She Needs To Be Punished
by 
Eric Disco
You’re out at a lounge with a very attractive woman, sitting, talking, enjoying each other’s company.
And she spills her drink.
What do you do?
If you’re a jerk, you might get angry at her.
But chances are, you’re not a jerk. You’re a nice guy.
Probably too nice.
So instead of getting angry, you might say to her “That’s okay, don’t worry about it.” You would play it cool.
Okay, not bad. It’s good to be nice. Nobody wants to hang out with a jerk.
But something that would make her feel even better is busting on her.
You turn to her and say “Oh my god, I can’t take you anywhere,” as you sigh. “Go wait in the car.”
Banter and teasing makes her feel good–and makes you attractive.
By joking with the her, she truly knows it’s alright.
By busting on her, you are letting her know you’re in good humor. You are telling her it’s okay, in an emotional way.
As long as they know you really are joking, women love it when you bust on them. It makes them feel good and makes you more attractive.
You can even bust on her when she DOESN’T screw up.
“I can’t believe you look so sexy tonight,” you say with a big sigh, shaking your head, as if she did something wrong.
“What’s a guy like me to do? I’m only flesh and blood.”
This stuff is powerful. And not just at the beginning of the relationship. Ever meet a woman who’s bored with her man?
A while ago, I was seeing a girl and our relationship got serious. Some of the flirting had died down.
That’s when she sat me down and said, “Eric, I like when you make fun of me.”
Message received, loud and clear.
Sometimes it’s not easy to joke with a girl, especially a girl you’re REALLY into. Teasing her is a risk and your body tells you not to take that risk.
Play it safe, you don’t want to screw this up!
But when you do joke with her, it shows her that you aren’t completely locked up, inhibited and under her spell.
It also sends a signal to your own body that it’s okay to lighten up here.
That’s when you become that fun, attractive, spontaneous person she’ll want to be around.
And it becomes fun for her.
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What happens when you DO go too far, Eric? I’ve got that kind of sense of humour where I will go that little bit too far where someone gets offended or something, and I constantly fear that busting on a girl I’m interested in will get me the same results. I’ll say “your fingers are too fat” to a girl who’s anorexic and super sensitive to comments like that (like my ex, hah) and it’ll totally backfire. How do you recover that?
Great question.
I would say something like “I’m just playing.” And then depending on how riled she is, APPRECIATE.
If she freaks out, it’s usually either that she you did it wrong, like you didn’t make it obvious that you were joking, or it just wasn’t funny. Or perhaps you did too much. If you did too much then you have to make it clear that you were playing and PULL HER BACK IN. You can do that by appreciating her, going into rapport, talking to her and finding out what she’s like as a human being.
Eric
Is there ever a point in a relationship where you can relax?? I’d imagine that this sets up the expectation that the teasing should never stop. Only problem is, fast forward 2 years, don’t the same jokes get old? Sometimes I watch older couples who have been married forever, and the husband will make some old joke referencing how women can’t drive well, and the wife will just ignore it, it just doesn’t have the same effect after hearing similar things over and over again.
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Great question as well!
Let me ask you this: is there ever a point in the relationship when it’s okay for her to stop being sexy?
Yes and no. You don’t need her to get dolled up every single night. But at the same time, you wouldn’t want her to just let everything go!
You keep it around a little here and there to keep the fire going. After a year of the relationship you hopefully aren’t just close friends that fuck. There’s more there. You still flirt a little and have fun. There’s still a tiny bit of tension. Not like at the beginning. But you are still challenged a bit and she is challenged too.
Eric
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RE:
Check out Pickup 101’s Art of Attraction workshop. There’s one coming up on April 18 in New York City with yours truly, Eric Disco.
But hurry, there are only two spots left.
I Heard their are only three spots for the whole event. lol
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