Instant Sexual Vibe on Your First Date

by Eric Disco
Sep 13

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Once I’m in deep conversation with a woman, I generally don’t use pre-scripted material.

I like to just go with the flow and really get to know her.

But at some point, if I’m getting to know her well, I like to turn the conversation sexual.

Turning the conversation sexual is one of the most important things you can do with women.

While she may be attracted to you already, talking explicitly about sex brings up the idea of sex in her mind.

Talking about sex triggers sexual feelings in her as she visualizes situations that she’s talking about.

One way to get from deep rapport to sexual talk is to tell a story. I have a story I tell about my parents almost catching me and my first girlfriend having sex in the basement of our house.

It’s good because it transitions from something very rapport-based (my parents) to something very sexual (having sex with my girlfriend in a strange place).

Another way I like to go from rapport to sexual topics is to play the Questions Game.

I’m not too fond of rapport games like Strawberry Fields or the Cube. It just feels too canned in my mind. When I’m in rapport with her, I usually like to vibe.

Not gonna say the Cube doesn’t work for people, but that canned stuff just turns me off.

But I do really like to play the Questions Game. It just seems less canned, more fun, and you can really get to know someone.

And most importantly, it allows the possibility to get very sexual.

The game works like this. You tell her:

Let’s play the Questions Game. You get to ask me a question about anything. And I have to answer it as honestly as possible. But I have to give a good answer. And then I get to ask you a question about anything. But I can’t ask you the same question you asked me and you can’t ask me the same question I asked you. It has to be a different question.

You go back and forth asking questions.

Normally what I do is start off very non-sexual. I ask questions like…

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If everyone here looked exactly like you, how would you stand out?

What’s the nicest thing you ever did for a guy you were dating?

And then after a while, you can start to make it really sexual.

What turns you on in a guy?

Where’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?

What was your first orgasm like?

What kind of underwear are you wearing?

This ¡Ægame’ is a lot of fun and really allows you to get to know each other pretty well. It also gets very sexual fast.

Technically you could just ask her these questions out of the blue, but the game of being able to ask any question that she won’t ask back makes it more likely that they’ll be uninhibited in asking questions.

While you can use this game any time, I most recommend this after you’ve been talking to her for a while. You’ve had some conversation and you’re ready to get deeper.

I use this a lot on a first date, maybe after one drink or so.

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posted in Rapport Skills, Sex and Escalation

COMMENTS
18 responses

Use this guys, it works! Great post Eric.

Stephen says:

“While you can use this game any time, I most recommend this after you’ve been talking to her for a while. You’ve had some conversation and you’re ready to get deeper.”

How far into the conversation would you suggest turning things sexual because there is a fine line between too much and too less?

Cheers

Eric Disco says:

How far into the conversation would you suggest turning things sexual because there is a fine line between too much and too less?

If I’m on a first date, I will usually do the Questions Game 10-15 minutes into the conversation, give or take depending on how into me she is and how receptive she is to where things are going.

A sexual story is a bit more subtle. If you’re going to use a sexual story, you can do that in the first interaction, a couple minutes in. Lately I’ve been doing a lot more and shorter interactions, so you want to introduce something sexual pretty soon into the conversation.

Eric

swgr says:

This stuff is gold. I needed something like this Eric thanks a lot.

Relentless says:

I was a little hesitant to write this, but got any advice for us guys who lack such experiences? I dont want to have to cover it up and tell a girl im a virgin :eek:

Eric Disco says:

I was a little hesitant to write this, but got any advice for us guys who lack such experiences? I dont want to have to cover it up and tell a girl im a virgin :eek:

Great question. My advice is this. If you are still a virgin, I would be very careful to reveal that to her. My inclination would be to deflect any real questions about your past with banter.

If she asks how many people you’ve been with, say ‘Thousands’ or ‘I can’t count that high.’ Just exaggerate every answer so she knows that you’re joking but still refuse to answer the question.

You’re not required to answer her questions… unless you’re playing the question game. That sort of implies that you’re going to give her an answer. So the questions game might not work for you.

Alternatively, you could be up front and honest about your situation. Sexuality is not just about penetrative sex. Everybody is sexual in different ways, even if they are a virgin. You still have preferences, aspirations, and a lifetime of experiences to share with her–even if you’ve never kissed a girl.

If anything, you could frame your virginity as a choice. Because it’s true that in reality you probably could have sex with someone if you wanted to. You just want to do it right.

I had a girlfriend when I was 18 but didn’t have penetrative sex until I was 23, and that really was by choice.

Eric

relentless says:

I read about this game in the past and sort of figured it wouldnt work for me at this moment in time. When I look back at the road I’ve traveled thus far, every step I have chosen was taken intentionally, whether it was subconsious or not and I truly accept that. Whats important is for me to recognize where I want to be, and to take action to achieve these never ending goals that keep piling on the list.

Thanks for the feedback Eric, I really appreciate it.

Northern says:

Hadn’t thought of telling my first time story…

Gave my uncle £20 to disappear for a few pints, he came back early, drunk and sat down on the couch and started chatting with us, we were both half naked under a duvet, then he left and we christened his lodgers new bed, definately need to use that story as I could elaborate more and make into a funny story.

joe says:

went well until she asked me how many partners ive had lol….

Cameron says:

Was it too many or too few?

Eric Disco says:

went well until she asked me how many partners ive had lol….

Never ever ever tell a girl how many people you’ve been with. Whether its a lot or a few, it can only hurt you to tell her what it is. Always banter this off. Say ‘thousands’ or ‘I can’t count that high.’ Answering this question honestly could easily be a deal breaker even on a date.

Eric

Jeff says:

I thought the rules of the question game were you had to answer honestly.

joe says:

lol, i did just that.. but i think shes got a vibe that im a sloot, but i used it again on 2 dates today and worked great.

thanks again eric

TFH says:

Great post, Eric!

What is great about this Game is that you can customize it to who YOU are. Also, if she starts asking sexual questions to you, of her own accord, that also tells you a lot.

Cameron says:

Joe, you mean you bantered away the question but she got the vibe that you were a sloot?

wingman says:

With my current girlfriend, it was one of the first games we ever played – and it turned sexual really quickly. There are red flags that can come up when certain questions are asked (how many partners you’ve had? if you’ve had sex at all? etc.) but those can be deflected, like Eric said.

We actually still play the questions game even a year later. The questions are different now (talking about future, etc.) but I always try to slip in something sexual and she loves that.

You can always tell something about a woman by how they respond to such questions. Nice post, Eric!

grandnexus says:

To elaborate on the ‘thousands’ or ‘I can’t count that high’, would it be funny or clever to say it this way?

‘Well, when you work the corner street downtown, the number tends to grow pretty fast. In the biz, we ask how many Benjamin’s have you earned’

Something to that effect just to make it funny.

wasrackart says:

Along with humor and the other deflective responses, you could reply back with “How many partners do you think I have had?”

I saw this sort of response being used by an older gent when being asked about age, but i think it would work here. He wasn’t against using this information to “tailor-fit” the number he came back with, which isn’t really how I like to operate but hey…

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