“This is the most important part of the weekend,” I say to the guys in the workshop.

“Now comes the time when we brag about how awesome we did.”

One student is not doing awesome. Or at least he feels that way.

We just spent the last four hours going around Manhattan talking to women in different locations.

We went to bookstores, cafe’s, supermarkets, records stores, in parks and just walking down the sidewalk.

“I’m actually doing worse,” Mark says. “I’ve gotten phone numbers from women before, but today I didn’t get any. It’s like I was so nervous, maybe I was putting too much pressure on myself.”

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Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like anxiety.

My heart doesn’t race. My palms don’t sweat. I don’t get light-headed. My throat doesn’t constrict.

But it is there. Like an invisible wall.

My feet will not move forward.

I stand there on the crowded subway platform. I promised myself I would talk to a girl today. Just ask for directions. That’s all.

But I can’t. I physically cannot walk up to her and ask for directions.

What is going on with me?

I see a lot of guys who struggle to do their first approach. It seems like such a simple thing to walk up to a girl and say “Hey, I just wanted to come say hi.”

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Not many people know this, but as men, the most important tool we have for seducing women is our ears.

So few men have mastered the skill of listening.

When learning this stuff, we are usually too focused on what we’re saying rather than listening.

But if you can simply listen well, she will open like a flower.

Listening seems passive, but it’s not. The way she will sense that you are listening to her is by your RESPONSE to what she says.

Below are six ESSENTIAL listening skills. You can practice them every conversation you have with anybody, not just women.

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“I hope to say of her what never has been said of any woman…” – Dante

I have an ON switch. When I get into something, I really get into it.

Whether it’s becoming the best pickup artist in the world, crafting the perfect electro album, or becoming a journalist in the Middle East.

I’m focused. And ambitious. Some would even say obsessive.

A long time ago, when I first started as an assistant coach in the Art of Attraction workshop, Sean Messenger was head coach. It was a large workshop, about 16 guys.

He asked at one point how many guys were in the Gifted and Talented program as a kid. Gifted and Talented was a program to help nurture kids who seemed exceptionally bright or talented in grade school.

75% of the class raised their hand.

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I’m out with a student on the streets of New York. He is doing extremely well approaching women.

He is continually opening and engaging women who are literally supermodels.

But there’s something wrong.

With all the approaches he’s doing, and all the warm reception he’s getting from these gorgeous women (and they were gorgeous), something is wrong.

The girls aren’t into it in the end.

He’ll ask for their number and they say “I don’t give my number out.”

This guy obviously has it together. He is a fucking cool guy. He’s charismatic, as cool as any guy I’ve met. He has a great life, we talked about some exciting things he’d done. He obviously has a lot to offer.

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You’re out at a lounge with a very attractive woman, sitting, talking, enjoying each other’s company.

And she spills her drink.

What do you do?

If you’re a jerk, you might get angry at her.

But chances are, you’re not a jerk. You’re a nice guy.

Probably too nice.

So instead of getting angry, you might say to her “That’s okay, don’t worry about it.” You would play it cool.

Okay, not bad. It’s good to be nice. Nobody wants to hang out with a jerk.

But something that would make her feel even better is busting on her.

You turn to her and say “Oh my god, I can’t take you anywhere,” as you sigh. “Go wait in the car.” Read the rest of this entry »

You just met an amazing girl.

Wow.

This girl is different from all the others.

You’ve been on dates before, but they didn’t really mean anything compared to this girl.

Now it’s ON!

All of a sudden you start to scramble.

Where to go? What to do?

You ask your friends. You search the internet.

What do you do on the perfect date????

Here are ten rules to make this simple and easy.

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