I’ve been reading a pretty good book called The 4-Hour Workweek, by Timothy Ferris. He talks about some great concepts, one of which I’ve been thinking about for the last ten years.
I have a “day job” where I do computer network engineering for a publishing company. I’ve been in this position for the last eight years. The same exact position.
A year or two after I got hired there I started interviewing at other companies, mostly in order to get more money and move up the food chain. I got offered a job making A LOT more money.
But they also said I would be working up to 50 hours per week.
My current job is pretty nice. Relaxed. I work about 35 hours a week and oftentimes I have enough time to do other things, like update my blog.
I decided not to take the job. Because what’s the point in working crazy hours for more money if you won’t have time to enjoy it?
In The 4-Hour Workweek, Ferris describes the New Rich. And I like what I hear.
It’s not about having loads of money, fast cars, huge houses and a yacht. It’s about having Time and Mobility. It’s about taking “mini-retirements” every three months to travel the world.
And you can do this with a lot less money than you think. You can truly ENJOY your life instead of working 35 years like a mule at a job only to wait for retirement, having used up the best years of your life.
A great question to ask yourself is “If I had ten million dollars in the bank, what would I be doing right now?” And why can’t you do it now?
So I’m thinking about becoming vagabond. I’ve been selling a lot of my possessions on eBay. And it’s been so liberating.
But that’s not the point of this post.
I was also thinking about my motivation. Another great question you could ask yourself is “If I were dating all the hottest women I could ever possibly want, what would I do with my life?”
It’s a question that’s become more of a reality to me lately. I’m not saying that I could get any woman in the world in any situation, but I have gotten to the point where I know I could date as many hot women as I want.
I’ve done it.
And it’s all about going out there and getting it if I want it.
As much as I know that I could go to the gym and workout my bicep to get bigger muscles, I know I could walk out onto the street and have as many women in my life as I want.
I caught myself for a moment this morning, thinking how I used to think. It went something like this:
“I wonder if women would be more attracted to me if I became a world traveler.”
And it made me laugh because I used to think like that all the time.
I used to think about myself as a good catch. I used to wonder about all the things I could do that would make me a better catch: become a DJ, go to the gym, have a great career, live in a cool apartment in a great location, make lots of money, get a cool haircut, go to great parties, etc., etc.
There are about 1001 things you could do to make yourself a “better catch.”
I am all about improving my life. I am all about becoming a sexier guy. But my life is a lot less governed now by the thought that whatever life decisions I make, I will become more or less attractive to women.
Because I know that whatever I decide to do or be, I can meet and incorporate beautiful women into my life.
Whether I decide to live as a fisherman off the banks of Rio.
Or be a starving artist in the heart of Berlin.
I’ll have women in my life.
Because I know what attracts women, I don’t have to change my life to attract women. I AM a sexy guy. There is no more guesswork involved.
Having this in my life has provided me with unprecedented clarity. I still want to have a family at some point. I still think about being attractive when I go out and buy a pair of jeans.
But it’s not going to be about getting that great job or house first, or doing things that will make me as a person a better catch.
I don’t need to be a better catch any more. I’m a great fisherman. That’s so much better.
Look around during your day. See the hottest women out there? Do you know how to attract them if you want?
If you don’t know how to walk out your front door and meet the women you want to meet, you can learn. It’s time to put the control in your hands. Time to stop worrying about being a great catch and instead become a great fisherman.