It Doesn't Feel Like an 'Approach'

by Eric Disco
Oct 16

ravenskar14I spot her from across the subway train. Seems attractive from here.

So I walk across the train and stand in her vicinity.

It doesn’t feel like an approach to me.

A few minutes later, as I’m looking down at my phone, I ask her a question.

“Do you know if there’s a zoo in Central Park?”

She gets a worried look on her face, as if to say, I can’t believe this guy is talking to me.

“Uh, yeah.”

“It’s kinda small though, right? Do you know if they have penguins?” I say with a smile.

“I think so,” she says.

It ends there. It doesn’t feel like an approach. I am just asking her a question.

A few minutes later, my train transfers.

I walk along the subway platform and stop near a cute girl. Same exact thing.

“I think so,” she responds to the zoo question.

ravenskar10“It’s kinda small, right?”

“There’s the Bronx zoo” she says.

“I wanna see penguins. Do they have penguins?”

She smiles as we get onto the arriving train.

“Is that where you’re going now?,” she asks.

“No maybe later,” I say. “I like you scarf,” referring to her middle-eastern scarf. “Have you been to middle east?” I ask.

She says she was born there. She tells me what city.

It turns out I visited the city a few years ago. And the conversation is off and running.

It doesn’t feel like an approach to me.

And therefore, it doesn’t feel like an approach to her.


posted in Field Reports, Subway Game

7 responses
Vortex says:

lately have bin experiencing the same ‘ problem ‘ as you describe here.
i can talk to a cute girl and its just conversation.

That’s interesting. That’s how the convo should start…

Vortex says:

yes i know but it never feels more then just another conversation ;-)


you must u r convos prescripted always the same qS SO YOU R NEVER AT A LOSS FOR WORDS

Vortex says:

Personally i believe in following the flow of conversation ,i am not a big fan of memorizing things to say ( exception => story’s).

Rob says:

I’m so not the convo guy and I’m so uncomfortable with small talk and compliments, it’s crazy. And it’s not only with women, but strangers … people I barely know, or who are not in my close circle of friends. I cannot converse with these people.

Strangely, when I go out with my friends, I can’t shut up. It doesn’t feel natural to talk to stragers. I mean, I just started some anti-anxiety medication a couple of months ago, and I don’t fear the talks anymore, it just feels like I was born yesterday and I have no language skills.

eye fucker says:

in the middle of rush hour the other day i tried this technique where it doesn’t feel like an approach. on the extremely crowded A train i asked a hot girl if i could bang her like a djembe drum. she said ok. so i started plowing her so gross right there on the train with everyone watching. then those beatboxing kids got on rappin a michael jackson song and i went totally limp, and all the commuters in unison went, “aawww…”