I was lucky enough to have Eric a.k.a. Disco as my coach for Art of Rapport in Chicago.
Disco was also my coach at the Art of Attraction workshop. Besides being a highly skilled PUA and an excellent teacher he is simply a great guy and someone I now consider a friend.
I can be pretty damn good at bars and clubs when I’m in the mood, but I lacked a strong skill set specifically geared towards success at approaching women during the day.
My lack of experience meeting women while sober during the day resulted in my lack of confidence and uncertainty about exactly how to go about approaching successfully during the day.
I had quite a few successful direct and indirect approaches during my Art of Rapport weekend, and of course some frustrations and inner struggles too.
The tipping point for me, the moment when all my internal switches turned on and I realized “I CAN DO THIS!” was late Saturday afternoon when Disco pointed to a super hot girl, probably a stripper, who walked by us while talking on her cellphone.
Disco said “Go open her!”
I hesitated: “She’s on the phone dude, that’s rude!”
He looked at me again and said “Do it!”
I resisted and Disco said “Fine, then I’ll do it” and took off running after her.
I turned to the other student and said “Dude, she’s gonna tell him to fuck off, watch.”
Not only did she NOT tell him to fuck off, but she closed her phone and I could see that she totally LIT UP LIKE A CHRISTMAS TREE while excitedly talking to him.
They talked for 10 minutes and Disco came back with her phone number. She texted him later that evening.
I couldn’t believe it. I was determined not to go back to the seminar room without attempting the same thing. If he could do it, then I can do it too.
My opportunity came about 15 minutes later while we were walking back towards the hotel. An unbelievably gorgeous blonde, golden tan, incredible body, walked by talking on a pink cell phone while. This chick was an 11 in my book.
As I watched this magnificently flawless thing of beauty walk past me I knew what was coming next.
Disco took one look at me and said “GO!”.
As I came about 10 feet behind her I felt like I was in the zone, no approach anxiety, no fear, nothing.
I totally believed what I was going to tell her so I KNEW I couldn’t fail.
I gently touch her arm and she turns while still on the phone. She was even better looking up close.
I couldn’t help but say with a big smile on my face: “Excuse me, but I was walking with my friends when I noticed you pass me, and I just had to come tell you that you are unbelievably cute!”
She clicked her phone shut without even saying goodbye to whoever she was talking to. She lit up like a Christmas tree.
“Oh my god! That is the nicest thing anyone has said to me all day! That is so sweet, thank you!” she said while holding onto my hand and squeezing.
She continued to hold my hand as we vibed for a few minutes. I found out that she was a hair model in Chicago from Houston on a shoot. I got into some wide rapport but I didn’t ask for a date or number because I was too blown away by what just happened:
While sober during the day on a busy street I opened a drop-dead gorgeous girl talking on a cellphone while walking away from me and not only did I make her smile but I made her day!
Before we parted she once again told me that she loved me for totally making her day while still holding my hands and squeezing.
I just want to thank my coach Disco for shattering my reality by showing me what is possible. Since the weekend I’ve done another direct approach on a girl whom I consider to be a perfect ten and it went very well, as well as a number of indirect approaches.
Art of Rapport, with Disco as my coach, was definitely one of, if not THE, best personal growth courses I’ve ever had the good fortune of experiencing.
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