“Great changes are easier than small ones,” said Francis Bacon.

As a corollary, I would say that it’s easier to be good at something than to suck at it.

I started doing yoga recently. And man, it’s BUSTING MY BALLS. I suck at it. I’m taking the beginner’s class, but I think I need a remedial course.

It’s 90 minutes of pain for me.

Part of me wants to start to go 3 or 4 times a week, because I know if I get good at it, it will be easier.

When you suck at something you are always struggling. It’s always an uphill climb. Continue Reading »

Sexual harassment.

I always associated terms of endearment with sexual harassment.

Perhaps its because I was born in the 70s and grew up in the 80s and it was the construct of the typical sexual harasser guy.

You know the guy.

The one who calls the waitress “Sweet Tits” or gives the secretary a smack on the ass as he says “Morning Toots.”

As I was growing up, I was taught that being that guy was the worst possible thing I could be.

So I did everything I could to avoid anything associated with it.

This included terms of endearment. Pet names. Continue Reading »

People always say “just be confident.” But how do you get there? Carlos Xuma is an expert at bringing out inner confidence in guys.

He doesn’t just tell you what to do, he shows you how to get the confidence to carry it out.

Where does a guy start when he’s dealing with fear? How do you build up your inner game without sitting in your bedroom chanting mantras?

What is the most important thing that attracts a woman to a man? What is the biggest mistake guys make?

Find out how you can approach women so you don’t feel like you are going into “enemy territory.”

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Today we have a very special guest post from relationship advisor Eddie Corbano.

Approaching a Beautiful Woman.

Why is that the case?

What can a beautiful woman possibly do to an approaching man? Rip his head off? Not likely.

But I understand it. I once was there myself. It is a fundamental fear of rejection that dominates here.

An attractive woman has lots of power. Everybody is polite to her, wants to get her drinks, wants to be with her.

She is a status symbol. An indication of personal power. And she knows that.

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