The Defining Moment in Your Game

by Eric Disco
Dec 10


Art Basel weekend, one of the largest art festivals in the world.

I’ve come down with some close friends to simply party, have fun, and meet cool art people (and cute art chicks).

But it’s always the same story. My body fights me at the beginning.

Like the grumbles I feel before going on a long run.

I get to the main convention center. Some amazing cuties there.

The art is brilliant. The women are hot. And many of them are alone or in groups of two girls.

My mind starts to protest.

I love seeing art like this. You know what? I’m just going to enjoy the art and not focus on meeting people.

There’s always an excuse.


Not that I can’t enjoy the art. And if I really had something important to do, I might not be out there flirting with women as much.

But I don’t have anything important to do. I’m here to have fun.

And for some odd reason today, my brain wants to categorize meeting people as ‘work.’

It’s like brushing your teeth before bed. It seems like a lot of work, until you actually do it.

And there’s the key. Actually do it.

To make it as likely as possible that I’ll do it, the “it” needs to be easy to start off with.

I see some cute girls. I check them out. Yum. Instead of talking to them, I walk in the other direction toward the next exhibit

joysuke.deviantart.com20No. I turn my body toward them and start walking.

I get there and stand next to them. After a moment, I even think of something retarded to say.

There’s a painting full of chopped up words in front of us.

“Can you translate that for me?”

They semi-laugh and say “You’ll have to figure it out for yourself.” They smile and slowly walk away.

These girls were cute. And ready to have fun.

But I’m locked up. I couldn’t think of anything else to say.

And more so, my body was locked up.

Now that I’ve taken initiative, two things are going on in my brain.

1) Self-debasement. This is usually the first to happen. I start to “beat myself up” for doing something wrong or not doing it well enough.

Those girls were smiling. Why didn’t I say something else? I’ve got 1 million things I could have said. Why did I lock up? I’ve been doing this for years and still getting locked up? Other guys who are great with women wouldn’t get locked up like I just did right there. This isn’t going well.

2) Self-encouragement. If I catch myself in time, I will realize what’s going on. Usually in the form of affirmations, I switch my thoughts to self-praise for what I just did.

It was the first interaction of the day. There are TONS of cute women here. I’m just geting warmed up. It’s normal what I’m feeling. The next people I talk to will be easier. I’m fucking awesome for taking initiative in the first place. That was fun. It doesn’t matter that it didn’t “go anywhere.” This is all part of the process.

And this is important. This is why I start off with something small and simple. Something easy. Something retarded.

Because I’m faced with #1 and #2 after almost every interaction.

This is the defining moment for me.

Do I debase myself or praise myself?

Obviously the answer is #2. You want to encourage yourself internally.

Seems simple. But it’s not always so easy to remember to do that.

We are emotional creatures. Our emotions sometimes take control of our brains.

joysuke.deviantart.com14eThat can be a good thing. We aren’t robots. We live and love and learn. That’s the beauty of life.

And the more you practice steering your emotions in the right direction after every social encounter, the more you build up your momentum…

…the more it feels like you’re gaining energy with each encounter…

… and the less anxiety you have for the next interaction.

As the day goes on, I start to interact with people even more.

In fact it turns into one of the funnest and most social weekends I’ve had in a really long time.

I meet some incredible people.

Awesomely cute art chicks.

Cool people who actually live not far from me in Brooklyn.

Business contacts.

But what’s more is I feel relaxed and enjoy the process.

I’m having fun with this. How a vacation should be.


posted in Embarrassment and Rejection, Field Reports

11 responses
Mr.Glorious says:

Its good to know that one of the best PUA do some time gets the same feeling like AFC as myself do when trying to approach cute chicks. Keep it up Eric!

dick mcgee says:

Funnest is not a word

This was inspiring, certainly!

Axel says:

(quote) Funnest is not a word (/quote)

Yeah, well.. you suck and stuff!

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Will says:


This is my personal affirmation list. It’s mostly to help me be successful with women but also has a lot to do with having self-esteem, confidence and a healthy psychological state of being. Feel free to use it and share it with others. It took me a long time to build this list and I have found it extremely helpful.


Beliefs of Naturals – My Reality

Read 3 times before bed and in the morning(do it for a for month)
Record in the second person. Play recording on a loop continuously at a low volume(whisper).
Play recording during the day and at night while sleeping.

