You can tell exactly how things will go just by watching him walk toward her.

“Go say hi to her,” I tell him.

He’s a tall, exceptionally good-looking guy with hair parted straight down the middle.

He looks across the bookstore at her. I can see his expression change from normal to tense as he says “Okay.”

He starts to think.

And think.

He sees me looking at him. “Okay,” he says again five seconds later.

He starts to walk. It’s a death march. He’s going slowly with his eyes fixed on her.

Just as he gets near her, he loops around and comes back.

“Give me a minute,” he says.

There’s a very simple rule in pickup, probably one of the first rules guys learn.

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It’s a Sunday afternoon and I’m riding up the escalator with Glenn.

We are heading into a shoe store to approach some women.

There’s a break in the conversation. He turns to a middle-aged woman on the escalator behind us.

“High five!” he says.

She slaps his hand and a subdued smile comes across her face.

Glenn’s been doing this all day.

Glenn is unstoppable when it comes to women.

I have seen him run circles around the cutest girls imaginable, escalate faster than you think was possible.

He’s had supermodels eating out of the palm of his hand.

But when he’s warming up, he’ll have fun with anyone.

“Do people ever not high five you?” I ask him. Read the rest of this entry »

Until a few years ago, Lee had decided he was done with dating. “I’m done” he said.

But now, at 43, he is dating multiple beautiful women. In a matter of months he turned his life around.

Lee is one of the best dating coaches in New York. In this podcast, we sit down and talk about all the amazing things he does with women.

Lee has a very original approach. He is very different than other guys out there in the way he interacts with women.

But probably the best thing about Lee is his attitude and how much fun he has with this. It comes through in everything he does.

• How to use age as an advantage rather than a disadvantage and get women of any age to chase you.

• Hear some brilliant and fun daytime openers–all originally Lee’s

• Why to cut dates short and what it does for you

• How to keep your power in relationships and why women want you to

• A very special method of getting women to call you

• What to do on dates to get her begging for more

She’s Chasing You – Download Free MP3 Podcast (44 min, 40 MB)

When I first started approaching women, I was nervous as hell.

I’d read some clever openers that seemed like they would work on women.

So I tried them.

I walked up to women hoping to make them laugh.

If I could get her to laugh she would be interested in me, I thought.

And I failed miserably. I didn’t fail because of the words. I failed because I was trembling with fear.

I was trying to be funny and cute when I was completely locked up.

I looked at what was happening, how some approaches would succeed but most would fail. I noticed how I felt afterward.

I looked at all the anxiety and how uncomfortable I was with this process.

That’s when I decided to throw everything away. I wouldn’t use anything.

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When you ask guys what the goal of rapport is, they usually say something like ¡Æto create an emotional connection.’

While you do want to create an emotional connection, it is difficult to say whether you’ve gotten there or not.

A better definition of rapport, something to shoot for, is to find something to genuinely appreciate in her.

If I can do that, whether it’s a five minute conversation or an hour long conversation, I’ve established rapport.

What does that mean, to establish rapport?

If I got her phone number and went to go call her, she would feel that I in some way got to know her.

This past weekend we had a workshop. During our dinner break I went with Lee, one of our instructors, to get sushi.

Lee is an animal, always talking to women. There is no containing him. You can’t put a leash on a tiger.

It wasn’t 30 seconds of walking into the sushi restaurant that he was talking to three lovely women sitting at a table nearby. Read the rest of this entry »

When I started learning how to approach women, I went out almost every day to the park near where I work.

I could feel my heart rate increase and my blood pressure rise even as I walked out the front door of my building.

I circled the park, sometimes hoping there wouldn’t be any cute girls to talk to because I knew my body would start to react.

And sometimes I did see that gorgeous girl and didn’t approach her because I had too much anxiety.

Regardless, I went out every day and didn’t quit.

I did finally approach. And with every approach, I improved.

Eventually I became very comfortable meeting women in the park. It was a good place to start.

But then I went to go meet them on a crowded subway platforms and a lot of the anxiety came back. Read the rest of this entry »