I haven’t had a date in sixth months, I just realized. I’m going through a dry spell, I thought to myself.

I was 27 years old, living in New York City and I hadn’t kissed a girl in what seemed like forever.

It sucked, but it wasn’t a big deal, I told myself. It will happen for me. And I knew how.

I’m a rock star. Or at least I would be. Women are drawn to passion was my mantra. I was passionate about music. I loved what I was doing. It gave me pleasure. Follow your bliss.

I am an ambitious person. And there are some very important things to me. At the top of the list was music. But there was something else there, possibly even more important than music. Continue Reading »

The first time I did it, it was an accident.

I had gotten off the subway and I was walking home from work. There was a really sexy girl walking on the sidewalk about 20 feet ahead of me.

Really sexy.

I watched her walk and considered talking to her.

Then my phone rang.

It was a girl who I’d met the other day. I was excited to hear from her.

“Hey!” I say into the phone. I was excited and smiling.

The girl ahead of me spins around. She thought I was talking to her. She soon realized I was speaking on the phone and turned back and kept walking.

But I had a realization at that moment. Continue Reading »

This last weekend I was in San Francisco. A group of us went out at night. One of my friends brings his girlfriend. And the girlfriend has a friend along.

We’re all hanging out drinking, having fun, talking to people out at bars. Eventually I make my way over to her. I sit down next to her and start talking to her, bantering a bit, just having fun.

She’s not having any of it.

My game was on, and I wasn’t intimidated by this girl. I could tell it was something else. This would have been a great opportunity to use something I’ve been doing lately.

When a girl is only minimally interacting with me, not giving me enough attention while I’m talking to her, I’ll say something like “You’re losing me.” and walk away from her.

It’s a bit harsh, but if I come back later, they’re usually more receptive.

But I didn’t.

Why? Continue Reading »

You want to improve. Your desire is strong. You’re driven. That’s why you’re here.

You weren’t happy with what you had in the past. But mostly, you weren’t happy with yourself.

You found a way to tap into yourself. You found a path to improvement.

You thought that it wasn’t possible before. Perhaps you spent a lot of time feeling sorry for yourself.

But now things are different. You realize you can actually change yourself. You can speak to people you didn’t think you could speak to. You can learn and grow.

And not just theoretically. Continue Reading »

I’m good at making people feel comfortable. I’m a caring person. And sensitive.

When I’m speaking with someone, I can tell if things are comfortable or if there’s tension in the air.

I’ve gotten good at making strangers feel comfortable in my presence. It didn’t used to be that way. I used to be very nervous around strangers.

Now I can walk up to almost any girl and can engage her. Often she’ll engage me back. I’m good at bringing that interaction to a comfortable place.

Sometimes, though, this tendency has a the effect of making the girl lose attraction for me.

“So what,” you might say, “if I’m nice to a girl and she doesn’t like me because of it, then fuck her. She’s probably insecure if she needs a guy to be an asshole to her.”

I would like to agree. But I can’t. Continue Reading »

Out of the archives comes this interview with one of the most enigmatic and and imposing figures in the seduction community, the legendary Brad P.

Brad is one of the most aggressive guys out there when approaching women. To see the success he gets is mesmerizing. Yet he started with a lot of social anxiety, shame and hang-ups about himself.

Brad was the first guy that took me out in the field almost two years ago. This never before released interview was recorded a few months ago and provides fantastic insight you won’t find anywhere else.

Brad reveals breakthrough methods of handling approach anxiety and some foolproof openers. He talks about how it’s possible to develop courage and achieve permanent change in your life.

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Today’s post is brought to you by one of my first coaches and one of my favorite people, Daniel Johnson (see Daniel Johson Loves You for more!)

Super Mario Has No Fear
By Daniel Johnson

I’m gonna give you a simple analogy that you should all be able to relate to Video Games!

No, I’m not saying that meeting women is like playing video games — hell no!

Meeting women is a beautiful organic and spontaneous process that should be full of life and humanity. That’s not a video game, so don’t even go there.

I’m talking about the challenges of your own inner demons. I’m gonna take a second to compare your approach anxiety to a Koopa Troopa of life.

Let’s imagine a little kid inside of you playing video games. Video games are fun for a reason. And, beyond fun, for many they are even addictive. Kids simply get hooked. Continue Reading »

One of the things I’ve been thinking about lately is how little I enjoy bars and clubs for meeting women. I see that as a challenge, so part of me wants to take it on.

And it’s a great place to practice approaching LOTS of women in a very concentrated place where everything’s dark, everyone’s drunk and nothing really seems to matter.

But these places just really start to bore me. And I get tired and I just want to go home and go to sleep.

It’s tough to have fun when I’m bored and tired. And women can tell when you aren’t having fun. If I’m dancing it’s another story. I actually enjoy myself.

But just hanging out trying to talk girls who are partying just doesn’t do it for me anymore. Continue Reading »

(From Found Magazine)