1. Being with me is the best possible choice for any woman.

2. Women love men and especially love me.

3. I love life!

4. I am God. I am Perfect. This is my universe!

5. I am fearless, courageous and bold!!!

6. I read incredibly fast!

7. Women love sex and want sex from me.

8. My intelligence, creativity and potential is infinite!

9. Women love to be hit on even if they pretend otherwise.

10. I am completely focused, organised and use my time with the utmost efficiency.

11. Women are nurtures and pleaser’s who want to nurture and please me.

12. I am a self-assured, confident, sexual and dominant male.

13. Everyday in every way I am better and better!!!

14. I have complete control over my life, mind and psychological state of being.

15. I am the greatest genius this world has ever seen.

16. I heal instantly!

17. I am successful, confident and achieve my goals. I exude confidence, sex, power and self-esteem.

18. I can be, do and have anything I want to in this world, my possibilities are endless!!!

19. I love myself! I am complete, fulfilled and completely happy!!!

20. I am growing more beautiful and luminous day by day.

21. People love me! I make friends easily.

23. I read and meditate every day. I access all the knowledge in the universe.

25. I am completely irresistible to women!

26. Regardless of how she is reacting to me she is getting aroused.

27. I see the underlying truth in all things.

28. I am an adventurer! I travel the world!

29. Regardless of how she is reacting to me I am the prize she is trying to win over!

30. I am a multi-millionaire and master seducer!

31. I love what I do and am richly rewarded, creatively and financially.

32. I have a perfect photographic memory! I recall everything easily.

33. Since she wants to sleep with me, the power is in my court to decide whether she lives up to my standards and expectations. I get to decide if we get to sleep together.

34. I create my own reality!

35. Today I love my body fully, deeply and joyfully.

37. Today I open my mind to the endless opportunities surrounding me.

38. Prosperity surrounds me, prosperity fills me, prosperity flows to me and through me.

39. I have sex with super hot, confident, loving, caring and intelligent women with genius IQ’s all the time!

40. I think positively every day, all the time.

41. I attract amazing people.

42. My imagination and power affirmations are now creating the reality I desire.

43. My body is now trained to burn fat and build muscle day by day.

44. I have a six pack of abdominal muscles.

45. Let these commands be fulfilled!!!

46. I am filled with the light of love, peace, happiness, power, success and joy every day, all the time.

47. I am aggressive, direct and powerful with the women I desire. I radiate a confidence, self-control and charm that women find irresistibly attractive.

48. My mind is focused on what I desire and I go for it congruently and powerfully.

49. I take immediate advantage of my opportunities with women. I swiftly establish incredible rapport, gather the information I need, then close with aggression, power and finesse.

50. I radiate a natural, easy self-acceptance that women find irresistibly attractive.

51. I am mastering the responses, attitudes, behaviours, insights and timing that bring me irresistible power with the women I desire.

52. I am now approaching women that I am attracted to.

53. I am able to pick up and attract any women I desire.

54. I am a strong, powerful, aggressive, dominant, alpha male, leader and conqueror!!!

55. I am charming, interesting and fascinating!!!

56. I have a perfectly sculptured muscle ripped body.

57. I am super hot and sexy, all women want me!

58. Abundance is my natural state of being!

59. Money comes to me easily and continuously from multiple sources!

61. My IQ and intelligence increases daily rapidly!!!

62. I have clear beautiful skin!

63. I have lucid dreams and recall all my dreams with complete clarity!

65. All things are now working together for good in my life.

66. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.

67. I rule the world! I am brilliant and perfect in every possible way!

68. I succeed in everything I do!

69. I have sex with one thousand super hot women!

70. I am now enjoying everything I do and feel happy just being alive.

71. Sex with super hot women comes to me easily and effortlessly.

72. The light within me creates miracles in my life here and now.

73. All things are now working together for good in my life.

74. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.

75. I have the infinite creative power of God within me.

76. My higher self is guiding me in everything that I do.

77. God lives within me and manifests in the world through me.

78. The light of God surrounds me, the love of God enfolds me, the power of God flows through me. Wherever I am, God is, and all is well!

79. I ascend spiritually rapidly everyday all the time!

80. I am a Natural, Ladies Man and Player!

81. Everywhere I go women want to fuck me!

82. I have sex with supermodels daily.

83. Supermodels have an incredible desire to fuck me wherever I go!

84. I attract whatever I desire.

Will says:

85. I am the most desirable man in the world. I am God’s gift to women.

86. I attract beautiful women on a deeply subconscious level.

87. Beautiful women are extremely persistent with me for sex.

88. What I believe is reality.

Cameron says:

Great affirmations Will! :-)

DJ Fuji says:

I don’t know what the deal with Will is, but he’s been posting those affirmations on every PUA blog in the industry. It hit mine and I remember seeing it on like 50 other PUA sites. ::Shady::