Comments on: Why the Nice Guy Fears Approaching Women

By: Mickey

Mickey — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 06:10:01 +0000

I’m not sure that fear (as in being scared) is the issue here. As I see it, women typically (for whatever reason) portray themselves to be unapproachable. If that’s the general premise, then I believe that an attempted approach would probably be met with rejection & psychological smackdown. I think that if one sees that kind of result coming, one might be inclined to just leave it alone and save himself some more aggravation.

I think that this dynamic is more a product of some guys who are too demoralized want to run the gauntlet one more time (yes, that’s me; I admit it).

In my humble opinion, I see this as cutting one’s losses after too many failures, which is decidedly different from being scared, or feeling dread, foreboding, or angst.

By: Concerned

Concerned — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:15:13 +0000

Sad how some people commenting like to muster up knee-jerk responses and gang up on others for simply having an opinion.
Anyhow, i personally appreciate the author’s insight into the matter.

By: kastor

kastor — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 13:04:13 +0000

great post,keep up the good work :D

By: sam

sam — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 14:06:31 +0000

Nice post Eric. I know I’m not the nicest person, but when it comes to a girl I’m infatuated with I try to show her a completely different me. I will def keep this in mind and learn to risk it more.

Thank You.

By: Abir

Abir — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 16:15:51 +0000

i was too a nice guy. Being nice guy is not a bad thing but being shy is a huge setback for approaching girl. So, I took some steps to get rid of my shyness & be popular to girl & I succeed. Watch the videos in youtube, you will too be lucky like me.

By: Lee

Lee — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 17:52:31 +0000

@dave No one who regularly posts on this site wants you to quit. There are a few coaches who occasionally post here for whom coaching is a primary source of income. The rest of us post here because we went through a transformation that we want other men to experience as well. Nothing makes us happier than a success story. With that in mind, let me ask you where you failed? Were you able to approach women and start conversations? Or was that something you couldn’t do? –Lee

By: Scott

Scott — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 05:08:56 +0000

Dave, are you trying to get with her mom? Further why did her mom like you? Perhaps its because she doesn’t see you as a threat…hence not likely to get her dear daughter to give it up ya know? What do I know, hell maybe your “don’t give a shit attitude” will work better for you. Fortune favors the bold man get out there and live.

By: "Ignorant" Dave

"Ignorant" Dave — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 02:55:35 +0000

I am (was) the guy that the mothers all LOVED,but the daughters had no use for me ( no not a woman beater,I never got close enough),
since I never got very far and was tossed out of the “game”. I never had
anyone one to fail. There must be an “in between” in there somewhere, and I applaud both Lee and Scott for trying to find it. I just ran out of effort for what still seems so impossible.
Since I gave up the pretense, I am much happier and just live my life,and I have heard all of the labels. Good luck,though!