I always associated terms of endearment with sexual harassment.
Perhaps its because I was born in the 70s and grew up in the 80s and it was the construct of the typical sexual harasser guy.
You know the guy.
The one who calls the waitress “Sweet Tits” or gives the secretary a smack on the ass as he says “Morning Toots.”
As I was growing up, I was taught that being that guy was the worst possible thing I could be.
So I did everything I could to avoid anything associated with it.
This included terms of endearment. Pet names.
As I got older, I became exposed to a broader spectrum of people. Gay guys. Liberated women. Trannies. People for whom it was comfortable to use terms of endearment.
They had no problem calling me Sweetie or Love or Girlfriend. And I enjoyed being called that.
And now, I believe it’s one of the best things you can do. I have no problem referring to any woman as Sweetie or Hon.
Even women I just met.
It really is an endearment and it endears them to me. It allows me to speak to them with a much sweeter tone.
What is your favorite term of endearment?
What about Princess?
And don’t forget Kitten.
There’s Love Muffin, Sweet Cheeks, Superstar, Rockstar, Cuddle Bunny, and Booboo.
There’s Precious, Hottie, Sugar Mama, Gorgeous, Sleeping Beauty, Monkey Buns, and Peachy Pie.
There’s Pudding, the classic Beautiful, Hot Stuff, Pooh Bear, Sugar, Angel, Tiny Toes, and of course Pumpkin.
Next time you text a girl or get on the phone with her, try calling her Sugar Mama and see what comes back.
You can’t say I didn’t warn you.