10 Fashion Tips to Terminate the Nice Guy

by Eric Disco
Aug 3

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There’s been a lot of discussion about the limitations of getting attractive women unless you yourself are physically attractive.

One of the most important things you can do to improve your looks is to improve your fashion. In many ways, fashion is more important to women because it conveys something physical attractiveness cannot: social intelligence.

Here are ten killer tips to go from lady snoozer to lady chooser and terminate your nice guy vibe.

1) Have a look rather than trying to mix and match. I can’t tell you to buy this belt or these shoes because it’s not about just finding a great belt or great shoes. It’s about finding an overall look that works for you.

Are you a motorcycle rider? Punk? Artist? Wall Street Trader in custom suits? Yoga guru? Euro DJ? Country gentleman? You should pick a look that is partially based on your interests. You don’t have to be a professional skateboarder to wear a skatepunk look. If you skateboard once in a awhile or like to watch professional skateboarding, then you can adopt the look.

Let’s say you do pick a skatepunk look. Notice what professional skateboarders wear. Notice what normal skateboarders wear. Buy skateboarding magazines and notice what those guys wear.

By having a recognizable look, you can begin to build your wardrobe around something specific. Every time you see a cool pair of shoes that interests you, you can ask yourself, would a professional skateboarder wear those shoes? If yes, then go for it.

2) Going from safe to edgy takes time and practice. Most guys try to play it safe. Everyone tries to blend in. If you can’t blend in at all, then maybe you should try that first. But then try to push your comfort zone a little bit.

When you do pick a look, try to make it a tiny bit edgier than normal. Women are easily bored by guys who play it safe. If you have a cool, edgy, recognizable look, it makes your job so much easier with women. Keep in mind, it takes some practice to get into a new look. If you’ve been dressing preppy all your life, and want a punk look, you won’t be able to go out in a day and buy all the right clothes, get the right haircut and jewelry–even if you have all the money for it. You’ll need to transition into the look and get comfortable. Push your comfort zone a little bit at a time.

3) Get an awesome pair of jeans. Yes, jeans can be expensive ($150-350). But think about it. You could buy 2 or 3 pairs of jeans and wear those for an entire year. You can’t really do that with shirts. So it’s worth spending more on a good pair of jeans. A friend of mine got one good pair of jeans and used to wear those all the time. If you don’t have any look yet or don’t know where to begin, I would recommend Diesel stores. Most of the jeans in there will be cool, somewhat ‘bad boy’ and have some edge to it. You usually can’t go wrong with Diesel.

scebiqu.deviantart.com14) Get an awesome haircut. Google image search popular hairstyles for guys. Think you’re hair won’t do that? You’d be surprised at what you can do if you have the right tools. You can do amazing things with a flat iron, some sumo wax, and some freezing hair spray. I like hairspray because it holds the look in place a bit.

How did I learn to use this stuff? From my super cool hair stylist. It’s worth paying more ($75+) at least once for a stylist at a good salon who can look at your hair and tell you what’s good. Print out some pictures of what you’re going for and show it to him or her. She or he can tell you how to get that look and if it’s even possible with your hair.

5) Check out other guys. You should be checking out guys as much as girls. If you see a very cool guy, check him out very carefully. Notice what shoes he’s wearing. Notice his jeans, his shirt and his haircut. Notice his jewelry and his tattoos. If you don’t know how to pick out a cool guy or a sexy guy, start by looking at guys with super hot chicks. Not all of them will be cool but the majority will have something going on.

6) Check out mannequins. Another good thing to notice is how sales people dress mannequins. A lot of those ensembles are really well put together and have a distinctive “look.” They’ll take some safe clothing and put the right things together that work and make it look cool.

7) Get international fashion runway magazines. I think magazines like GQ aren’t very good. You need to be careful with magazines like these. They cater to guys who want to play it safe. To find out what’s really in style, get some international magazines that show A LOT of runway looks so that you can keep up with fashion. You can pick out what you like and keep your eyes open for similar things in stores. You can find these magazines at specialty magazine stores that carry international magazines.

8) Be wary of ads. You need to be careful looking at ads for the majority of clothing companies like gap or banana republic. They show models wearing very safe clothing and spice it up to look hot. They throw hot girls in their ads as well. That doesn’t mean the clothing is hot, fashionable or edgy. It’s just the photography and models that are hot, fashionable and edgy.

scebiqu.deviantart.com39) Go to very expensive high-fashion stores–just to look at what’s hot. Places like Saks Fifth avenue are great. They will have a men’s couture or high fashion floor. Those places sell shirts for $800 or a jacket for $6000. Unless you’ve got money to burn, you won’t be buying a $6000 jacket. But you can notice the up and coming styles of high fashion designers and get a feel for what’s in style. And then go to…

10) Vintage Stores! A lot of fashion comes and goes. What was in style 25 years ago is back in style now. You can actually go to a vintage store and pay $18 dollars for a shirt that’s very similar to the $800 dollar shirt. Sometimes the vintage store is even cooler. I don’t know where I’d be without my vintage stores. Vintage stores can be a fantastic way for you to test out new styles without maxing out your credit cards. In my neighborhood in Brooklyn, there are some amazing vintage stores that sell shirts for $12-18 dollars. Inevitably, when you shop for clothes, whether it’s vintage or not, you are going to end up not liking a 30% of the clothes you buy, whether they’re new or vintage. If you can get five shirts for $18 as opposed to one for $90, you can build your wardrobe a lot faster and try out new looks that may have scared you before.

