Street Stops and Blood Flow
by 
Eric Disco
Saturday afternoon.
I have plans to hang with a girl later that night.
It takes me a while to get going, because because I’m home working all day. Finally get in the shower at 7 pm.
At 8 pm it suddenly hits me:
Oh shit. I didn’t go out to talk to women today.
Part of me thinks, who cares? I’m hanging out with this chick tonight. I’ll just relax today and then go out tomorrow.
But then I ask myself, “How important is this to me to do this?”
It’s really fucking important.
I call the girl and tell her I’d meet her an hour later. I put on my clothes and head out into the streets. Cuz I’m a champ like that.
It’s already dark at that point. Day game is better when it’s light out. But the fact that it’s dark, whatever, it’s better than nothing.
There’s not as many girls in Brooklyn where I live as there are in Manhattan. I think, what if I don’t find a girl?
I’m walking around and I can feel my heart start to race a little bit. I can feel my blood start to pump.
I am going to do a direct opener, I think to myself.
I see a girl who’s kind of cute. Her? Nah.
I keep walking and walking. Until I finally see this really cute girl in awesome boots.
I think “This is her.” I’m opening her.
The rush hits me. It’s a rush that you don’t necessarily get from going slowly into it.
You could call it “anxiety.” You could use that word. But it’s this feeling I’m used to. And so it’s more of an excitement.
My body starts to change. I get similar symptoms to anxiety. My heart starts to race a little bit.
But I know this feeling. I’m familiar with this feeling and it feels good.
It’s not huge and overwhelming where I feel like I’m going to die. Part of it’s that I’ve done it before. I’ve learned to enjoy it. It makes me feel good.
I stop her right before the crosswalk.
Especially when it’s dark, you don’t want to stop her in a really dark place. I wait until we were somewhere light to stop her.
I say, “Hey, this might seem kind of random, but just had to come tell you you’re really cute.”
A smile comes over her face as she says “Oh. Thank you!”
She’s a cute little artsy chick who’s visiting from Boston.
“I’m in New York doing research for an art class. My sister is meeting me.”
By the end of the interaction she tells me she’s going to some art galleries tomorrow. “Text me if you want to come.”
We exchanged numbers.
The hardest part, as is often the case for me now, is getting out. If I hadn’t gone out it wouldn’t have happened.
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Nice
Way to stick to your guns and get out there Eric. A lot of guys would have just made an excuse not to go out since they already have a date lined up
Hey eric,
Very nice. If you don’t mind me saying it sounds like an obsession because you still don’t get over the symptons and yet you still go at it.
If it is an obsession would you say it is a healthy obsession and one that will counter anxiety?
Great
Great stuff to read, I think it’s funny you still get AA but you know when you don’t have it or at least feel something of excitement it’s like your almost so relaxed that this is already your comfort zone. Today I went out after a hypnosis tape from Hypnotica & Steve P and I didn’t feel anything but presence and outward focus like I was in a light alpha state. It was kind of like I lost myself until I consciously thought what I was doing there without realizing it I was expressing myself but at the same time if I didn’t feel that energy that makes you either want to rush it or run. I don’t know about you but direct daytime is when I want to really feel it, I’ll repeat it again with the hypnosis tape and see if I can allow myself to be affected by women more deeply.
-BG
P.s. Loved the post, I’ll be reading more regularly
p.s.s What was the music in the Magnetic Mindset at the beginning, I’d really love to have that on my ipod. Thx
wow, Two articles in a span of 3 days. Eric are you feeling ok? Good article by the way, very inspirational.
An obsession has negative connotations, that it interferes with your life or is unhealthy in some way. Just because you get excited when going out to meet women does not mean it’s unhealthy.
Dedication is important. Getting into a regular habit is key if you’re going to continue doing something that takes time and energy.
Does it counter the anxiety? It does. As I challenge myself, the anxiety tends to lessen in other areas of my life.
But I don’t do it to get rid of the anxiety. That’s not the goal. I’m not trying to get rid of anxiety. I’m trying to counter the inhibition, the paralysis I feel so that I can live my life the way I want to live my life, so that I can take steps toward what is meaningful to me. This is the opposite of an obsession in my book.
Eric
It’s this band called Boyfriendgirlfriend. It’s by this guy named Eric Disco and his music partner in Colorado. Here is the album free for download:
http://boyfriendgirlfriend.co.uk/boyfriendgirlfriend_namenames.zip
Eric
I usually like the articles but it’s clear through even just this post that there’s a problem here.
You only feel good about yourself if you’ve gone out and met your “quota”
You place so much importance on this that of course it still will make you nervous.
A lot of community guys are chasing the rush that they get from approaching and banging girls because if they don’t, they feel miserable. The fact is, they still are miserable even if they do this. The excitement will wear off really quickly and they’ll need to find someone else. It’s a never ending loop.
You should be happy with yourself and content before doing all this stuff.
These guys should ask themselves what it is they’re trying to avoid feeling……..and then work on that. This is only covering that up. Same with any problem or addiction…..to cover something up.
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