameron says:

Great point Eric, I think we all need to work on appreciation.

puavault says:

So apropos, as I might have to say goodbye to a girl I’ve been hanging out for the past few months (my fault really, she found evidence of another on my bed :D – tho she knew it wasn’t exclusive, no one wants to be reminded of that). I think part of getting better at this journey is also be learn how to deal with these goodbyes – some might stop simply talking to you, or make themselves scarce, but a few will hurt you just as well as you say goodbye, because, heck, us men are human too.

Stephen says:

awesome. simple as.

You really need to get a lot more publicity Eric, you are the best and most intelligent pick-up artist out there.

Steve

KL says:

So basically the more frustrated you are, the humbler your goals have to be. And then as you achieve those goals, and move to higher levels, your frustration will decrease. In a way, frustration is a signal that you need to set easier goals for yourself.

Carl888 says:

“And then as you achieve those goals, and move to higher levels, your frustration will decrease. In a way, frustration is a signal that you need to set easier goals for yourself.”

And vice versa: When your frustration is gone and your life is entirely satisfying you need to challenge yourself again.

Zhelyazko says:

Great advice KL.

Zhelyazko

Angela says:

Actually, that isn’t true about women.

Cameron says:

Are you sexually frustrated Angela? :-)

Steve says:

“Are you sexually frustrated Angela? :-)”

hahahaha

I think Eric knows more about women than women know about women Angela

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