You’re out for drinks. You meet a cute girl through some friends.

You get into some friendly conversation and end up finding out a lot about her.

She’s friendly to you and 100% focused on you while you’re talking.

You take this as a sign of interest and so you don’t do anything to rock the boat.

20 minutes later, you’re getting ready to leave with your friend and you ask her for her number.

She gives it to you. But then later she flakes hard.

What happened?

It’s a disease called Survivor Bias. And you probably don’t even know it’s infected your game.

In the drive for success with women, when something works, you tend to do it more.

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A few years ago I noticed myself in a video. And I was disgusted.

Why?

I could finally see myself from the side and from the back. And I hated my posture.

“I really look like that?” I thought to myself. I never really see myself from the side and had no idea how bad my posture was.

I used to go to the gym and work out when I was younger. And I’m a runner. So I didn’t have the worst posture in the world.

But it was bad enough that I decided I needed to change it. In fact I became a bit obsessed with changing my posture.

This is something I’ve been working on for years. I previously wrote an article about Alexander Technique, which is well worth the investment.

Why Change Your Posture

Posture has a huge affect on attraction.

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Success. There’s nothing quite like it to fill your sac with confidence.

Things work out between you and a girl, and all of a sudden it feels like you’re part of the “get’s it” crowd.

The stink of desperation washes off of you like a hot shower.

And, conversely, there’s nothing quite like a dry spell to whither your confidence.

Even though you may be holding it together on the outside, on the inside you’re shriveling, dying for the touch of a woman.

Even though you may have perfectly good reasons why you’re going through a dry spell–you’re getting out of a relationship, you’re raising your standards, you’re challenging yourself in a different way–something is still eating away at your soul:

Doubt.

You wonder whether you still “have it.” Whether women are really attracted to you. Read the rest of this entry »

There’s a very familiar look on his face as we walk around in between approaches: frustration.

He’s been out for a while. He’s been in “the community” a long time. And he feels like he’s spinning his wheels.

“I’m not getting laid. I’ve paid all this money and taken all these bootcamps, but I’m still not getting laid.”

You can tell he’s putting in the work. There’s no hesitation with him. He’s a former student of mine. And I’ve gotten him to the point where he has almost no approach anxiety.

He goes in and opens women, even gets them to smile most of the time. But he’s not getting enough of his interactions to “hook.”

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