I feel like using a prepared ‘clever’ opening comment relieves a lot of the anxiety in the daytime but I haven’t done any ‘simple’ ones yet during the daytime when approaching a stranger on the sidewalk or in the frozen foods aisle. It seems like a simple introduction would be a lot weirder there than in a bar or nightclub where people go to meet people. The clever ones make me feel smart and I like to feel smart. That might also be why I resist using other people’s prepared routines. Maybe that’s just me.

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First I find it pretty difficult to approach a girl that is walking. Have any tips for that?

Hey Man, check out this article, How to Approach A Woman Who’s Walking.

Second question is a group of girls, Erik i was walking around last thursday and i saw this amazing looking girl that i was really attracted too she was with 4 of her friends which i was not attracted too but i really wanted to talk to this girl, i stopped and i let the anxiety creep in (big mistake) and i began to think about it and in my head i was like how could i go in and just talk to this girl and ignore all of her friends how could i say “hi” i was walking by and i just wanted to come say “hi” i stood there frozen and watch this girl just walk out of my life, I mean i was really down after that. i started to beating myself up i let her walk away :( anyway Erik what could ive done in that situation??? What Would You Have done???

You can open women when they are with friends or in a group. Just like when they are alone, you can be more direct/sincere or flirty/playful.

Going direct is great. Say she’s walking with her friend. You can stop her the same way as if she were alone. See the article above for the mechanics on how to do that.

When you start to talk to her, one of two things will happen. If she’s really into you and the friend(s) can tell, sometimes the friend or friends, if they are cool, will fade back and let the two of you have your moment.

If not, the friends will remain there. In that case you need to introduce yourself to all of them and engage all of them in conversation. If they are standing nearby you can’t leave them out of the conversation. You can focus on the girl you are into and talk to her more and give her more eye contact. But you can’t completely ignore the other girls.

You can also do it a little more indirect/playful. Let’s say you stop them and ask for directions and then start flirting with them. You will have to talk to everyone at the beginning. From there you can start to focus on the one girl a bit more.

It’s a little bit different than in bars where you could have your friend “wing” for you. You could do that during the day but it almost doesn’t really help.

I would suggest at some point calling it out like “Wow, I like this girl” or something to make it clear which girl you are interested in. That way later on you can say, we should hang out again.

I prefer to go direct and call it out right from the beginning and open with “I just had to tell you you are unbelievably cute!”

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anyway I have a few questions, First I find it pretty difficult to approach a girl that is walking have any tips for that man last couple of days i have gone out with that mission in mind and i havent been able to get myself to stop her could you help me out man

second question is a group of girls, Erik i was walking around last thursday and i saw this amazing looking girl that i was really attracted too she was with 4 of her friends which i was not attracted too but i really wanted to talk to this girl, i stopped and i let the anxiety creep in (big mistake) and i began to think about it and in my head i was like how could i go in and just talk to this girl and ignore all of her friends how could i say “hi” i was walking by and i just wanted to come say “hi” i stood there frozen and watch this girl just walk out of my life, I mean i was really down after that. i started to beating myself up i let her walk away :(
anyway Erik what could ive done in that situation??? What Would You Have done???
Maybe those are just stupid question the thing that i should have done is just walk up to her and talk to her

Any way ERIK

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My question is regarding the simple and stupid openers, do stupid games like post-its and stuff work with any girl too?

At work I would definitely be more playful. I like to be a little bit antagonistic, all in an obviously fun way of course. When you walk by, push her into stuff and say “Oh, excuse me, I didn’t see you there.” Throw stuff at her. If you did use post it notes, I would be more playful. Leave a postit that says something like “dork” or whatever. Bust on her for slacking off. I also like to say things like “Man, they got you working hard. Do they chain you to your desk, give you bread and water, etc.” You of course want to say this stuff with a smile on your face.

Edit:  The first thing I would do if I didn’t know the girl at work, is go up and introduce myself.  “Hi, I’m Eric.  I don’t believe we’ve met.”  And get her name.  If you are very nervous, you might want to just stop by her office or stop her when you see her and say Hi, how are you, how was your weekend, etc.