This video (safe for work) is probably one of the scariest things I’ve ever seen. Fresh out of one of my nightmares.

It shows what it’s like to climb to the top of a 1700 foot tower–with no safety lines.

If you had the opportunity, would you climb the 1700 foot tower in the video? Some of you would do it because have balls the size of Texas (or are extremely stupid). But most of you probably would not do it.

That’s your fear acting in a good way.

It’s same fear is trying to keep you alive when you go to talk to women. It’s a remnant of your primal brain telling you to stay alive.

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The place is packed with people.

It’s gallery opening time in the art district of New York City.

For two hours many galleries open their doors to show off new artworks and serve free wine and cheese.

And they come. The sexy art girls. Just the way I like them.

I’m all about going out to supermarkets and bookstores to meet women, but I love going to places that truly interest me to see art and the like.

It makes it so much easier and fun to interact with people. They automatically assume something high value about you just because you’re there.

Plus, I get to do something that I really enjoy doing.

As we walk through the gallery packed with people, I notice a group of three people, with one really cute redhead girl.

I walk over without a moment’s hesitation.

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A good friend of mine, also a dating coach, relays a great story about game.

In learning game, guys with social anxiety often feel like they’re doing something surreptitious.

They feel that they’re not being honest or above-board just because they’re not being dopey and buying girls gifts or asking them out on a dinner dates.

But this is nothing.

I’m sitting in a bar with Nataly, a gorgeous, successful Ukrainian woman who owns her own business.

It’s our second date and I start talking about game with her. I do this with all the girls I’m seeing.

We look over at the booth next to us. A couple is on a date.

“Is she interested in him?” I ask her.

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In a previous post, I talked about why you should start all relationships as casual relationships, whether you think you might want to make her your girlfriend or not.

But once you are in a casual relationship, seeing her every once in a while, how do you make it more serious?

Firstly, let’s talk about how not to do this. One of the worst ways to do this is to have a “talk” with her, to sit her down and say “I’d like to be in an exclusive relationship.”

This puts you in a bad position if she does say yes, and worse, it could easily make her feel crowded. If you have no options left on the table, then this may be something worth doing.

But there are a lot of better options.

Ideally, you want to see if you can get her to bring up wanting an exclusive relationship with you.

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One of my close friends who himself is excellent with women, relays to me a story of seeing a natural in action.

I’m riding the subway. It’s rush hour and the train is packed with people.

The doors open and in walks a 10.

She’s a tall, natural redhead, a successful business-woman type with confident body language.

I’m at one end of the subway train. She’s at the other end.

Everyone on the crowded train is staring at her because she’s gorgeous.

The next stop, this guy gets on the train. He’s a black guy, mid-twenties, decently dressed but nothing out of the ordinary.

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Today we have another brilliant post by my good friend Robbie Kramer from Inner Confidence.

Have you been approaching women but not getting the results you want because you have too much anxiety?

Then read on!

There is a tragic mistake men make over and over when they approach women.

I did it for years without even realizing it.

And a lot of the advice out there actually makes the problem worse.

This mistake leads to more approach anxiety, more rejection and leads most guys to eventually give up on this area of their life.

It’s funny but it took me almost four years to come to this realization even though I had been doing this stuff and teaching it for all that time.

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Once I’m in deep conversation with a woman, I generally don’t use pre-scripted material.

I like to just go with the flow and really get to know her.

But at some point, if I’m getting to know her well, I like to turn the conversation sexual.

Turning the conversation sexual is one of the most important things you can do with women.

While she may be attracted to you already, talking explicitly about sex brings up the idea of sex in her mind.

Talking about sex triggers sexual feelings in her as she visualizes situations that she’s talking about.

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What’s your name? Where are you from? What do you do?

Oh my god, she’s thinking to herself. Another boring conversation.

She starts to answer with the same thing she’s said ten thousand times.

She’s getting bored to tears. But then…

You bust on her. All of a sudden she’s having fun again.

Here’s some banter you can use to make almost any conversation fun and playful.

Got your own favorite banter? Share it in the comments.

She Tells You Where She’s From – “Oh no, a [location] girl? You guys are trouble.” When she asks why, “[location] girls are all brats” or “They’re always hitting on me. They’re really grabby.”

Artist, painter, sculptor ? “Oh my god, you’re not going to ask to draw me naked, are you? I’m not falling for that again!”

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Lifestyle.

It’s been said that if you have an interesting enough life, that you almost don’t need any pickup skills.

I don’t totally agree with that. If you are completely unable to take initiative, you’ll be debilitated in any environment.

But in some ways it still holds true.

You attract people into your life by your passions and interests. In many ways, it’s what you do that attracts people into your life, not who you are.

Ever have a friend who just always had something fun planned? He’s the go-to guy when you want to have fun.

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As I get on to the subway platform, I’m tired. It’s 9 pm and I’ve been hanging out with Glenn and a friend in the park. I’m ready to just go home and chill.

I see this incredibly cute blond girl. She glances over at me and back at the tracks.

Is she into me, I wonder to myself.

I look around the platform and notice some other cuties wandering around, looking at subway maps, walking by.

I glance back over at her and she’s looking at me again.

Okay, she is definitely looking at me.

I walk casually walk over and stand next to her. She notices my presence.

I tap her on the arm.

“If you’re gonna look at a guy like that, you should probably say hi.”

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