Comments on: Speak With More Confidence Using Less Filler

By: Jean-Luc LeGame

Jean-Luc LeGame — Sat, 03 Mar 2012 09:02:12 +0000

A confident man’s silence is more captivating than a nervous man’s “um”s and “uh”s.

By: TAllagash

TAllagash — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 04:35:09 +0000

filler words and “If the woman you are talking to is moving less than you, you come off as a child to her parent.”

Dynamite. one of the best posts on game i’ve read in a long time. get rid of these telltale signs of nervousness and your success will increase, all other things being equal

By: Socialkenny

Socialkenny — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 19:55:41 +0000

I know this post’s extremely out-dated,but it’s relevent.
They’re many filllers:like,well,so…,in the black community-you know what Im saying?

By: george smith

george smith — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 23:50:55 +0000

I agree wholly with mr dragonclaw. touche.

By: UntitledAuthor

UntitledAuthor — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 03:12:54 +0000

This would be a big problem for me because I say like a lot, even when I’m not nervous and in my most comfortable environment.
I think you can get away with it if you don’t really emphasize the “like”. One of my friends says it almost as much as I do, but he really emphasizes it, which makes it more noticeable and annoying.

By: TC

TC — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 07:46:59 +0000

Great post mate. I have found with everything you learn more from your mistakes then, when you are getting it right all of the time. I had approached a girl a while ago and she was on the move so I had to try and use my body language to draw the conversation to a halt and like you with the above example she was not having it. So i walked with her big, big mistake that is one of my big no no’s because i don’t want to look like some mut following her desperatly. In most situations I can stop them but this time I was out of luck, but i know it was a combination of voice tone, body language so I learnt a lot from that one.

By: Dragonclaw

Dragonclaw — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 14:03:12 +0000

Eric you make some great pointers when it comes to using pointless filler. I very rarely say “um” in conversations but I have had a habit with saying “like” alot and “so”. I think to some degree people use filler to fit in. They think it makes them appear more socially cool.

Im sorry but I’m going to have to argue something which you said:

“moving your hands, or your stance, or any other part of your body, you are projecting nervousness and low confidence.”

I think it depends on “how” you’re moving. If you’re talking to a woman and you’re completely unanimated you will come accross as very boring and probably a bit creepy. Maybe when you’re interacting with a woman and she seems really stiff and uneasy it’s because you’re probably being stiff and uneasy. I think you have to convey a fun attitude through your behaviour. Im not saying nervous body movements, I mean expressive body movements.