Worst.  Day.  Ever.

Some days I feel so insecure.  It’s like I’ve got the opposite of the Midas touch.

Every person I talk to seems to distance themself from me.

Or at least it feels that way.

I’ve talked about it before, that confidence fluctuates in cycles.

And I don’t care who you are, even if you’re dating 10 supermodels, when you’re having a crappy day, you’re having a crappy day.

Welcome to the human condition.

So what’s it all worth?

Okay, so I can approach women. Has that really made my life any better?  I still have ups and downs, so what’s the deal?

The answer unequivocally, is Yes, it has made my life better.

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It’s Friday early evening.

My friend said he’d go with me to a concert.  It’s a band I really like.

But then I get a text from him saying he’s feeling sick and staying home.

None of my other friends are interested in going.

Should I go to the show all alone?

A huge part of me just wants to go home, watch a couple movies and call it a night.

I decide I’m going out instead.  It’s the first rule: just get out.

I don’t need to interact with anyone all night.  Even if I just go and watch the band, that’s something.

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The nice guy.

His world is held together by certain ingrained beliefs.

These beliefs cause him to fail with women.

Here’s a closer look at the myths the nice guy believes and what to do instead.

Myth 1:  Being nice makes women feel better.

The nice guy is always on the lookout for other people’s feelings.

He tends to treat women like they’re weak, fragile creatures that will crumble if he isn’t extra careful with her.

Picture the scene.  You just met her.  You ended up having an amazing night with her.  Morning roles around and you have stuff to do.

You could say “Hey baby, I’m really sorry, but I gotta do some stuff today, so I can’t really hang out in bed with you much more.  Is that okay?”

Or you could say “Alright I’m kicking you out!” with a wink and a smack on the ass.

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It’s an ugly ugly day out. Cold and pouring rain.

I drank too much coffee and I’m feeling on edge.

I get onto the subway platform in Union Square.

I just finished my daily round: Starbucks, Barnes and Noble.  Whole foods.

I didn’t even really get past banter with anyone today. Not many attractive women and I’m not quite in the mood.

As walk the length of the subway platform, I see a cute girl.

Not in the mood.

I see another cute girl.  Not in the mood to walk over to her.

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Anxiety.

There is probably no place a guy will feel it more than breaking up with a girl.

The fear of walking up to a woman and talking to her is nothing compared with the deep, dark emotional trauma guys will put themselves through when breaking up with a girl.

This is a fairly long, detailed article about how to break up with a girl—and how to deal with the anxiety of doing so.

There are two main reasons for breaking up with a girl.  One is that you are no longer feeling things with her.  The other is that she is causing you too much pain.

This article is mostly about the first type of breakup, where you aren’t feeling it anymore.  It focuses on how to deal with the anxiety and feelings of ending a relationship that just isn’t working out for you.

It is not a guide for how to end things or get her back if for example, if she is being unfaithful or losing interest and causing you pain.

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