Pop quiz. Who is more of an alpha male?

A) A commando. 6 foot 6, 265 pounds of muscle. Trained in the deadliest forms of combat. Over 30 kills. Hasn’t t felt an emotion since 1997.

B) Justin Bieber.

The answer may surprise you.

It’s Justin Beiber.

Why?

People throw around the phrase alpha male, but there is a lot of misconception about what an alpha male actually is.

Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve talked a lot about how problematic it is to be too much of a nice guy.

But how do you know when you’ve crossed the line between nice guy and uncaring asshole?

This is a big fear for guys when they stop being nice and start being “real.”

What if you accidentally go too far?

The answer is that there is no way to know if you’ve gone too far until you actually go too far.

It happens to me all the time. I’m constantly crossing that line between simply being confident and being a selfish dick.

A woman will throw “shit tests” at you. She’ll do or say something just to see how you react. But once in a while, she’ll be truly upset or hurt at something you said or did. Being able to tell the difference is where calibration and understanding comes in.

Last night, I was over a girl’s place. Read the rest of this entry »

“That girl is so your type,” says Glenn.

I’m in Barnes and Noble with Glenn and Lee. Saturday afternoon crackin and stackin.

I look over at the girl sitting at a table in the caf?????? of the bookstore. She’s wearing a super cute little artsy bonnet.

I start to walk over to her. It’s a long walk around dividers, past tables. I can feel my heartrate start to elevate.

When I get to her, I don’t waste a moment after I open her before sitting down.

“That book is excellent,” I say as I grab a seat.

But there’s a problem. Read the rest of this entry »

This website, Ratio Finder, claims to display bars/clubs with a higher ratio of women to men. (Found via Reddit)

It does this by aggregating 4square and other social location services.

Went to a few bars last week and it seemed legit for at least one of the bars.

And believe me, it’s tough finding a bar in NYC where there are more women than men.

You can choose different types of nightlife, parks, shops, etc.

Currently it looks like it only works for New York and San Francisco.

Top Ten of the Most Sexually Active Names

This uber-scientific study (sarcasm) claims to show common names: who’s gettin it the most and who’s gettin it the least. Go Chris!

This post is from Rob Judge.

A packed 6 train can teach you a lot about humiliation, pickup, and women.

I learned my lesson a few years back, on a brisk fall morning. It was a Saturday morning, as I remember, at an hour so ungodly early that it shouldn’t exist on a weekend.

My hair was disheveled and my thoughts were groggy. Clearly I wasn’t looking for love but, as it so often happens, I found lust.

Before getting into the sexy details, you have to understand the unsexy situation. No matter what time it is, the 6 train always manages to fill up to the point where people get pressed against the windows. I don’t mean that figuratively either–the 6 train gets so packed that it smudges your cheeks against the glass like that Goonies scene with Chunk.

And this morning was no different. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s great to be physically skilled as a lover, but more importantly, you want to activate the imagination.

One of the best ways I’ve found to rev up your sex life is through dirty talk and roleplay.

I put dirty talk and roleplay together because they are almost interchangeable.

Role Playing

She and I are in my living room.

We’re talking about the new TSA airline security procedures of patdowns for people who don’t want to go through body scanners.

Is it violating our civil liberties? Are people over-reacting? Blah blah blah.

We are talking about logical stuff.

Then I say to her, “What if you were getting frisked by a TSA agent like this?”

Read the rest of this entry »

This post is from Robbie Kramer of Inner Confidence.

What if they don’t like me?

What if they think I’m a jerk?

What if I piss them off?

What if they talk sh*t behind my back?

“I had a realization today,” said Marty, one of my students.

“What I realized is that to be successful and confident not everyone is going to like me…”

“And if I am pushing myself I will most likely annoy and piss some people off because they may see me as a jerk, creepy or arrogant. But I can’t let that affect how I feel about myself.”

Marty had this realization during a particular incident. He started speaking with a woman who worked in a store. He said something that was sexual and direct. Read the rest of this entry »

1. The Opener.

“You look like the expert on fiction and literature.”

She looks up at me with piercing sky-blue eyes.

I’ve just walked into the Fiction and Literature section at Barnes and Noble.

She was sitting on a chair, her face buried in a book.

It’s a great way to open in almost any situation: “You seem like the expert in XX,” XX being whatever section of the store she’s in.

She can be in the cereal aisle of the supermarket, the juice bar, the make-up section or the shoe section.

“What’s a good book here?” I ask. “I’m going on a long trip soon and I need a good book to read.” Read the rest of this entry »

You did everything right.

Your game was on point.

The date went perfect.

She wants you and she’s ready to go.

You get her back to your place, and all of a sudden…

Something is different with her.

When trying to make things happen, the last thing you want is to fumble things at the last minute because of a messy apartment.

What’s the big deal? you’re thinking.

A messy place can be bad news. Just like it’s difficult to smell your own body odor, it’s hard to see how disgusting it is when it’s your own place.

But if you’ve seen the show Hoarders, you know that there is potentially nothing more disgusting on earth.

Read the rest of this entry »