I was asked by one of the guys on the forum to write a post about how to start off the new year.

There are a number of great things you can do to improve your success with women.

You can get coaching (see my new incredibly successful Mentoring Program).

You can plan out what aspects of your game you want to work on and work on each aspect for one month (see How to Eat an Elephant).

But there is one aspect to this game that is more important than all the others.

I coach a lot of guys. And I also know a lot of great coaches. We talk about this all the time.

The main difference, the biggest X factor by far between guys who skyrocket their success, who get better by leaps and bounds vs. the guys who stay where they are is this: Read the rest of this entry »

It’s that time of year.

Office parties. Holiday parties. New Years. All kindsa parties.

Parties can be one of the best places to meet people, particularly cute women.

But for guys with anxiety, it’s not always the easiest thing in the world to go out and party.

Here are some tips to make things better for you.

1. Don’t underestimate the power of simply showing up. Woody Allen once said, “80 percent of success is just showing up.”

Always say yes to a party invitation, unless there’s a really good reason why you shouldn’t go. Read the rest of this entry »

In this podcast Cory and I have a conversation.

We talk about a topic very near and dear to my heart: getting sexual.

“I’m never all over a girl. She’s always all over me,” Cory says.

Cory gives the dirty details about a recent experience of his.

He explicitly talks about what happened and how it happened.

He also talks about:

• How things progress from verbal to physical
• How he escalates the interaction
• How he teases a girl to amp up the connection
• What Cory does on a first date
• How he sets the mood
• Why he doesn’t hold hands with a girl before they’re dating and what he
  does instead
• Why he never leans in with women, except on some occasions–and what those occasions are
• What he does if a girl won’t kiss him on the first date

Get Sexual with Cory Skyy

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It’s not easy to keep going on those days when no one seems receptive to you.

Or your body just doesn’t want to do it.

But it is those days when you actually have the greatest opportunity to learn and grow.

I recently went to a class on Buddhism taught by a friend of mine.

He told a story of Atisha, one of the greatest Buddhists, who helped to spread Buddhism from India to Tibet in the 11th century.

When Atisha went to Tibet, he brought with him an entourage of hundreds of dedicated monks.

Among them was his cook.

This cook was extremely disagreeable.  He spoke harshly and was rude and obnoxious to everyone.

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Miami.

Art Basel weekend, one of the largest art festivals in the world.

I’ve come down with some close friends to simply party, have fun, and meet cool art people (and cute art chicks).

But it’s always the same story. My body fights me at the beginning.

Like the grumbles I feel before going on a long run.

I get to the main convention center. Some amazing cuties there.

The art is brilliant. The women are hot. And many of them are alone or in groups of two girls.

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It was about a year ago. I was sitting in a chair with a roomful of people when the idea hit me.

I’m always trying to improve as a coach, so I’d gone to a convention for life coaches and business coaches.

I’d come to hear a talk from a guy I’d been following.

And something he said struck me.

“If you’re coaching people, you should be getting coaching yourself.”

And a lightbulb went off in my head.

Originally, when I got into the game, I was personally mentored by a lot of amazing guys.

Brad P. Lance Mason. Sean Messenger.

And I continued to work with a lot of great guys.

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When she wants love, my cat curls up into a fetal position, exposes her underbelly and meows.

It’s adorable.

Makes me want to cuddle her.

My cat is making herself physically vulnerable to me.

She is acting submissive in order to get me to show affection.

She is acting exposed.

There is a natural tendency for me to take initiative and show affection.

People show emotional vulnerability in order to get affection and build relationships.

What does it mean to show emotional vulnerability?

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