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logicwontgetmelaid says:

“You could buy 2 or 3 pairs of jeans and wear those for an entire year. You can’t really do that with shirts.”

Why can’t you do that with shirts?

Eric Disco says:

You could get away with owning only two pairs of jeans and wear them all the time. Owning only two shirts would be a little bit dicey. That’s because people tend to notice your shirts more. If you wore the same shirt for three days in a row, people would notice. They’re less likely to notice if you wore the same pair of jeans three days in a row.

Plus shirts tend to get dirty/smelly quicker than jeans. You could wear a pair of jeans 10 or 15 times before washing. A shirt would start to get stinky real quick.

Women do notice jeans, but mostly they notice the cut of your jeans and whether or not it has a cool wash.

Eric

KL says:

Fashion is definitely key. A woman can tell a lot from the way a man dresses. If you have the right clothes on, it also does a lot for your confidence and swagger. A lot of guys barely pay attention to their style, and the message it’s sending. As someone who has worked with fashion companies, I can tell you, it’s pretty important. Especially for the large majority of women who are so fashion-sensitive. Most girls will notice details on a person’s wardrobe that many guys don’t even realize are there!

I also think it’s important that every guy have at least one good suit. There are tons of different styles of suits, matching lots of different cultures and looks. The suit is a good stand-by for formal occasions, and it’s also versatile. Just wearing a suit and tie, versus a suit without a tie, convey 2 totally different feels, for example.

As a woman, I love a guy in vintage, and I will definitely notice him in a crowd! It exudes confidence and uniqueness, and shows that he is comfortable with who he is. It also shows that he cares about what he looks like and he spent time putting together his style. After all, it takes a little more effort that just walking into a mall to buy a vintage shirt.

Mark says:

Don’t get a tattoo just because they might be in style at the moment. Style changes over the years and decades. The Mullet was cool in 1985, not so in 2010. And a tat is a permanent Mullet.

Great Post Eric, I need to take some of this advice myself rather then laying around in sweat pants all day. LOL

Axel says:

I detest following trends.

As long as I look good and have my own thing going on that’s well thought through, must I care about what’s hot or in style?

Most days I will wear my leather jacket with a pair of jeans, my boots and some band t-shirt. Other days I’ll put on a black blazer with dark blue jeans and some loud, colourful t-shirt. The next day I can suit up with a three piece suit and a trench coat, topped off with a Stetson fedora. On another day I’ll run with a more lumberjack kind of thing, and after that something that’s more traditionally hip, like loose, beat up blue jeans with a red t-shirt. Finally I’ll go all black with my leather jacket and some nice black jeans.

If you look at what trends are ravaging society at the moment, at least where I live, you will see that they are shit. Complete shit. Never shall I ever wear those stupid jeans that are tight as a bitch around your ancles and loose from the knee up that make you look like you shit yourself. I much prefer clothes that fit and that highlight my body.

Why follow trends when they can leave you up shit creek like the example above?

Eric says:

As long as I look good and have my own thing going on that’s well thought through, must I care about what’s hot or in style?

Following trends is not what makes a certain look attractive. But knowing what is and isn’t in style does reflect social intelligence. If you have a look that works for you, then by all means, keep doing it. There are plenty of guys out there who are successful with women who don’t follow every trend. They tend to have more of a look. Some of the looks you mentioned aren’t bad. They can work for you. But you need to ask yourself that: Are they working for you?

Many guys will only wear what they’ve always worn. They cling to a safe look because they don’t know how to find a new look. Their look doesn’t evolve.

Wearing clothes that are in style isn’t about jumping on the latest trend every three months. It is about noticing and acknowledging what’s happening currently, and being able to reflect that.

No matter what, having good fashion sense is about mixing tried-and-true fashion with newer up-and-coming fashion. There are certain things in your wardrobe that will be evergreens. Certain things, like a good-fitting suit, will always be in style. Fashion means that you pick and choose from the latest trends what you want to incorporate into your wardrobe. If you’ve already got some cool clothes, you don’t want to go out and remake your wardrobe every three months with totally new fashion. But you do want to update your look every once in a while, or before you know it, you will look dated. It will look like you don’t know what’s in fashion or can’t read other people.

There’s a reason that women follow trends more than men do, and that’s because they tend to have more social intelligence. It matters to women what people are wearing. It says something about their ability to read other people and to express themselves in relation to society.

