It’s one thing to walk up to a woman standing somewhere and talk to her.

Or to walk up to a woman who is sitting down and ask if you can join her.

But how do you stop a woman who is walking? To some guys, it seems almost impossible.

But once you know a few basic ideas, it’s actually just as easy as approaching her when she’s not moving. Here’s how.

There are two basic things to focus on with stopping a woman who is walking: Familiar Voice Tone and Planting.

Firstly, let’s look at familiar voice tone. Continue Reading »

“Let me see you do an approach,” my student says to me.

I start to get a little bit nervous. It’s easy to push guys to approach women.

“Go talk to her.” “Go say hi to that girl.”

But when a student asks you to demonstrate an approach, all of a sudden the pressure’s on you.

I’ve approached thousands of women.

And from the very first approach, to the very last, one thing always held constant:

Uncertainty.

No matter how many women you approach, the next is always a question mark.

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Being alive means being spontaneous, being open to new experiences.

One of the most important things we teach guys in our workshops is to LISTEN to what the girl is saying.

Appreciate her.

When you can do this, 90% of your work is done.

Most of the time now, when I go up to women and talk to them, I do not have any specific words in my head that I will say to them.

I love to be spontaneous.

When I say something to a woman that I’ve never said before, whether it’s fun playful banter, or something deep and emotional I’ve never told anyone–that is when I am truly alive.

This is what you are aiming for.

An interaction that is as personal as childhood memories.

An innocence that only comes when both of you have abandoned your security. Continue Reading »