The best guys out there know something that other guys don’t know.

There are a lot of important components to getting great with women, but one important concept, particularly when it comes to very attractive women, is qualification.

As I’ve talked about before, your over-all goal in your interaction with a woman is to show genuine appreciation. If she feels like you saw something in her that no one else could, then she will feel differently about you than every other guy in the world.

And when I say genuine appreciation, it usually means appreciation of something she’s shared with you. Maybe she’s passionate about painting and you can say “Wow, I really like that. You’re passionate. That’s important.”

The problem is, most women won’t just come out and display their innermost important qualities–and they won’t display it to just anyone. There needs to be attraction there first.

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Deep down inside, there must be something inherently wrong with you.

You’re sure of it.

It has to do with how you experience life. The way you experience other people.

You know there’s more out there. You’ve tasted it.

For moments at a time, you experienced the joy of interacting with a woman you are madly attracted to.

She looked at you, for a moment. And for a moment you tasted it.

The Pickup Community promised you the world. Devious ways to win her heart.

You can change, they told you. They gave you the words. You adopted a new personality.

But weeks later you forgot the magic words and you’re back to square one.

And now you stand there and you look at how far you’ve come.

You look at where you’re at. And here, it seems, is not that much different than there.

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I spot her from across the subway train. Seems attractive from here.

So I walk across the train and stand in her vicinity.

It doesn’t feel like an approach to me.

A few minutes later, as I’m looking down at my phone, I ask her a question.

“Do you know if there’s a zoo in Central Park?”

She gets a worried look on her face, as if to say, I can’t believe this guy is talking to me.

“Uh, yeah.”

“It’s kinda small though, right? Do you know if they have penguins?” I say with a smile.

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After my last article a few people were asking for specific examples of what it means to “take initiative.”

An initiative is an introductory act or step. It’s an opening move, an action where you take the lead.

The important thing about taking initiative is that it may or may not be successful.

That’s why it’s called an opening move.  Anything could happen.

Let’s say you work at a soda company and they only make cola.

The company decides on an initiative to break into the root beer market. You create a new root beer product and put it on the market.

This new product may or may not be successful.  But either way, it’s an initiative.

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