Comments on: 10 Rules for the Perfect First Date

By: Crystal

Crystal — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 19:16:42 +0000

From a woman’s standpoint, this advice is PATHETIC. You may have been lucky enough in the past to get laid from your own advice, but I highly doubt you ever seen any of those women again. Maybe this is good advice for a one-night stand, but NOT if you want a serious relationship. And WTF is it with you to put down every woman on this pathetic site, calling her a FEMINIST or UGLY, just because she has a voice. A woman is NOT a man’s play thing. It’s men like you that make a straight girl wanna re-think her sexuality!!!

By: Lee

Lee — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 13:47:13 +0000

@Clare When a guy blows more money on you or takes you to a new place, do you really “feel special”? I feel a little sad for you if you do because you’re focusing on something that men can easily do – blow more cash – and ignoring something men cannot easily do – make the date about figuring out whether the two of you are really compatible. Girls, get this through your heads: If a guy feels you’re special before he’s had a chance to get to know you, you are being taken for a ride. The only thing an honest man can feel before he gets to know you is that he’s sexually attracted to you. The rest is what that first date is all about. If a man is willing to blow big bucks on you and take you to a fancy restaurant, the only thing you can say about him is that he’s trying to impress you. He doesn’t yet think you’re any more special than any other hot piece of ass he’s met on the street. –Lee

By: Clare

Clare — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 11:52:17 +0000

“Spend as little money on her as possible” – I don’t think this is good advice. The comment about I’ll get the first round, you get the next 5, would not go down well with me on a date… at all. I think this guy is missing the point that on a date, especially a first date, girls want to feel SPECIAL. Same sort of applies to your thing about taking every girl to the same place every time. If this girl really is “different from all the others”, you should let her know it. Sure, relationships and getting to know one another should be relaxed and low-pressure, but there is room in every relationship for making a girl feel special, we love it. And if you’re not going to do it in the beginning, when will you? (well, that’s me anyway.)

By: winter23

winter23 — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 15:43:01 +0000

Sometimes I think if the guy asks you out he should pay for sure, but I’m always inclined to offer, just in case. It’s best when he declines the offer. As a girl, you have to understand, we might technically make similar salaries, but I spend money on hair, nails, makeup, clothes, and getting it all together, which most guys really don’t have to worry about. If all these things are done to look my best on our date, I expect you to be a real man and gentleman to be aware of these things. So, the extra effort on my part to look good for you=you prepared to pay. Now, I do think girls should at least offer but it’s a big turnoff if you don’t decline it. This is an ideal situation. But, nowadays many girls want to feel that they don’t need a man to take care of them or worse feel obligated but I think the guy should always pay more and put more into planning, ect. It’s only fair while we spend out energy on looking out best and relaxing for a moment, it’s best when you feel you don’t have to be taking care of things. I know many men that would be offended if I offered to buy them a drink, even if he had just bought me one. It’s different types of men and a different set up for how the relationship is going to be. About going close to your house, no way should be harder for you more relaxing for you, go to her.

By: Kay Kay

Kay Kay — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 08:09:44 +0000

I think the tips are about half correct half wrong, from a girl’s point of view.

I actually agree with one of the lady’s comments above; when a guy asks a girl out, he should pay. And when a girl asks a guy out, she should expect to pay. And please don’t complain and say that girls never ask guys out. Once beyond that initial stage, girls are very comfortable in asking guys to go out and do a certain activity. I absolutely expect myself to pay when I am the one who picks up the phone and asks the guy to go “bowling” or “coffee” or “biking” with me; cause I wanted to; though on many occasions, most of these guys won’t let me pay. If that’s the case, I would try to sneak out and buy some ice cream or coffee for us during the date.

I have to admit that when guys don’t want to pay, it hurts my self-esteem a tiny bit; it implies that he doesn’t think I am worth his money or time? Sometimes it is a culture thing, here in North America, going Dutch seems to be more common. In Asia or Europe, 99% of the guys would not let me pay during dates. I try not to judge guys base on whether or not he pays for the dates, cause maybe he is really going through some difficult time financially. However, it just looks bad in public when a girl has to pay; maybe you boys don’t notice it. Often times, girls get weird looks from the waitress or waiter or just fellow diners when we pay, it’s like we are not worthy, we have to pay for guys to go on dates. That’s the primary reason why girls don’t like paying. That’s why I often buy gifts for my ex bf (things he needed) instead of paying for activities we do; he takes care of those. He and I both felt very comfortable that way. He felt like a man, and I felt like a lady; and we both contributed =)

Boys, general rule of thumb. Don’t embarrass a girl in public. If money is an issue, take her to less expensive places. 99% of my gfs agree, we rather go eat at restaurant A (casual dining, Total $20, guy pays it all) than eat at restaurant B (a bit fancy, Total $40, guy pays $20, girl pays $20). You can see, in both situations, the guy pays the same amount of money. But the girl is definitely a 100% happier going to restaurant A. Going Dutch also makes her feel like you can be just friends or strangers; there is no sense of togetherness. Many of my gfs and I use this strategy; let the guy pay for a couple of times, then we pay; and just take turns. But splitting the bill is ultimately the ugliest things to do in public for a COUPLE, or SOON-TO-BE couple.

You may disagree with what I say, but this is advice from a girl. And asking you to pay the tab on a $20 dinner bill is NOT MATERIALISTIC! Gold diggers want diamonds, jewels, purses, not cheap dinners or affordable activities. So don’t call us materialistic. We are just a bit traditional =)

By: Cameron

Cameron — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:45:10 +0000

I think its ridiculous to compare women who want men to buy them dinner to prostitutes.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 08:27:50 +0000

@Lee

I know.
It is amazing how many of these complainers , technically speaking , operate with the mindset of a prostitute without even being aware of it: you pay me an indefinite(!) amount upfront and then you may or may not get sex and even love in return. Whores are way more honest and fair.

Ironically most women do this in order not to appear cheap and easy …

By: Lee

Lee — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 22:15:16 +0000

Guys, the girls who are complaining about this article are not feminists. The feminists I know would be fine with a simple drink in a dive bar. They don’t want to be bought, pampered, or spoiled. The girls complaining are the high maintenance girls, the girls who want men to give them an ego boost. The tragedy is that the obsequious men they attract quickly become boring to them. Only when they meet a man who is initially a little skeptical about them – a man whose love they have to win – are they truly happy. The psychology of the erotic works like this: The stronger the taboo, the greater a woman’s pleasure when she finally surrenders. –Lee