How to Effect Her Emotionally
by 
Eric Disco
Storytelling is one of the most powerful ways to connect with with women–and people in general.
The reason it’s so powerful is because women are attracted to powerful men.
And if you can affect her emotionally, she senses that you can affect anyone like this.
Imagine you are a piano teacher. You’re in conversation with a woman and asks you, “What do you do?”
You could respond, “I’m a piano teacher.”
Or, you could respond with something more emotional, letting her in on what inspires you, what challenges you, and what makes you keep doing it.
Check out this amazing clip below by a guy named Benjamin Zander.
You would be well-off if you could communicate in your conversations even a fraction of what he does here.
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Great reminder… Do you have an example of what one could say instead? I’ve heard your “playful” side to answering this question, but never the “emotional” side.
I work in IT, so it’s not the most glamourous career, but I think I use a good example of this. I explain the end-to-end work I do, and then go on about how I love it because it impacts peoples productivity, and how we see real results and changes in the way people work. How I get a kick out of it and how it’s such a satisfying job.
Here is how I normally answer the question when someone asks what I do.
Eric
Hi Justin,
What you’re talking about sounds great. I work in IT as well. If I share that I work in IT, I like to share with them a specific incident. I’ll say something like this:
This is a cute story, and shows off some good things about me–although it’s not super deep in emotional content.
In terms of providing emotional content for something seemingly as cut and dry as IT, you should really check out this video, called The Internet is My Religion. Wanna see how you can tug at someone’s heartstrings simply by talking about the internet? Watch this:
http://www.livestream.com/pdf2011/video?clipId=pla_8a026681-a944-4459-a735-6ff526f72b5a
Eric
Ben Zander is the man. I used to work for an organization that got to perform under his baton in Boston. Check out the book he co-wrote with his wife, “The Art of Possibility”.