Everyone wants to be a “natural.”

You don’t want to use awkward, pre-scripted material.

You want to be able to talk to a woman using things you’ve thought of yourself right there in the moment.

Instead of thinking about what to do with women, you want to be able to feel what to do.  You want it to come from someplace deep inside of you.

You want to be yourself around the woman, instead of somebody else.

“I feel like it’s a canned opener and that the woman will sense it,” Eddie says to me as we practice openers in the workshop.

Later that day, we have girl practice.  We bring women into the workshop and the guys practice approaching them. Continue Reading »

Two recent studies published in LiveScience Journal with interesting results.

Everyone Agrees: Women Are Hard to Read

Researchers showed video clips from speed dates to unrelated male and female observers.

They asked the observers two simple questions:

“Do you think the man was interested in this woman?” and “Do you think the woman was interested in this man?”

Their answers were then compared with the responses of the speed daters themselves.

The results show that both men and women are able to gauge a man’s interest in a woman but both men and women are equally baffled when it comes to figuring out if a woman is interested in a man.

Read the Article Here

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Body Language Reveals Socioeconomic Status

Researchers videotaped pairs of strangers in one-on-one interviews. They looked for gestures that indicate level of interest in the other person during one-minute slices of each conversation.

They found that students whose parents were from higher socioeconomic status (SES) backgrounds engaged in more of what he called “impolite” behaviors, such as grooming, doodling and fidgeting.

Lower SES students showed more “I’m interested” gestures, including laughter and raising of the eyebrows.

Read the Article Here

Positive self-talk.  There’s a reason guys are skeptical.

You want to live in reality.  You don’t want to make things up in  your mind.

You don’t want to just think you are excellent,  you want to BE excellent.

You didn’t get into this to fool yourself.

You have a healthy attachment to reality.

You know what you can and can’t do.

You can’t walk up to a beautiful woman and say “Let’s have sex.”

She’ll say No.

This is reality.

But you want to improve.  You want to be better with women.  And you know there are ways to do it. Continue Reading »