Comments on: How to Be a Real Man

By: Dating Vancouver

Dating Vancouver — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 06:24:23 +0000

Great post… and great comments to go along with it.

“If she says no, you can always try again later.”

Thanks!

By: isidro1104

isidro1104 — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:25:40 +0000

Very Interesting Post Eric…. I Agree that Man take initiative… and is something that I have to work on not only with women but with every aspect in my life…..
I have had many situations where I have the Oppurtunity to take initiative but sadly its like my body my mind is not use to it….

It Would Be great If you Could Give a Few Easy steps to start Building your Initiative….

I know approaching is One… Each time you ignore that little voice that tells you to not approach that tells you not right now… your building initiative…

By: Zack

Zack — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:00:35 +0000

@ Jack: I’ll keep it relatively short and point out the somewhat obvious by saying that taking initiative and dealing with approach anxiety are related. It’s like when I played basketball growing up and the coach made us do wind sprints during practice and I was complaining to myself that wind sprints weren’t helping me with my basketball game the same way that shooting jumpers would. Of course, eventually I realized that wind sprints were helping to keep me in shape so that I could have my legs under me and most effectively perform my basketball-specific skills when it was time for a game.

-Zack

By: Jack

Jack — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 22:48:10 +0000

shitty post lets stick to the topic : Approach Anxiety.

By: reaching-souls

reaching-souls — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 05:55:32 +0000

Awesome post Eric, as always.

One question, along with your awesome posts come great pictures, portraits perhaps, do you draw them yourself?

By: Karma

Karma — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 04:57:52 +0000

God knows how many women I’ve avoided approaching (for lack of balls) and then fretted and pondered over WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN. It was torture, lying awake at night regretting not approaching.

Always better to approach and get rejected than not approach at all and regret it for ever.

By: Karma

Karma — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 02:15:11 +0000

@ was Totally Confused : “I’m still glad I took the initiative in the first place”

That’s absolutely correct. The pain of not knowing is worse than the pain of rejection. :)

By: was Totally Confused

was Totally Confused — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 20:42:55 +0000

Eric, thanks for clarifying the situation. Armed with this info I feel like on the right approach again. Whatever I make happen I’m still glad I took the initiative in the first place.