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By: Ryan

Ryan — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 07:12:28 +0000

Eric, that is some great advice. I also realized that developing skills with women, although fun, isn’t everything. One idea that I’ve been playing around with is cultivating my life’s purpose and organizing everything around it. If a woman does not fit into my life purpose, then I let her go.

Cheers on writing a book, that is definitely along the lines of creating strong purpose and helping other guys. -Ryan

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By: SJJ

SJJ — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 22:04:33 +0000

Hi Eric
I will have to second the sentiments in June’s post. As is often the case in the pick-up world, we all travel around and take bits of information from various different organisations and school’s of thought. I personally find Wayne Elise’s and Charisma Arts’ philosophy to be the one most suited to me, but we are all different.

However, I came across your site a few months ago and regularly check your excellent posts and podcasts which are unparalleled. You speak with real clarity and compassion and are a credit to yourself and everyone else in this crazy and wonderful game. I salute you and thank you for your kind and encouraging words of Wisdom.
All the best, SJJ

By: Eric Disco

Eric Disco — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 16:34:35 +0000

Wassup Mikey,

One thing I would recommend for starters is to focus on setting up dates/day 2′s rather than just getting numbers. While it seems counter-intiutive and needy, in actuality it is the best thing for not just eliminating flakes, but giving you a perfect idea of where the interaction really is. Women will give out their number pretty easily. But they are a lot less likely to make a commitment and say okay to a date if they are really not into it. I would go so far as to refuse to take a girl’s number if she won’t agree to see you. What’s the point in getting her phone number if she’s not into you whil you’re in front of her? Then there’s definitely no way you’ll get her to meet up over the phone. I HATE trying to set dates up over the phone.

I do go through periods of not going balls-to-the-wall. I’m in one of those periods right now. I was seeing a girl exclusively for a few weeks, and I just broke up with her. I’m not feeling shitty over it, I feel fine. But I’m also laying low for a while. I see girls all the time that I could walk up to and talk to, girls I’m attracted to, and I’m not hindered by approach anxiety. But I’m just not in the mood to do it right now. And that’s okay. I need some me time.

Take some time off to do a few other things for a while. Or just slow down. Don’t totally drop off. Maybe still flirt with cashiers and waitresses. Ask a few girls for directions just for the hell of it. But take off the pressure if you’re not enjoying it.

And try not to be so hard on yourself. You’ve come along light years, Mike. I’ve seen you progress. You are a totally different person in so many ways. Congratulate yourself, take yourself out to dinner. Take a break and figure out what you really want so when you come back to this stuff you’ll be that much stronger.

Eric

By: Jason

Jason — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:37:22 +0000

Mike, that’s a piss poor attitude, straight up. I felt like that once, but thinking like that just makes it worse. Keep your head held really high, not just high enough. Try daygame insta-dating. That could give you a nice shove in the right direction. It does for me.

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 05:07:21 +0000

i’m in a not so productive place right now. i stopped going out as much as i used to and now more then ever my thoughts are filled with questions like “am i going to find that one cool girl?” i haven’t had a girlfriend for more then 3 months. i’m still not where i want to be with pickup. i’ve goten to the point where i’m super frustrated with flakes. i go out and exert myself immensely, tackle my fears and end up with girls flaking on me. it royally sucks.

did you go through these periods? i dont go out everyday anymore. it seems that i never really gotten over any fear in the past year, i’ve only forced myself to feel it day to day. now i dont want to feel it anymore and i’m slacking off. i dont feel like approaching that cute girl on the train anymore. worst case is i’ll say soemthing stupid and get embarrassed, best case is she flakes on me. it sucks.

what did you do, Eric? help a brotha out.

By: June

June — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:26:06 +0000

Out of all the material out on the web wether it be ebooks, podcast, videos or forums I have to give it to you, you by far come off as the most human. I love the stuff you put out, its definetly helped me keep my chin up on more than one occasion. The Pissing Contest. Class stuff. Rock on man.

By: Jason

Jason — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:13:55 +0000

Right on, man. I finally got off my ass, stopped trolling the pick-up 101 forums, and did a workshop in NYC. Everything has changed, and I’m now starting to experience good challenges, not just “constant hits to the face” anymore. I’ve been reading your posts since I got started a year ago, so I’m just letting you know that you’ve played a good part in my progess. Thanks.