It is one of the most important aspects of becoming socially confident.

You want to be comfortable. We all do.

You have a best friend. You can be yourself around him. He makes you feel free.

You joke. You play. You make fun of him. He makes fun of you.

It’s like you’re kids again.

But you get in front of her and it’s different. Everything is different.

Or you arrive at that party where you don’t know anyone but the host. Uh… awkward… “So… uh… how do you know Ryan?”

I used to be there myself. I’m not anymore. I’m a master at this stuff now.

Why? Read the rest of this entry »

Whatever you do, do not model yourself after this guy.

Barry Kirkey just doesn’t give a shit. He says whatever he wants, whenever he wants.

“On first dates? I usually bring a small child with me and make her watch me molest the child,” he says to me in this podcast.

Barry is out there to amuse himself, not anyone else. And it drives women away. Or so you’d think.

In actuality, they come flocking. Women love it.

What is cooler than a guy who is there for his own amusement? “I don’t say things to try to be funny. I would rather get a reaction of disgust or wondering what the hell is going on rather than laughter.”

Barry is a former RSD instructor and is starting his own company and we decided it was time to talk. And talk we did!

“I’d stare down girls and freak them out, people were probably like ‘Hey, have you seen that rapist in building 3?’”

“There’s so many companies that say do it this way, do it that way, and in reality, you can do it however you want.”

Amuse Yourself First – Download Free MP3 Podcast (41 min, 38 MB)

“Last night a DJ saved my life from a broken heart. Last night a DJ saved my life with a song.”

As someone who made electronic dance music, I felt sorry for guys who made rock music.

I had something they would never have:

I could DJ.

I believe this one simple fact is what has helped the evolution of electronic music progress so much over such a short period of time.

The DJ creates a paradigm within electronic music that almost no other genre can rival.

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I’m really excited about this podcast. It’s different than all the other podcasts.

Kelvin isn’t a world-class dating guru (yet!) but in many ways he’s come a lot further than any of them.

About 20 years ago, Kelvin had so much social anxiety that he couldn’t walk into a McDonald’s and order a Big Mac.

For the last 20 years, he’s been working on himself. He has an amazing perspective on how social anxiety works and what it takes to get past it.

In this podcast, we talk about

• How over-empathizing with people can cripple you socially
• What things Kelvin did to help him become more confident
• Why thinking so much is a problem and how to be more natural instead
• How self-consciousness kills attraction faster than anything
• Why eye contact can be difficult and what you can do to improve it
• How social anxiety translates to neediness around women
• How to feel good about yourself after bad social interactions

Get Socially Confident – Download Free MP3 Podcast (29 min, 27 MB)

With so many people teaching pickup these days, how do you find the right coach to work with?

Here are seven things to look for in a great coach.

1. A great coach will build on your strengths.

He won’t try to completely take you apart and rebuild you. He’ll notice what’s working as well as what needs to change.

Making you see and feel good about what’s working is as important as helping you change what’s not working.

It’s not about giving someone a new personality and things to say, it’s about bringing out the confident, sexy guy that is inside you.

2. A great coach will share personal examples from his life.

In lectures and in answering questions, he’ll talk about his personal experiences with women. Read the rest of this entry »