One of my mentoring students lives in Montreal. He flew into New York every other week to work with me. He recently completed the six-week program.

This is what he had to say about it:

Learning how to meet women was important to me. And this program was definitely worth it.

I like the approach of this program. The anxiety is not gone, it’s just easier to handle. Which is fine.

Part of what I found interesting is that I got a lot more positive responses than I would have expected. I think it’s just part of that overall perception that the random approach can’t happen successfully in real life. Read the rest of this entry »

You start talking to a girl.

Sometimes it’s totally on. It’s obvious the girl is into you.

Other times, it’s totally not on. It’ s obvious this girl wants you to go the fuck away.

But particularly when starting out in this game, in the majority of interactions with women, you are in a space of not knowing whether she likes you or not.

How do you know if she’s attracted to you?

Guys with social anxiety or not enough experience with women tend to miss signals of interest.

Or if they do see signals of interest, they write them off for some reason or another.

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“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” - Naguib Mahfouz

There are certain situations where you have a lot of time and opportunities to get to know someone.

Maybe you’re hanging out an entire evening with friends and you get introduced to a friend of a friend.

Or a girl at work. Or someone at school.

In these situations it’s possible you have many opportunities to go deep and really connect with someone.

You can find a lot of commonalities and take your time getting to know them.

But other times you have very little to go on.

When you walk up to a woman you don’t know and manage to get a conversation started, you only have moments to go deep and build an emotional connection.

It feels like you know very little about her and have very little to work with.

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Friday evening.  Freezing cold.  Hangin with Glenn in Union Square.

“Dude, that’s totally your girl,” he says as this adorable artsy chick walks past us at breakneck speed.

And it was totally my type of girl.

Without a moments hesitation I turn and run after her.

I catch up to her and tap her on the arm.  She turns around.

I tell her how cute she is.

After some flirty exchange, we exchange numbers.

Next day, I send her a text…

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10 AM. Subway.

I spot a hotty across the train.

She’s sitting but there are people in the seats next to her.

A stop later, a seat next to her clears up.

With no hesitation, I squeeze past some baby carriages and sit down next to her.

I pull out my phone and start flipping through it.

“Hey…” I say slowly in her direction. She turns her attention to me.

I’m still looking at my phone.

“Where’s Koreatown…? Is that in the 30′s…?” Read the rest of this entry »

Exactly how important is it to have friends who are in the game?

There are two important sides to this.

Firstly, my friends are indispensable. From the drop, having guys to go out with made my game a thousand times better.

When I started out, I wasn’t friends with any guys who were great. So I took some workshops. Learning from someone else in person is critical.

But even if you can’t afford workshops or coaching, having a friend who’s into this stuff, regardless of your level or his, is super important.

When I first started going out at night, I met a guy who would go out with me. Read the rest of this entry »