Being alpha, being your own man, and being great with women, is not just about doing your own thing no matter what anyone else says. Having a backbone and spine is important. Being your own man is important. There’s nothing as sexy as independence. But it’s not JUST about independence. Being an alpha doesn’t mean that you never listen to anyone at anytime and always do your own thing. It means that you listen to other people, have a keen awareness of other people, and still do your own thing. You’re good with people and can communicate with people.

How edgy and trendy you want to be will depend on a few factors:

1. Your fashion intelligence. If you aren’t that great with fashion, you want to push your boundaries slowly. Keep in mind though, sometimes the only way to learn is by making a few mistakes.

2. Where you live. If you live in a very rural town, your fashion will be different than if you live in the middle of New York or L.A. The same exact person in New York dropped into a rural town may look a bit out of place. That’s because his fashion doesn’t reflect the local flavor. In general, the more rural you are, the less edgy and trendy you want to be. You still want to be a bit more edgy and trendy than everyone else, but you can keep it a bit more casual.

3. What kind of women you’re going for. Do you like when women dress fashionably? If so, you need to step up your game. Having good fashion sense will help you in any case. But if you aren’t looking for well-dressed women, then you don’t need to be firing on all cylinders when it comes to fashion.

Eric

Josh says:

Would you consider clothing from Armani Exchange “safe”? I wear shirts from there since they fit perfectly on me and show my pecs/biceps really well.

The chicks I’d like to date most are metalcore/scene/emo chicks; I find them amazingly attractive. I’m a musician myself, 23 years old, and I’ve been into that style of music for the past 10 years but I dunno if I can bring myself to start shopping at Hot Topic or Yellow Rat Bastard just to look like everyone else. I seriously question whether doing something like that is going to help me stand out, it might because I’m black and might get a 2nd look but I’m not banking on that at all…..

JJ says:

What is the difference between $200 jeans, vs. ordinary jeans?

I fear that I will pay a lot for something, and it still will not look cool. I truly have no ability to tell…

Eric Disco says:

What is the difference between $200 jeans, vs. ordinary jeans?

There are a few differences.

Firstly, the cut. While most brands offer jeans in many different cuts, by going with an upper scale name-brand product, you are more likely to get a more current style. The trend right now is definitely toward skinnier jeans, but you probably want to try on a few different cuts and see what works for you. In this case, a salesperson can be very helpful because they usually investment in what kind of cut you get. But if you do rely on a salesperson, see if you can get the opinion of more than one because one salesperson may have a more conservative opinion.

Secondly, the wash. Cheap jeans are usually one single color. Better jeans have a nice wash. A “wash” means how it is faded or colored or treated with some cool style like a chemical or other thing to make it look shiny.

You also want to look at the flourishes. You don’t want to go overboard but some cool things can be prints, zippers, studs, buttons, rips, etc.

Eric

Eric Disco says:

Would you consider clothing from Armani Exchange “safe”? I wear shirts from there since they fit perfectly on me and show my pecs/biceps really well.

The chicks I’d like to date most are metalcore/scene/emo chicks; I find them amazingly attractive. I’m a musician myself, 23 years old, and I’ve been into that style of music for the past 10 years but I dunno if I can bring myself to start shopping at Hot Topic or Yellow Rat Bastard just to look like everyone else. I seriously question whether doing something like that is going to help me stand out, it might because I’m black and might get a 2nd look but I’m not banking on that at all…..

Yes and No. I haven’t been in Armani Exchange in a while, but most of their stuff is pretty safe. I’m not a big fan of prints on shirts that display the brand. They tend to do that a lot and that caters to guys playing it safe. I think there are some cooler, edgier clothes in there but really, most of their stuff is pretty basic staple clothing.

As a black guy who dresses edgy, dressing more edgy, like from hot topic or yellow rat bastard may help you to stand out in a really good way. Particularly if your friends dress that way and you like that style of clothing on women, I would recommend experimenting around with that. My inclination is that you are staying in the Armani style in order to play it safe.

If you want to try out a different style, you don’t have to make the jump all at once. Buy a few pieces and see how it feels wearing it out. See how women react to you. It may feel a little weird at first to step out of your comfort zone, so give it a few weeks before you decide whether you like it or not.

Eric

SPG says:

Great fucking blog. I really appreciate the work you’re doing with men.

wingman says:

Another good suggestion (and something I’ve done) if you’re not sure what looks good on you, is to ask people in the store you’re trying clothes in. I wouldn’t necessarily ask the people who work there (since their job is to sell, they may not be AS genuine). But walk around and ask random women what they think of what you’re wearing. They’ll give you a snap judgement and it can be similar to the kind of judgement you’ll get if you were to directly approach a woman anywhere else.

schwabsauce says:

I was just thinking about how I wanted some fashion advice. This looks pretty helpful. Now I just have to figure out what to do with my hair!

Joe says:

What if my style is utilitarian? I wear cheap “nice guy” sneakers, free tee shirts and $10 on sale sweaters that from Wal-Mart. Also, ponytail I can cut myself. Few shits are given.

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