How a Guy can know when a Girl is Interested
Eric Disco
This post is from Josef via Reddit.
I’m a gay man, and I think that’s why I’ve been able to notice these so well. I made this post so hopefully more guys can see it.
How a guy can know when a girl is interested:
- If you’re talking to a cashier and she tells you for any reason when she gets off work, she wants you to come back.
- If a girl gives you her number, on some level she is interested. Meaning she gives it to you without you prompting her first, though often if she gives it to you after you ask her it still means she’s interested.
- If a girl repeatedly mentions how she wishes she had a nice guy to date, she is interested.
- If a girl asks about your relationship status out of the blue, she is interested.
- If a girl you don’t know approaches you and asks for the time, but then lingers in your vicinity, she wants you to come back up and approach her because she is interested.
- If a girl who is not a best-friend type suggests watching a movie when you two are hanging out alone, she wants something to happen. She is interested.
- If a girl says she “needs to talk to you”, but then it ends up being something really stupid like “I don’t know what colour to dye my hair”, then she probably chickened out of telling you she likes you.
- Physical touching while a girl is having a conversation with you usually means she is interested.
- Any time a girl seems to giggle WAY more than she should during a conversation, it means she is interested.
- If a girl you’re not very close friends with mentions the fact she broke up with her ex and is looking for someone new, by God make a move! She is interested. This could mean it’s just a rebound relationship, but nonetheless she’s interested
A girl almost never talks about wanting a one night stand to a guy unless she wants to with him. (This is more on the topic of sex than dating, but I thought I’d include it anyway)
- This one blows my mind that some guys miss! If a girl asks to sit next to you somewhere where there are other viable empty places/tables to sit at, she’s interested!
- If a girl starts talking about “how well you two get along”, she is interested in you.
- If a non-best friend girl is with her friends and ditches them to hang out with you, she is interested in you.
- If a girl tells you she’s lonely at home (by means of text, E-Mail, FaceBook, phone, etc. etc.), she wants you to come over! She most likely is interested in you!
- If a girl says she’s really cold in an obviously warm environment, she probably wants you to warm her up (either through a hug or occasionally offering your jacket chivalrously). She’s interested in you.
- If a girl starts complaining about how all the guys just want her for sex, and that she wishes she had a sweet guy, she’s interested in you. However, I can’t guarantee she’d really be the type most guys would want to date. At the same time, this can be one of the few less obvious hints, where she is testing how you react and judging your answer to see if you’re someone she’s interested in.
- If a girl says she’s “new in town” and wants someone to show her around, nine times out of ten it’s because she’s trying to find an excuse to be around you one on one.
- If a girl seems to be smiling with you way more than she does when she talks to other people, she’s interested in you.
- I know it’s cliche, but a lot of girls still twirl their hair when flirting. Girls usually stop doing this by the time they’re 21.
- A girl who keeps beating herself up on her looks, not only is she fishing for a compliment, she’s fishing for YOUR compliment. Though this usually means she’s interested in you, she could just be looking for attention. If she does it often to multiple people, it’s probably the latter.
In most contexts, if a girl asks you how her outfit looks, she wants you to check her out. She is interested in you.
- If a girl talks about how long she spent getting ready and then asks your opinion on how she looks, she did it to impress you. (If she does this when you and her had specifically made plans to hang out, it’s even more explicit. Exceptions to this rule are weddings, parties, etc. etc.)
- Girls like confidence. If you think a girl is interested in you, go for it! The worst that happens is a no. If she has a worse reaction, she’s someone you wouldn’t want to be around anyway.
- If a girl is constantly leaving you to talk very briefly to her other female friends, then runs back to you to talk more. She is interested in you and is filling them in on all the details. This is especially true if it’s accompanied by a lot of smiling.
Disclaimer: It’s impossible to know if these are always true in every situation, but from my experience they are true. Please don’t shoot me in the face if some turn out not to work for you.
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Sounds like she likes you. Definitely time to go for it. But be cool about it–why not ask her to do something outside of school? Museum, park, hike–etc.
Keep in mind that even if she does like you it’s not a guarantee that things will work–so you have to be ok with whatever the outcome is. But yeah.. go get her!
She is on the wrestling team, studies a lot, and also tutors kids on the weekends. I’m not sure what type of place she would like to hang out at. I was just thinking about saying something in order to get her to ask me a certain question I came up with the perfect answer for.
I meant for this to be a reply to Mr. Antiquity from yesterday, but accidentally made a new post.
What does it mean when a girl sends you a text like this:
Hey boo ;*
Here are the texts for more info(she’s the blue and I’m the white):
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http://www.flickr.com/photos/61509285@N02/7927880816/in/photostream
http://www.flickr.com/photos/61509285@N02/7927880580/in/photostream
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Does this girl like me? I can be pretty oblivious sometimes. Btw, she doesn’t know who I am, we know each other, but I haven’t told her my identity yet and she said it’s killing her. She sent me that text today before noon after I didn’t text her for 2 days.
Ummm, except for the hair twirl thing and an occasional asexual touch I have never had any of these signals from a woman in my life, and I’ve been married and had many girlfriends. All I get is the stalker type who out of the blue says (in front of my gf) that she’s gonna take me into a bathroom and do me right there, or some other such insane thing.
Bad juju could I must have been born under.
P.S.: I even had a platonic gf once who would touch my knees of all places (no, I didn’t make a move, she had a bf while I had a gf, but I could tell it meant nothing to her at all, like she did that to everyone).
Why does it mean when a girl mentions that she got hit in her lip and it hurts and then one of ur friends says I will kiss it and she says no and tells you that she wNts u to do it ?
That means she likes you.
Eric
Eric – Very effective “25 points” on how to recognize interest on the part of the woman ( Josef via Reddit), but it looks like you will have to be in that social setting and not standing on the edge somewhere.
I can’t tell if this girl likes me or not, thoughts?
me: You have the most amazing smile
her: Awh :’) thank you, Seth! You are always so sweet. :))
me: I was thinking the same thing, but sweet and gorgeous (:
her: :’) <3<3<3<3
I’m clueless when it comes to signals. I can never tell if a girl is looking at me and thinking “mmm he’s cute” or if she’s thinking she just encountered the Elephant Man.
Also, I wonder if she’s laughing at me because I’m Hank Moody’s age and still doing my best to look good for my years, like some stereotypical old man trying to look young. I still have all of my hair, workout every other day, and wear jeans and black T-Shirts all of the time. Gay dudes and post menopausal women are much less subtle about “the look” they give me. But me no gay, and me no want old lady.
This shit is driving me crazy. I can’t see the body language signs (maybe a chick isn’t giving me any), and if I cold approach, my concern is she’s going to think some creepy old guy is hitting on her.
Yes, I know I shouldn’t care what a chick’s response is. Truth of the matter is I do.
Would she be intrested if she asks do you like her hair to be styled she changes it to that?says yes when I say it looks good.
Best way to know if a girl is interested is to ask her out on a date or kiss her………..When you make bold moves you’ll know if she is interested. Why wait for hints? Rejection isn’t a big deal anyway. These hints are good to know anyway just to see who does like you if you’re busy with other things and don’t have times to chase girls.