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This is the BEST BOOK I’ve ever read in the community! Do not underestimate the techniques in this book. Simple but powerful.
Eric, I need one clarification. I’ll write down what I think you meant and you tell me if I’m right.
When you say “approach”, you don’t just mean go up and say “Hi”. You mean push the interaction as far as I am comfortable pushing it. I could start talking to her and spend 20 minutes chatting. If I want to kiss her in the first minute, I should try. If I am too afraid to kiss her, then I should not try. If I’m really bored after 2 minutes, I should leave.
In all cases, I should congratulate myself for making my approach. Regardless of whether she liked me or hated me. The only thing that matters is that I am in the sweet spot of challenge: not too easy that I am not pushing myself, but not so hard that my confidence shrinks.
Is that correct?
Yes, you pretty much hit the nail on the head.
One thing I would add about staying in the “sweet spot of challenge” (great term) is that if you are going to do it on a daily basis, you may want to choose something that’s challenging for you to do on a daily basis. This may be different than something you are able to do once.
In other words, maybe you are able to walk up to five girls on a given day or night, that may mean you want to scale back to something manageable you can do every day. If you are able to approach five women on a single day, it may still be a challenge for you to CONSISTENTLY approach one woman every day.
Hey Eric,
In your book you said make this the most important thing in your day. I find this to be one of the main problems in approaching. I dont’ wanna think about it all day. I wanna get it over with and go back to normal. I guess thats the advantage of doing only 1 per day.
As a student I find thinking about approaching really distracting during classes. Its like the most dreaded part of the day and keeps me from feeling relaxed and at the same time makes the anxiety worse.
Also I would feel uncomfortable opening girls in the same place as the same girls tend to come back, and then I’d be the weird guy who opens all the girls. I suppose if i did my approaches before my class it wouldn’t be so bad.
Also how do u then integrate this into opening any girl anywhere? It seems like you recommend getting used to a specific time and environment. How do you take that with you any where you go? Does it come naturally?
Great book by the way, I realize thats why I didn’t approach today, although I did three one day a couple weeks ago. I haven’t made it a daily habit.
Great question. It’s a great goal to eventually be able to open any girl anywhere. And some of the best approaches are when you surprise yourself and you just do it immediately when you see the girl, maybe when you weren’t expecting to do it.
Part of the problem though, is that you are not able to open any girl anywhere at this point. And when you see that hot girl and you can’t open her, you feel bad about yourself. You wonder what’s wrong with yourself. You feel like you let yourself down. You put pressure on yourself that shouldn’t be there at this point.
If you choose something that you know you’ll be able to do, whether it’s opening one girl a day, asking three people for directions, or just getting out there, you will start to build up your confidence a tiny bit at a time–the only way you can truly build up your confidence.
And the rest of the day when you see those gorgeous women you’d like to approach–don’t. Take it easy. Relax. Tell yourself you are fucking awesome. You already did your approach for the day–or you’ll do your approach at the time you specified. That’s all you need to do and no more. Biting off too much at the beginning is the main reason why guys fail at this stuff.
Eventually you’ll be able to approach almost any woman anywhere. But for now, starting off, don’t do more than you can consistently manage. You are better off approaching one woman every day for a week than approaching ten on one single day.
Thanks, man!
Eric Disco
This book is so simple and yet so awesome. I’m going to put this into practice right after I finish the Physical Confidence program in 3 weeks.
Eric, I know for me, sometimes I feel some anxiety when approaching, sometimes I feel a lot and sometimes I feel no anxiety at all. Does the anxiety ever leave completely?
The anxiety does leave completely. That’s when you give this stuff up because it is no longer challenging and exciting.
You want to feel some twinge of excitement when you go to approach a woman. It will enhance your performance and show how truly human you are.
Eric
Hi Eric, just letting you know that I have accepted this challenge of yours, and day number one is already in the books.
It took me an hour & a half to get it over with, but I was not leaving my campas until I made that one approach. Too bad I still avoided the laides who hit me with eye contact, one day I’ll be quick on my feet to accomplish that feat.
As for the approach itself, I made it happen, which is all that counts :)
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Hey Eric,
I go out a lot, but is this approaching meant to be for beautiful women or any women? Because I don’t see too many beautiful women around my area and by that I mean very rarely, if I am to do 1 a day I need to find beautiful women right?